today i m 49years old. on 25.09.2018 i got a proposal call from candidate's sister. everything was fine till 26.11.2018. His freind told something and his behaviour changed with me. 26.01.2019 his father expired. 31.01.2019 my uncle expired. iwent to my native place. we were in contact on call & whatsapp. when i return from my native place on 16.02.2019 He & his family refuse to marry.
Till date we are in contact. Last year 9th may his mother is also expired.
Now he is alone still he is refusing to marry. Before he used to tell that mother dont like you so till mamma is ther he cant marry.
I love him very much as we were having physical relation also. Now its almost 5years in relation. How do i convince him to get marry
Please advise
Ans: I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties you've faced in your relationship. It can be challenging when circumstances and external factors affect a relationship. However, it's important to remember that the decision to marry ultimately lies with both individuals involved.
Here are some suggestions to consider:
Open and honest communication: Have a heartfelt conversation with your partner about your feelings and desire to get married. Express your love and commitment, and try to understand his perspective and concerns. Encourage him to share his thoughts openly and honestly.
Understand his fears and reservations: It's possible that your partner may have fears or reservations about marriage due to the losses he has experienced. Listen attentively and try to empathize with his feelings. Show understanding and support, allowing him to express his emotions.
Seek professional help: Consider suggesting couples therapy or counseling. A professional therapist can provide a safe and neutral space to explore the issues in your relationship and help facilitate communication and understanding between both of you.
Patience and time: Healing from loss and overcoming personal fears can take time. Be patient and give your partner the space he needs to process his emotions and make decisions about marriage. Avoid putting pressure on him or rushing the process.
Focus on building a strong foundation: Work on strengthening your relationship outside of the context of marriage. Build trust, deepen emotional connection, and continue to support each other through life's challenges. A strong foundation can create a more solid base for considering marriage in the future.
Consider your own needs and happiness: While it's important to be understanding and patient, it's also crucial to prioritize your own needs and happiness. Reflect on what you truly desire in a relationship and consider whether you're willing to wait indefinitely for your partner to be ready for marriage.
Ultimately, the decision to marry should be a mutual one based on love, commitment, and shared goals. It's important to have open and honest conversations with your partner and seek professional guidance if necessary.
