Hello Madam I am professionally qualified.Living with Wife,Mother(90 years old) and Sister,Sister is sizophrenic patient since last 30 years .Inspite of Doctors advise to shift her to Institution for rehabilitation my mother is creating obstacles from shifting her.My sister made our life miserable my wife is suffering without any of her fault.Myself and my wife is deciding to stay separately.Kindly advise
Ans: Dear NJS,
It is about time that you sat your mother down and tell her about the perils of having your sister at home; she can be a threat to herself and hence the doctors have advised keeping her in an institution for rehabilitation.
Obviously your mother will be unable to see one of her children being taken away from her and put into an institution; it's not easy on a parent's heart...request the doctor to appeal to her and things might get better.
On your part, I empathize with what you have gone through and yes, it may not have been your wife's fault being part of all this BUT your sister isn't in her place on purpose or doing anything wilfully! You should know that schizophrenia is a mental illness and it requires constant care and attention. So your sister isn't being or doing what anyone else who isn't suffering from this illness does...
Be patient and kind that you have been so far and do the right thing for the family and your sister. I am sure that you know what must be done, so don't waver now. Do what's right!
All the best!