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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on May 23, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - May 23, 2025
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Hi Ms Kanchan, I am 46. Last year, I remarried a senior colleague I was working with after being widowed. My current husband has never been married before and lives with his aging parents in Delhi. I moved in with my two teenage children from my first marriage. Initially, his family seemed welcoming, but now his mother openly criticises my parenting, claiming my children are 'rude' and 'spoiled.' My daughter overheard her saying she doesn't want 'someone else's kids' in the house. My husband says I should ignore her as she's a bit conservative and old-fashioned. But when I go to work, I feel guilty for putting my kids through this. I am trying to build a peaceful home, but it feels like I am failing both my children and my marriage. Is it wrong to expect my husband to take a firmer stand with his parents, or am I rushing things in this blended family?

Ans: Your mother-in-law’s remarks are undoubtedly painful, especially when they affect your children’s sense of belonging. Teenagers need a safe emotional space, and feeling like outsiders can be deeply hurtful. It’s absolutely valid to expect your husband to help establish boundaries that ensure emotional safety for everyone, especially for your children, who didn’t choose this change but are navigating it the best they can.

At the same time, it’s worth acknowledging that this transition hasn’t been easy for your in-laws either. Their son married for the first time later in life and brought into their household a ready-made family. For people who may hold traditional views, this shift might be difficult to process—not out of malice, but out of fear, confusion, or even grief for the expectations they had. That doesn’t excuse hurtful comments, but it may explain the resistance. Sometimes, criticism is a mask for fear of change or loss of control.

Still, your husband plays a crucial role in this dynamic. You're not asking him to reject his parents—you’re asking him to support the family he has chosen to build with you. That means advocating for respect, clarifying boundaries, and ensuring that his home is a place where all members, especially children, feel emotionally safe.

Approach him with openness and care. Share how this environment is impacting you and your children—not in anger, but in vulnerability. Help him see that you're not looking to blame anyone, but to bring everyone into alignment with a shared vision of family—one that includes kindness, respect, and patience on all sides.

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Dear Anu, I have been married for 3 years. Everything is going well with my husband except there is one problem. If there is anything wrong done by his parents, he never takes a stand or protests.My in-laws are not very friendly people.After our marriage they have never tried to keep in touch with my parents or at least have the courtesy to invite once to their house. My parents have frequently tried to invite them and also tried to keep contact but nothing is achieved if it's one-sided. I told my husband about all this but he never ever tried to explain or correct them of their wrong doings.My mother-in-law had also insulted me few times raising questions on how I was brought up within the first year of our marriage. And later as well. I work and sometimes due to prolong working hours I am not able to contribute to household work. My mother-in-law started asking if at all I do any household work or whether I am always busy with my office work. She already knew that I would be working after marriage and was fine with it.Because of the lockdown we are staying with them for a long period and I am embarrassed to tell this but every day is killing me. When I stay with them I have to be a totally different person. I have to live their lifestyle which is totally opposite to how I used to live with my husband alone.Because of all the above circumstances, I am not keen on staying with them. I don't see a future where I can stay with them. I am ready to take care of them but can't stay under one roof. My husband is well aware of my feelings. But never does anything about it. Every time I tell him, he blames me that I don't want him to stay with his parents. Else he takes good care of me and is a good person. My parents also like him except this one complaint.I am totally clueless now how to make him understand because we end up fighting rather than discussing. In the long run I can't stay with my in-laws because our lifestyle doesn't match and of course the hurtful things they have done. They are not even ready to adjust rather would expect me to completely change for them. And that's what dreads me.I can't live in this way for long. It is causing me a lot of mental stress.Please provide your valuable suggestions.
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Dear SN,

Hasn’t the lockdown ended for a while now?

Why are you still with them?

What was the initial reason of moving in with them?

Does that reason still exist?

