Hi I am married for 24 years. Our was a love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had to leave my father's house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have two sons who are now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelor status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife was also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In December 2024 I lost my job and came back to Mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically both of us are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like reconnecting with her physically and emotionally. But I feel like she is a changed person. She doesnt have any emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how to handle this situation. I want her back in my life.

Maybe the work of bringing up two children exhausted her or there was a hormonal disturbance that made her lose interest. But let bygones be bygones.

Now that she is trying to get closer, maybe you can also try to see what the two of you can do to rebuild the closeness.

Rather than jump straight to sex, create closeness step by step.

Spend quality time together, watch movies, engage in a hobby together, cook together…the fondness and affection outside the bedroom might help breaking the ice and you start to at least engage in an affectionate manner towards one another.

It is easy to walk out of a marriage but do remember what the reason to walk out will be?

After a few years, it might not been worth it at all…Why not at least give the above suggestions a try?

Engage as friends with no expectations from one another and let the purpose be a happy engagement just like the one we have with out friends.

You also have two daughters who definitely want to be in a loving family; so give this a chance and see if it works out. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain.