My wife doesn't like my choice of gifts. If I buy a sari she doesn't like the colour. If I take her out on a lunch or dinner she will complain about the food. We have been married for 20 years and till date I don't know what makes her happy. If I ask she will say I don't love her. What is this? How will I know if she doesn't say what she wants. Im tired and confused what to buy for our anniversary next week

Ans: Hi!!
It is nice to know that he is contributing towards the fees of his children! Have you asked him how he is managing it?
The financial responsibility is on both the partners… it doesn’t matter who is at home and who is working. You sit across and discuss how much money comes in and how much money goes out. The how and why of savings for the future is also a joint venture!!
Now with this background decide whether it is enough if one of you works and the other manages everything at home. Segregate work, share responsibility.
Losing a job can be very hard on mental well being, then not finding a fulfilling job can worsen it.
Check whether your husband is truly unwilling to find a job or he has gotten comfortable/ lazy sitting at home.
I am sure you have been married long enough to sit across and talk lovingly with concern and care, and come up with solutions.
Please do not nag…
If nothing works, seek help of a professional!!

Ans: Hi!!

I can understand what you are feeling!!
The solution to your lack of trust cannot be solved in a jiffy or what I write here. Let’s sit across and find solutions together!
Let’s work together to make you confident and make you feel secure when it comes to relationships again!!
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Ans: Hi!!
This guy however he is … it’s his problem!
Like you said he is not doing anything wrong. We all need such ppl in the office to add colour to life, take it that way.
I can understand your frustration regarding
the noise levels in the office. Do put in a word about this to the office administrator, don’t go alone to report it… build consensus and three or four of you together to report about the noise levels.
If this doesn’t work then just try to use ear pods to cancel the noises!
Whatever it is let this person not affect your efficiency, don’t give him so much importance. Focus on your efficiency at work.
All the very best!

Ans: Hi!!
I can empathise with this whole situation at your home!
Let’s start tackling each issue that you have mentioned one by one…
1. There is surely a breach of trust here bfr marriage.. you did mention that your pets are an integral part of the family… you need to sit down and discuss this… find a common ground.This discussion is between you and your wife only.
2. Ask the in- laws to stay out of the discussion about how your family treats pets.
3. Take the pets out of the scenario and check the equation between you and your wife. How much value you attach to this relationship and each other? What lengths will both of you go to ensure that this partnership works?
If it’s a win - win situation, then sit down and chalk out a plan to make it work…
5. Both of you be part of solutions….ask her what was she expecting from you knowing that you are a pet lover and this was a precondition for marriage, yet she went ahead and got married to you…
6.There is no black and white solution here… I am also thinking aloud as I write to you…
After all the heart to heart talk… tell her that tying the dogs is not an option.. they are like children to you! Ask her to come up with solutions… tell her you want the marriage to work..you also from your end try to make her comfortable slowly get her used to the dogs, show her that they are harmless. The fear of dogs can be taken away slowly… consult a psychologist/ marriage counsellor to help you out if your efforts don’t yield results!
7. It’s been just 02 months. Both of you try to make the marriage work . You are both equally responsible for this marriage!!

All the very best!

Ans: Namaste
As your son got 85.92 Percentile in JEE Mains, Now followings Options are for to get Btech in CS Branch:

You can opt state counselling and some premier engineering colleges where JEE mains score is accepted.
You can see Some Government Funded Technical Institutes (GFTIs) for the admission
Pmium Private & Deemed Universities
Through AI All India quota you can secure admission in best colleges of Maharashtra like MIT WPU, VIT Pune, PCCOE Pune
In other state Deemed and private universiteis: Lovely Professional University (LPU), SRM University, LNM Institute of Information Technology Jaipur.
Jaypee Institute of Information Technology,Noida

Ans: Preference Order may be: (1) BITS Pilani M.Sc. (Dual Degree) @ Goa/Hyderabad (especially Physics > Mathematics > Chemistry) (2) BITS Pilani Chemical Engineering (Goa/Hyderabad) (3) BITS Pilani Mechanical Engineering (Goa/Hyderabad) (4) ECE @ Manipal (Main Campus, Manipal) (5) Top Telangana colleges through EAMCET (6) ECE @ Amrita (Category 2), even with possible Coimbatore upgrade (7) COMEDK colleges. The preference order/choice may be different for you due to many circumstances.

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Ans: For pure CSE interest, Thapar Patiala COPC offers a strong branch fit and excellent placements. VIT Vellore Category-2 is also a great option, providing quality education at a more affordable cost compared to higher categories. LNMIIT CSE is a good choice but still pending confirmation. With a BITSAT score of 232, admission is more likely in an MSc or lower branch rather than CSE. All the Best for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Ans: Arunajatesan Sir, VIT-AP is safer because of the confirmed CS-related seat, the VIT brand and centralized placements. At COMEDK 26,249, CS/AI/ISE may come only in mid-/lower-Karnataka colleges, not top Bengaluru colleges. At MET 20,430, expect mostly MUJ CS-related/lower MIT options, so use only as a backup. All the Best for Your Daughter's Prosperous Future!

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Ans: For a student who wants CSE first, ECE second, the preference order may be: BITS (if he gets) > RVCE CSE/ECE > MSRIT CSE / BMSCE CSE > Manipal Main Campus CSE > NIT lower branches through JoSAA

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