Being part of a joint/extended family system isn’t a cake walk; each person is unique and so are their thoughts and experiences and they will want the other person to live by their experiences and rules. But of course, an emotionally mature person would believe in giving space for another person grow and evolve and swim around the family dynamics. Well, it isn't the case here.

Why don’t you drop down a pros and cons list for When I move out and for When I stay here.

Weigh it down to its granular detail. Also, try and figure out why your husband is so against talking to them.

Sometimes, it maybe a minor adjustment that everyone needs to go through, but our movies and sitcoms have done enough damage to our minds where the drama looks never ending and where one party is to blame. Usually, the adjustment has to happen from both ends.

Bring this to a place where everyone gains, and everyone is happy. Maybe moving out is an option that you seek but will this go well with your husband and remember, he might do this for you, and in the long run in might end up blaming you for it. It’s complicated.

So, take time and work on the pros and cons, why your husband is against talking to them about this and also ask yourself: Have I done everything that I can to live joyfully under one roof?
You will have a path to your solution soon.

All the best!

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Hello, I am 38 years old. I have been living abroad since I was 21 years old. I have been focused on my career since then. I got married in 2021 in India and just after 4 months living in India, we again moved abroad. This country was new for me and my my wife, but my brother was already settled in this country with his family. As I was living away from my family for many years, me and my wife decided to live in a joint family with my brother’s family. However, I was quite busy adjusting to my new job, my wife couldn’t adjust well to my side of the family, my brother, his wife and my mother. After living together with everyone for a year, me and my wife decided to live separately from my side of the family. Now after 5 months my wife became pregnant and we both wanted to have a child. So even though my family was quite close and could have supported us during this time. I decided to sponsor my in laws on a visa so that my wife could feel supportive during this time. We had a girl child and I have avoided to communicate to my family during this one year so that my wife doesn’t get any stress or anything from my family. However as soon as we had a child, I have invited my mother and my brother family to visit my daughter. Now my in laws have started quarreling with me once in a while. And they convinced my wife to go to India with them. My wife has been living in India since last 6 months, they would never let me see my daughter over the phone call, and whenever I called them they would ask me for the money/gifts. Let me add to that when I went abroad, my wife was not working initially and I used to give her 30% of my salary and I used to bear all the expenses. When my in laws started living with us, I over heard them talking if I continued having relationship with my side of the family, she would buy her a home in India and take my daughter away from me. Now recently I came to India to get everything sorted, I do not think my wife would be willing to come with me without my in laws. How could I convince her to start over and repair our relationship for us and our beautiful daughter.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am sure you see a pattern in your wife's actions. At the risk of sounding judgemental, I will say: She does like to get her way in most things.
How else do you explain that when she is stressed keep them away and when she needs, she wants them back?
How can you expect to have support from your side of the family when you two decided to alienate them?
How does it work when she decided to stay back with her family with absolutely no regard that you as father will want to be close to your daughter?
How do you explain that they secretly conspire to take your daughter away from you if you involve your family?

Do you not see the immaturity of how they have very systematically alienated you from your family and your daughter?

To be able to put things together, your wife really needs to get away from her parents. They seem to hold the strings and have no qualms about spoiling their daughter's life...Bring her out of that family and move to a location that is not easily accessible to them; as in maybe back abroad, so they are not in and out of your home. Start building your relationship with your wife by being a hands-on father and that may also give her an idea as to the person that you are. You must be appreciated for the person that you are...Give this a shot!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Kanchan

