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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 02, 2026

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Asked by Anonymous - May 11, 2026
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Whenever I plan a family trip or even a simple one-day outing, my wife somehow ends up suggesting a temple visit as the main destination. I understand faith is important to her, and I respect that completely, but honestly I get a little frustrated because almost every trip starts feeling more like a religious visit than an actual break or vacation. Sometimes I just want to relax, explore new places, enjoy food, nature, or spend light-hearted time together without following a temple-focused schedule all the time. Even if I suggest a hill station, beach, resort, or short leisure drive, she'll usually try to include a famous temple nearby and make that the priority. After a point, I've started losing excitement while planning trips because I already know where the conversation will go. I don't want to hurt her feelings or disrespect her beliefs, but I also wish my idea of a relaxing holiday was considered equally important. How do couples balance different expectations like spirituality versus leisure when planning family outings?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Rather than having trips that cover only either/or, why don't you plan one that combine both...that way both of you are happy. Finish the temple visits first and then go and have a relaxed time by the mountains and oceans.
If this entails a long holiday and is hard to do, then have a conversation that you alternate between temples and leisure holidays.
There's always a mid-point, you know! And to accommodate each others' preferences is what makes for a happy holiday time...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
It does happen within marriages where over time, as one evolves during their journey, their interests may not match with one another...
It is possible that the two of you started the marriage liking and disliking similar things BUT your wife is possibly exploring her path.
Now, it obviously can be worrying as treading on different paths can make you distant from one another. But with a lot of sincere work put back into each other and the marriage, things can get better.
- understand and accept that there is nothing constant in life and everything is dynamically changing
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Arguing about why things must be a particular way will not make sense as that will only give her the necessary fuel to go further away from the marriage. Spiritual pursuits may not make much sense to you, but what if you actually took interest in how she looks at it and what she gains out of it. Genuinely being curious will only want her to get back home to you and share more with you and still be connected with you.
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My partner and I are from different cultural backgrounds. She has always felt a strong spiritual connection to events like the Kumbh Mela. Earlier this year, while booking the tickets she had asked if I would like to join her as she is travelling solo. While I respect her beliefs, I refused to join because I am not a religious person. Now that she has booked her tickets, I am worried about her safety. Should I tell her to cancel her trip? I don't want her to think that I am disrespecting her choices or religion. Or should I just tag along and make her feel safe? How do I address these concerns and have a healthy conversation?
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My wife's sister's husband has become very friendly with me over the last few years. We meet often at family functions and sometimes talk separately about our personal lives. In the beginning, I was comfortable sharing things with him because I thought we had a good understanding. But slowly, I feel he has started asking too many questions about my marriage and my relationship with my wife. He sometimes asks about our arguments, our private matters and how we handle things at home. At the same time, he also shares many personal details about his own marriage with me, including problems and things that I feel are too private. Sometimes I don’t know how to respond, because I don’t want to encourage him to discuss such personal matters, but I also don’t want him to feel that I am avoiding him or judging him. Because we are family, I am worried that if I suddenly create distance or tell him directly to stop asking personal questions, it could create awkwardness between both families. I also don’t want my wife to feel that I am hiding something from her or that there is some problem between us.
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Hi experts I am raising the query on behalf of my son:- My son is doing his Final BCom(F&A)with Christ Bangalore- Also completed CA-Inter and undergoing internship at Bangalore. My query is:- a.With B.Com-CA-Inter- what is the job scope in India? b.Any chance to get Overseas placements- If yes- which country is preferable and how to proceed for job search. c.Any further courses needs to be completed along with B.Com-CA-? Submitted for your kind perusal and advice please. Thanks Srikanth
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