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Dr Upneet Kaur is a medical professional and therapist based out of Amritsar.
After completing her bachelor’s degree in Ayurvedic medicine and surgery from the SKSS Ayurvedic College and Hospital, Sarabha, Punjab, in 2008, she worked as a medical officer at various multi-specialty hospitals in Punjab, handling both physical and mental patient care and clinical decision-making. She spent the next decade leading multidisciplinary teams at various levels.
Since 2022, she has been practising as a clinical psychologist and marriage counsellor.
Dr Upneet also holds an MBA in hospital management from Alagappa University, Tamil Nadu, and an MA in psychology from the Indira Gandhi National Open University.... more
Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2025Hindi
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My parents, married for 30 years now, yell at each other. My father keeps showing my mother down while she keeps playing victim card in front of me. I am emotionally drained since 10-12 years. Now I live away but I am too lonely now. I don't have any relationship outside, no good friends and close connection. Every friend I have are very selfish because of my achievements and stipend. My brother too is distant and doesn't care about anything related to family. He too loves separately. I am unable to keep my mental peace and constantly feel the need for someone. What should I do. I am a 25 yr old female currently into MTech

Ans: Hello mam. I understand your situation. Now as you live away from your parents, you are atleast physically away from them and doesn't have to listen to regular conflicts. You can convince your parents to take relationship counselling sessions in which they can discuss whatever problems they are facing. For you i would like to say is that don't ignore your parents but try to talk to them when they are in a good mood.
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