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 28, 2024

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Hello Ma'am, I sincerely thank you for giving your valuable suggestions towards my scenario. I am here to tell you about a similar incident that happened with me again, just two days ago. This is a long story. After our first meeting with each other’s families, I discussed things openly with my boyfriend regarding our life in his joint family.He told me there are no restrictions as such and there will be almost no issues regarding privacy. I discussed the same thing with my parents and it somehow convinced them. My parents later on agreed for the marriage and invited his parents to my house to plan the engagement and wedding. However, when my parents met his parents again for the second time, they raised the similar concern regarding the major differences in their set of values and ours. I can give two prime examples - Example 1 - I was raised in a not so traditional, nuclear family and I never cooked a whole meal for a large group of people till date. Mine and my family's only focus was on academics and securing a good job. Whereas, the prime discussion of my boyfriend's family was to teach me how to cook and that too for an entire joint family. Example 2 - As my boyfriend has a 4 year old nephew (son of his elder brother), he is a naughty kid and would play around as he did in the first meeting. Half the time of the meeting was spent calming the child down, because the topic of my marriage was important so my parents invited ONLY my boyfriend and his parents to our house with the intention to discuss things without focusing on the child alone. When they came to our house, my boyfriend’s mother in a casual way told us that “our grandson is naughty but obeys his family” and told (pointing towards me) “that she would have handled him”. This also concerned my mother thinking that my boyfriend’s mother expects me to not discuss my marriage but rather handle the kid the entire time? Honestly, these things not only upset my mother but also my sister and extended family. She is heavily concerned about my well being in the family because of a heavy contrast in the expectations of both families towards life postmarriage. Now, I am in a dilemma as to what I should do. I do not want to hurt my boyfriend's feelings since we have been with each other for a long time. He also loves me deeply but I also know that my family is not wrong too. If possible , I sincerely request your suggestion. Regards, Tanya
Ans: Tanya, I can feel the weight of the dilemma you’re facing, and it’s a difficult place to be.
relationships don’t exist in isolation; they’re influenced by the families and cultures we are part of. Your family’s reservations are not just about his family’s values but how those values could impact your life, your autonomy, and your emotional wellbeing within the marriage. They want to ensure that you step into a life that feels aligned with who you are, not one where you might feel pressured to conform to expectations that don’t sit well with you.

The examples you shared highlight a contrast in priorities and lifestyles. Your upbringing focused on academics and independence, while his family seems to place a strong emphasis on traditional roles, such as cooking or managing a household. The comment from his mother about handling the child might seem casual on the surface, but it reflects an underlying expectation that could affect you in the long run. It’s not just about whether you know how to cook or manage children, but whether you’re ready to embrace the responsibilities they may assume are natural for you after marriage.

The key question here is whether these differences will feel manageable to you over time. Every marriage requires compromise, but those compromises should not come at the cost of your sense of self or emotional wellbeing. If there are already signs that these expectations clash with your own values, you need to consider whether you’ll have the space and support to negotiate these differences. Will your boyfriend actively advocate for your needs within his family? Can you see yourself thriving in an environment where the lifestyle and expectations differ so much from what you’re used to?

It’s also important to think about how this affects your family. They’re your strongest supporters, and their concerns are rooted in love for you. While they’ve approved of your boyfriend, their discomfort with his family’s expectations is valid. If they’re seeing red flags, it’s worth pausing to understand why. They don’t want you to lose the independence and opportunities they’ve worked to give you.

Take time to reflect on how you truly feel—not just about your boyfriend, but about his family and the life you would be stepping into. Marriage is not just a union between two individuals; it’s also a partnership between two families, especially in a culture where families are deeply interconnected. You need clarity about whether you’ll feel supported, respected, and valued—not only by your boyfriend but by the family you’ll be a part of.

Have another honest conversation with your boyfriend. Share your family’s concerns without blame, and ask him how he sees the future, especially in situations where his family’s expectations may conflict with your values or comfort. Does he see those moments as challenges you’ll face together? Does he have a plan for how you both can set boundaries and create a balance that honors your individuality?

Tanya, this decision is ultimately about your long-term happiness. Whatever you decide, let it come from a place of self-awareness, respect for your values, and clarity about what you need to feel secure and loved in your marriage. You deserve a partnership that nurtures your growth, honors your strengths, and creates a life where you feel truly at home.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 16, 2025
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Hello Sir, I want to redeem a mutual fund to reduce number of fund in my portfolio. This fund is of 5% allocation of my total portfolio and has not beaten the benchmark. I want to how to reinvest this redeemed amount to another MF, should I do SIP or lumpsum. Will lumpsum investment at current market effect the return or I should invest lumpsum without timing the market. My investment horizon is for 15 years. Also will this effect the compounding
Ans: You are thinking in the right direction. Streamlining your mutual fund portfolio is a smart move. Managing fewer, better-performing funds will help you get more focused growth.

