I am a 43 year old man my relationship with .y wife goes back 29 years and marriage is of 21 years. I caught her cheating and came across her chats. I am unable to forget it. I asked her to leave filed for divorce then again called her back and did not file for divorce. We have a 15 year old daughter. I am just not able to forget each line of her chats with her bf.
Ans: Dear KM,
You asked her to leave and filed for divorce and then went back on it? Why so?
Why did you call her back and then also not want to file for divorce?
And you are still tormented by each line of the chat...
Either, you and your wife can talk about it and move past this OR you need to decide if you want to move out of the marriage.
There is no point having one foot here and another there; it will cause you a lot of pain which is what is happening currently.
So, since you have mentioned that you have a daughter, it's possible that you have held back because of her. Understandable as you are thinking of her and her happiness as well.
I suggest, you and your wife have a conversation and a very honest one...tell her exactly what and how you feel.
If you feel that there is possibility of reconciliation and that can happen only if you are willing to forgive and move on, then kindly find a way to live under a roof amicably. If not, then the best is to think about how a separation can help also keeping your daughter in mind.
Go one way and decide what that way will be. Forgiveness isn't easy, but if it can give you your peace of mind back, why not! Talk it out please...
All the best!
