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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 30, 2025Hindi
Relationship

My partner thinks working late is not good for girls. I mean, he works 9 to 12 hours every day but if I spend 2 hours extra to complete a deadline, he makes a big deal out of it. He thinks women should balance their time and focus on the family while it's okay for men to stay back late. He even goes out for drinks with colleagues after work because he has worked late, which I think is unfair. Why are rules different for women?

Ans: You need to ask him why are rules different for men and women - he should be giving you the answer. If he think the woman should be the only one balancing their time while the man can do as and what they like - and YOU are not OK with this school of thought then this relationship will reach a deadend soon. All the best.

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I understand that these conversations can be tricky to nail. First of all, I am sorry you have to go through this challenging phase. And it is valid to want to spend some quality time with your spouse. An open and direct conversation about the issue is the only way to deal with it. Choose the right time and place to address the issue. Don't bring up the topic as soon as he is back from office. He'd be tired and it would make you look like the bad guy even though the reality is far from it. Find a calm and private setting to discuss your feelings. Use "I statement" to express your feelings. For instance, don't say, "You make me feel lonely because of this time issue." Instead frame it like, "I feel so lonely because of the time issue." This way, he won't feel attacked and won't get defensive. Moreover, don't say, "We never spend time together," because this will be challenged with demands for example. Give concrete examples of instances when you felt neglected or missed out on quality time together. This can help him understand the impact his busy schedule is having on your relationship.

Now these are how you address the issue. There's more to it. You also have to acknowledge his perspective. If he says networking is important, it might hold some truth. Show him that you understand his commitments. This will make the conversation more cooperative than confrontational. Instead of merely complaining, come up with solutions and present them to him. This could include setting aside specific days or hours for family time, planning activities together, or finding compromises that work for both of you. Listen to his side of the story too. Let him express himself.

If none of these seem to improve the matter, I recommend seeing a professional for more structured support. Please understand that there's no shame in seeing a marriage counselor. It does not mean your marriage needs fixing or it's a bad marriage or it's falling apart. It simply means you need a little help to figure out certain arenas of marriage. We all do from time to time. Moreover, A neutral third party, who is trained on this specific subject, can provide better guidance and help facilitate productive communication.

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Sir - Kindly enlighten me whether SIP or onetime lumpsum investment is the best, while investing in MFs . Thank you.
Ans: It is good that you are thinking about the investment method rather than simply investing. The answer is that both SIP and lump sum have their place, depending on your financial situation and market conditions.

» When SIP May Be Better

SIP is suitable when you receive income monthly.
It brings investment discipline.
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It is particularly useful for long-term goals such as retirement, children's education, and wealth creation.

For most salaried investors, SIP is usually the preferred route because investments happen gradually alongside regular income.

» When Lump Sum May Be Better

Lump sum investing can be considered when you receive a large amount at one time, such as a bonus, inheritance, gift, retirement benefit, or sale proceeds from an asset.
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» Which Has Created More Wealth Historically?

Over long periods, markets generally move upward despite temporary corrections.
Therefore, when a sizeable amount is already available, lump sum investing has often produced better results than spreading the same money over many months.
The reason is simple: more money remains invested for a longer period.

However, this advantage comes only when the investor can tolerate market volatility.

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For monthly savings from salary, continue through SIPs.
For large one-time amounts, consider investing systematically over a reasonable period if market volatility worries you.
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SIP is not superior to lump sum in every situation.
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