You are planning to redeem a fund that has underperformed. That shows your awareness as an investor. Let us now look at the right way to reinvest the amount. Your investment horizon is long—15 years—which is an advantage.

Let us evaluate every angle in detail.

Why It’s Okay to Exit an Underperforming Fund
You mentioned this fund has only 5% weight in your portfolio. It has not beaten its benchmark. That’s a clear red flag.

Reasons to exit:

Fund not beating benchmark for 3 years or more

Fund manager or strategy changed

Poor consistency in performance

Other funds doing better in same category

Selling such funds is wise. It makes your portfolio clean and growth-focused.

One bad performer can pull down overall return. Removing it improves portfolio efficiency.

You made a good decision.

Where to Reinvest the Redeemed Amount
After selling, your goal is to reinvest in another mutual fund. Let us plan it properly.

You asked whether to do SIP or lumpsum. Both are useful, but must be used wisely.

First, identify where this money should go.

What type of fund should you choose:

If your existing fund mix is strong, add to an existing winner

Or choose a new fund with consistent 5-year and 10-year track record

Choose only actively managed funds, not index funds

Why avoid index funds:

Index funds copy the market without intelligence

They fall when the market falls. No protection

No chance to beat benchmark

Passive nature reduces wealth-building capacity

Fund manager has no freedom to select better stocks

Actively managed funds give you:

Expert decision-making

Freedom to shift between sectors

Better downside protection

Superior long-term results in Indian market

So always prefer actively managed mutual funds via regular plans.

SIP vs Lumpsum: Which One is Better?
Let us now come to your main question.

You want to know how to reinvest the amount. SIP or lumpsum?

Your investment horizon is 15 years. This is very long. So you can take equity exposure fully.

Still, timing matters when investing lumpsum.

Let us assess both methods side by side:

When Lumpsum Makes Sense
Lumpsum means investing full amount at once. It works in these conditions:

Market is already corrected or trading low

You are not emotionally affected by short-term falls

You will stay invested for full 15 years

You have chosen a good fund with strong past record

You don’t need this money for short-term goals

Benefits of lumpsum in long-term:

Full compounding starts from day one

Money is fully exposed to market

No waiting time, no idle money

Higher returns if market performs well after entry

But don’t forget, lumpsum needs mental stability.

What if market falls after lumpsum?

You may feel anxious

You may exit early due to fear

Short-term losses can affect your patience

That’s why timing does affect short-term performance. But not long-term growth if you stay invested for 15 years.

When SIP is Better
SIP is the habit of investing every month.

Even for lumpsum amounts, you can do STP (Systematic Transfer Plan).

STP means:

Keep the lump amount in liquid fund

Transfer fixed amount every month into the equity fund

Example: Rs. 50,000 per month for 6–10 months

Why STP is useful:

Reduces risk of market timing

Avoids investing entire amount at peak

Keeps you emotionally stable

Avoids regret in case of short-term correction

Creates smoother entry into equity

Use STP when:

Market is at all-time highs

Volatility is increasing

You are not sure about market direction

You want peace of mind during investment

So, STP is a balanced way to invest lump amounts.

Will Lumpsum Affect Compounding?
This is an important question.

Let us understand compounding clearly.

Compounding depends on:

Time invested

Return generated

Amount invested

Whether you do lumpsum or SIP, the key is how long money stays invested.

Lumpsum helps compounding start early. SIP creates compounding gradually.

In long term (15 years):

Lumpsum grows faster if invested at right level

SIP grows steadily but reduces entry timing risk

Both will give good results if fund is right

So yes, lumpsum helps compounding better if done at right time.

