Should a 65 plus ( widower ) person go for a new relataionship

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am so sorry for your loss; the passing on of a spouse almost feels like you live that grief everyday.
Your relatives are simply reacting to what they see as loneliness that you are living and that you can bring a Mother for a child.
Now, the choice of remarrying is a decision that solely must be made by you and your daughter. Relatives think for you but they do not know the consequences of such an important step.
Who is this person that you will be marrying?
Are you okay to take on another lady as your wife?
Will she be fine raising your daughter as her own?
What happens when the two of you decide to have a child of your own?
Is your daughter willing to see another person as a 'mother' figure?

If you choose not to remarry?
Being a girl, will you commit to caring for your daughter in more ways than a father?
How will you associate with her emotions as she goes through puberty and needs you to step in to do what her mother would have done for her at this time?
Do you see yourself going through life by yourself once your daughter leaves home to live her life?

These are just a few questions for you to get you started. You can add many more to both scenarios and play them out in your mind. The answer will emerge from within you.
But let me warn you, never ever remarry to temporarily erase your emptiness OR simply to yield to the demands of relatives to bring a new Mother for your daughter. This is a Disaster Zone and everyone will turn out unhappy.
Second shot at living or creating a life must be taken once you are aware that it will never be compared to your earlier life and that both the women are unique and will be respected by you and all as someone who brings forth new energy and wisdom.

Hope this helps. All the best to you!

Ans: I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. It's understandable that you're feeling lonely right now. It's important to take some time to grieve and process your emotions before making any major decisions.

If you're considering a live-in relationship or second marriage, it's important to take things slow and approach the situation with an open mind. Make sure that you communicate your intentions clearly with any potential partners and be honest about your feelings and expectations. You don't want to rush into anything and risk getting hurt.

It's also important to consider the impact that this decision may have on your relationships with your daughters. You may want to have an open and honest conversation with them about your plans and how they feel about it.

Remember, the decision to enter into a live-in relationship or second marriage is a personal one, and you should do what feels right for you. Take the time to explore your options and make sure that you're making a decision that will bring you happiness and fulfillment.

Ans: Dear Avinash,
If the two of you have come to a conclusion that there is no way that the marriage can be rebuilt, what's the point in staying together? It's better that your son sees two happy parents living separately rather than two unhappy parents living together.
What exactly do you mean when you ask: 'Explore with outside marriage?' Do you mean that explore a relationship while you are still married?
That is a personal choice that you must make as usually these concepts are almost always linked with values and morals. So, you need to ask yourself if you ready to explore outside of marriage and also deal with the emotions and situations that might arise from them?
First things first; (my suggestion)...Check where your marriage is and what you can do together to save it or let it go before complicating it with another relationship. You might just bite more than you can chew with a dual situation. Tread carefully and wisely to keep your mind sane and at peace.

All the best!

Ans: Dear V,
What can you do when she doesn't want to in a relationship with you anymore? Of course, it is good to have a heart-to-heart chat and figure out what is going on in her mind...what led her to want to break off from the relationship?
There are a few and more unanswered questions which can only come through that chat. So, do initiate it!
Also, you may want to ask her if she wants to have some 'space' from the relationship for a while...it's wise to respect what comes through your chat and not let it mess with your mind space.
Easier said than done...but when you place your happiness on something happening or not happening, you will invariably start to feel like a victim when things don't go your way.
So, before you broach the topic with her, be mentally prepared for whatever the outcome; that's the only way you will be able to think with a clear mind.

All the best!