I lost my wife to cancer in February 2023. I am 55 years. During my time of grief I was approached by one of her FB friend and we had been chatting since than. She is married and at time will share her family problems and issues. At times I am confused why and what makes her share her issues. I am confused. What should do.
Ans: Dear Rajiv,
I am so sorry for your loss and can only imagine the grief that you are going through.
Loss of a spouse or a loved one can be emotionally draining and it does take a while for the grief to dull...
And to feel better immediately any sort of temporary relief in the form of a friend and in your case a female friend may also complicate things...
You are emotionally vulnerable and also missing a woman figure in your life...it's too recent, your wife's passing...it is natural to seek some comfort in these chats for you perhaps and on her part, she possibly misses a good friend who can listen to her family problems and at this point in time, you are willing to hear her out. That's why it has clicked between the two of you...Two people; at at place seeking something that the other can provide.
I would suggest keep this to a good association in the form of a friendship that simply aims to support and care. Anything beyond this will complicate life for both of you...
All the best and as tough as things might seem now, focus on healing your heart...