But STP gives you that benefit with safety.

You get smoother growth and still early compounding.

Ideal Strategy for Your Case
Let us now give you a proper, full-scope recommendation.

Step-by-Step Plan:
Redeem the underperforming fund.

Park the money in a liquid mutual fund (not savings account).

Start a 6-month STP to a high-quality active mutual fund.

Choose the fund after checking its 5-year, 10-year consistency.

Avoid new index funds or ETFs.

Use regular plans through Certified Financial Planner channel.

After STP ends, monitor that new fund every year.

This plan will:

Reduce timing risk

Start compounding early

Bring emotional comfort

Keep your investing smooth

Increase overall return stability

Additional Things to Keep in Mind
Since your money is being shifted, some more factors to remember:

Mutual Fund Capital Gains Tax Rules (Updated):

Equity fund LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%

STCG (below 1 year) taxed at 20%

These are recent rules. Plan redemptions smartly

Avoid frequent switches to reduce tax impact

Emotional Behaviour Risk:

Do not panic if market dips during STP

Do not stop investing after seeing short-term fall

Compounding works best when you do not interrupt

Yearly Review Required:

Check your fund’s performance yearly

Compare with peers in same category

Use this to decide future additions or redemptions

Work with a CFP to do regular health check-up of portfolio

Finally
You are thinking smart. Trimming funds and reallocating is a sign of maturity.

But always shift money with a goal and method.

Use these steps:

Avoid underperforming and index funds

Reinvest using STP into active mutual funds

Prefer regular plans with CFP guidance

Let money stay invested for full 15 years

Don't check NAV daily. Focus on yearly growth

Review fund quality yearly

Avoid timing the market too much

Stick with this method and your wealth will grow steadily.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Hi Sir, I m 34 year old and 2 year old child only and have question on investment if I m going on right path or not I have 8 mutual fund which is HSBC small cap (2000 monthly) parak parik flexi cap (1600 weekly) Canara blue chip (2000 monthly) uti nifty 50 index (5000 monthly) Motilal nifty microcap250 index (500 weekly) icici gold fund etf (400 weekly) Kotak emerging equity (4000 monthly) parak parik elss fund (2500 monthly) sip going on till date corpse become 11 lakh and i add more amount when market down. I have 3lakh in ppf and add more for 15 year and had 3 policy 1 is with hdfc year premium 36000 for 10 year will mature in 15 year as per market performance and will add bonus yearly by company. Second policy is with Canara hsbc where 136000 premium every year for 10 year and will mature in 20 year and it give assured return around 3700000 this is for my child i keep it and last policy with tata smart sip 6000 monthly. I have also nps account 50k yearly. Living in parents house so no tension for it. Monthly expenses 20k around. Pls suggest
Ans: You are 34, have a young child, and your investment journey has already begun. That is an excellent sign. You are thinking long-term, which is good. Let us now assess your strategy carefully and help you move towards financial freedom and child’s future security.

We will look at every component—mutual funds, insurance, PPF, NPS, and expenses—and create a complete 360-degree strategy.

Understanding Your Current Financial Snapshot
Let’s break down what you have done so far:

You have 8 mutual fund SIPs.

You invest in PPF and NPS yearly.

You hold 3 insurance-cum-investment policies.

You live in a family house, hence no EMI burden.

Monthly expenses are only Rs. 20,000.

You are saving a major part of your income. That’s a big strength.

Mutual Fund Investment Review
You are investing across 8 different mutual funds through SIPs. Your total SIP amount is high. That is very positive. But diversification must also be meaningful.

Let’s assess category-wise:

Positive Observations:

SIPs are active and consistent.

You invest extra when market falls.

You have mix of small cap, flexi cap, ELSS, large cap.

Portfolio value already reached Rs. 11 lakhs.

This shows discipline and commitment.

Concerns Identified:

Two funds are index funds.

Gold ETF SIP is ongoing.

Portfolio has overlapping and extra schemes.

Let us now address these concerns.

Problem with Index Funds
You invest in a Nifty 50 index fund and microcap 250 index fund.

But index funds have these problems:

No active fund manager to protect in bad markets.

No personalisation or research.

No performance difference in up/down markets.

Very high correlation across all index funds.

No flexibility to exit weak sectors.

You are better off with actively managed funds.

Benefits of actively managed mutual funds:

Expert fund manager takes sectoral calls.

Avoids weak-performing stocks.

Better long-term return potential.

More flexible and smart stock selection.

Please stop new investments into index funds. Slowly switch to active large cap, flexi cap, or hybrid funds through a Certified Financial Planner.

Problem with Direct Mutual Funds (if applicable)
If you are investing through direct plans, then:

Disadvantages of Direct Funds:

No one to guide during market fall.

Easy to panic and stop SIPs.

No regular rebalancing done.

Wrong asset allocation possible.

Risk of too much in one sector.

Why Regular Funds via CFP are better:

You get annual review support.

Your risk profile is considered.

Asset allocation is planned.

Emotional decisions are avoided.

You get personalised, ongoing advice.

Switch your investments from direct to regular mutual funds through a CFP-led MFD.

This small step improves your entire portfolio efficiency.

Keep SIP Count Lean
You hold 8 SIPs right now. This is slightly more than needed.

Ideal number of SIPs for you:

1 large cap

1 flexi cap

1 mid or small cap

1 ELSS for tax saving

1 hybrid fund for balance

Too many funds lead to overlap and tracking issues.

You can merge similar funds gradually. Avoid adding new schemes unnecessarily.

SIP Frequency and Gold Fund
You invest weekly in few funds. Also, you invest in a gold ETF fund.

Issues with weekly SIPs:

Difficult to track and manage

No major benefit over monthly SIP

Makes portfolio too spread out

Gold ETF issue:

Gold is not a growth asset

It only protects value, not multiplies

Fund value fluctuates with global news

Doesn't suit long-term goals like retirement or child education

Stop weekly SIPs. Convert to monthly.

Limit gold exposure to not more than 5% of your overall corpus.

Insurance Policy Review
You hold 3 insurance-based investment plans. These are:

1 market-linked ULIP type with Rs. 36,000 yearly

1 child plan with Rs. 1,36,000 yearly premium

1 SIP-linked plan from a private insurer

These are not term policies. Hence, these are all investment-cum-insurance plans.

Why these are not good for long-term:

Very low returns (5–6%)

High charges in early years

Poor transparency

Not flexible like mutual funds

Maturity amount is taxable if premium exceeds 5 lakhs in total

These funds will not beat inflation in long run.

Action Steps on Insurance
Please consider these steps:

Surrender these policies only if minimum lock-in is completed

Reinvest the amount received into mutual funds via SIP

Start a pure term insurance with high cover (at least Rs. 1 crore)

Don’t mix insurance and investment going forward

For your child’s goal, use child-focused mutual funds or hybrid funds.

Do not depend on these traditional insurance-based policies.

PPF and NPS Review
You are contributing to both PPF and NPS. This is a balanced approach.

PPF Status:

Balance is Rs. 3 lakh

Regularly contributing for 15 years

Tax-free returns

Safe and stable part of portfolio

Keep doing this every year.

NPS Contribution:

Rs. 50,000 yearly

Helps in extra tax saving

Invested in equity and debt mix

Partial withdrawal allowed after 60

You can continue contributing. But remember:

NPS maturity amount is partly taxable

Limited liquidity

Compulsory annuity purchase not needed now, but evaluate later

Continue both PPF and NPS as part of safe allocation.

Lifestyle and Expenses Planning
You live in a family house. Monthly expenses are only Rs. 20,000.

That’s a big plus. You can invest aggressively.

However, lifestyle cost will go up as child grows.

Prepare for:

Child school, college, coaching

Health expenses

Travel and family goals

Build a monthly budget and target-based investments accordingly.

Future Financial Goals – What to Do Next
You are young. Time is on your side. Here’s how to move next:

For Child Education
Use mutual funds instead of insurance

Start one child-specific SIP

Use hybrid or flexi cap mutual funds

Review fund yearly with CFP

For Retirement
Let mutual fund corpus grow for 20+ years

Avoid early withdrawals

Maintain SIP discipline

Don’t depend on PPF/NPS alone

Build large corpus with SIPs and bonuses

For Emergencies
Keep 6 months of expenses in liquid fund

Don’t touch mutual funds for emergencies

Health insurance for you and child is must

Finally
You are on a good financial path already. Your savings habit is strong. But to maximise your wealth, optimise the instruments.

Key Steps to Take Now:

Stop investing in index funds

Shift from direct to regular funds via CFP

Merge overlapping mutual funds

Review insurance policies and exit non-term plans

Start proper term insurance cover

Focus on child and retirement goals separately

Continue PPF and NPS steadily

Create an emergency fund in liquid mutual funds

Review goals once every year with a Certified Financial Planner

With this structured approach, you will create long-term wealth with clarity.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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I m 51 yrs old .I have FD of 60 lacs .Started SIP of 60 thousand .Have life insurance in LIC, HDFC,TATA Aig and Axis .Have PPF of 18lacs .Have invested in real estate .Now i want to plan a good retirement .How should i go
Ans: At 51, planning for retirement now is wise and timely. You’ve made disciplined choices already. Let's assess your current position and structure a 360-degree strategy for your retirement.

Your Current Financial Position
Here’s a simple summary of where you stand:

Fixed Deposit: Rs. 60 lakhs

SIP Investment: Rs. 60,000 monthly (recently started)

Life Insurance Policies: With LIC, HDFC, TATA AIG, Axis

PPF Balance: Rs. 18 lakhs

Real Estate Investment: Already made

Age: 51 years

You are on the right track. However, to ensure a smooth retirement, a structured and evaluated approach is needed.

Step 1: Understand Your Retirement Goal
Let’s think ahead 9 to 12 years. That is when you will likely retire. By then, you need:

A steady monthly income

Emergency medical funds

Funds for lifestyle, travel, and other goals

Protection from inflation

Your retirement corpus must give consistent income for at least 30 years after retirement.

Step 2: Evaluate Each Current Investment
Let us evaluate the strengths and issues in each of your current financial instruments.

1. Fixed Deposits – Rs. 60 Lakhs
FDs give safety but very low returns. Post-tax returns hardly beat inflation.

Issues with FDs:

Returns fall below inflation

Entire amount is taxable

No growth or wealth creation

Can’t support long-term retirement expenses alone

Suggestion:

Keep only 12–18 months of expenses in FD

Shift rest slowly into mutual funds through STP

2. SIP of Rs. 60,000 Monthly
Excellent habit. SIP is powerful. But we need to know:

Type of funds you are investing in

Whether they are regular funds through CFP or direct funds

If SIP is in direct funds, you may lack personalised review.

Disadvantages of Direct Mutual Funds:

No guidance from Certified Financial Planner

Emotional mistakes like panic withdrawals

No handholding during market falls

No periodic portfolio rebalancing

Hidden mistakes in fund selection

Advantages of Regular Funds through CFP:

Annual review and fund switch suggestions

Proper asset allocation based on your age

Investment aligned with your risk level

Right mix of equity and debt funds

Action Point:

Check if your SIP is through direct plans

If yes, move to regular plans via a CFP

Review funds and diversify as per your retirement horizon

3. PPF – Rs. 18 Lakhs
PPF is a safe, tax-free, and useful debt product.

Good points:

Tax-free returns

Secured by government

Acts as retirement cushion

However:

Interest is reducing over time

Lock-in is long

Not enough for full retirement income

What to do:

Continue with annual contribution

Use this for post-retirement safety bucket

Do not over-invest here

4. Insurance Policies (LIC, HDFC, TATA AIG, Axis)
Most likely, these are traditional or ULIP policies.

Problem with Investment + Insurance Plans:

Very low returns (5–6% only)

Long lock-in periods

Not inflation-beating

Complicated to track

What you should do:

Identify all policies that are not term insurance

Surrender them if minimum term is over

Reinvest that money in mutual funds via SIP/STP

Buy a standalone term plan if you don’t have one

Surrendering Policies? Yes, if these are:

Endowment plans

Money-back policies

ULIPs

You will benefit more if you surrender and reinvest carefully.

5. Real Estate Investment
You already have exposure here. Please don’t increase more.

Why not real estate?

Low liquidity

High transaction cost

Rental yield is poor

Maintenance cost rises with time

Cannot support monthly expenses

Action:

Hold current properties

Do not depend on them for retirement income

Don’t buy more for investment purpose

Step 3: Create an Ideal Retirement Strategy
Now let’s build your plan based on what you should start doing.

Ideal Asset Allocation for You
Equity Mutual Funds – 50% of corpus

Debt Mutual Funds + PPF – 30%

FD + Liquid Funds – 10–15%

Gold Funds or Sovereign Gold Bonds – 5–10%

This will balance growth and safety.

Keep SIP Alive, But Diversify
You must continue SIP. But it should be well-diversified.

Split Rs. 60,000 monthly SIP across:

Large cap and flexi cap mutual funds

Balanced advantage funds

Hybrid equity-debt funds

Low duration debt funds (for stability)

Review funds every year with a CFP.

Do not chase small cap or thematic funds at this stage.

Set Up a Medical Emergency Fund
Health issues increase post-55. Keep funds aside for:

Medical emergency

Hospitalisation

Health premiums

Steps:

Get a good health insurance with Rs. 10–25 lakh cover

Keep Rs. 5–10 lakhs in liquid mutual funds for health

Build Retirement Income Buckets
Break your retirement corpus into 3 buckets.

Bucket 1 (0–5 Years):

Liquid funds, short-term debt funds, FD

For monthly expenses after retirement

Should cover at least 5 years of cash flow

Bucket 2 (6–15 Years):

Hybrid mutual funds, balanced advantage funds

Grows moderately with limited risk

Will refill Bucket 1 when needed

Bucket 3 (15+ Years):

Pure equity mutual funds

For long-term growth and legacy

Will protect against inflation in later years

This approach ensures peace of mind and regular cash flows.

Consider STP from FD to Mutual Funds
You already have Rs. 60 lakhs in FD.

Don’t move it all at once

Use STP (Systematic Transfer Plan)

Transfer monthly into mutual funds over 2–3 years

Reduce risk and benefit from market averaging

Talk to a CFP to plan this properly.

Tax Planning in Retirement
You must know the tax impact on withdrawals.

PPF is tax-free

FD interest is fully taxable

Equity mutual funds – LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh taxed at 12.5%

Equity STCG is taxed at 20%

Debt funds taxed as per your income slab

Plan redemptions smartly to save tax.

Avoid These Mistakes
You are close to retirement. Avoid:

Buying more real estate

Continuing traditional insurance policies

Investing without reviewing

Taking advice from unqualified people

Putting all money in FD

Finally
You’ve taken important steps already. That deserves appreciation.

Now is the time to optimise, protect, and grow wisely. Retirement planning must cover:

Growth for inflation

Safety for market risk

Liquidity for expenses

Simplicity in portfolio

A certified financial planner can help you assess this every year.

Key Actions for You:

Shift from FD to mutual funds in a phased manner

Surrender low-return insurance policies and reinvest

Continue SIP with proper diversification

Build three retirement buckets

Keep health fund ready

Use regular mutual funds with guidance

Avoid direct and index funds for lack of personalisation and performance

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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