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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Dec 26, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 16, 2025Hindi
Relationship

Hi I am married for 24 years. Our was a love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had to leave my father's house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have two sons who are now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelor status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife was also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In December 2024 I lost my job and came back to Mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically both of us are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like reconnecting with her physically and emotionally. But I feel like she is a changed person. She doesnt have any emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how to handle this situation. I want her back in my life.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I suggest trying to connect with her emotionally first. You have been away from her for the better part of your married life. It does take a toll on the partner who is left behind to take care of everything back home. I’ll say start small; buy her small but meaningful things when you are coming back from the office; maybe some snacks she likes. Take her for a movie date, or a dinner date; ask someone else to take care of the kids. Plan a vacation together. A lot of problems dissolve naturally when people reconnect emotionally. If it still doesn’t work, I would urge you to have an open conversation and genuinely ask her what is missing in the marriage so that you can work on it. A happy and healthy marriage requires constant effort. I am sure she is worth it.

Hope this helps

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Hi Anu, I am 39 Year Old Male and My wife is 37 years old, we are married for 12 years. We have 2 kids (A Son Aged 9 Years) and a daughter aged (2 years). We had good and bad both times during 12 years of our marriage. However it was my anger on petty issues which lead to multiple quarrels over the period. Last month again we had fight and my wife left home without my or my family knowladge along with both our kids to my in-laws. During this 1 month of seperation i realized my mistakes and are ready to amend it, but my wife lacks trust now. We are not in touch since she has left as she has blocked my number and send me court notice of maintenance also (Ofcourse notice has lot of lies also). No i have understood my family's values and unable to bear such distance from both wife and kids. What my wife is thinking i dont know. Financially i have always kept her happy but due to my quarrels things have gone bad now. Please advice what should be way forward for me and what should i do to bring my family back. PLEASE GUIDE!
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Ego trips have divided the two of you considerably.
Seek the help of an elder member of a family who will act like a go-between and a mediator. He/She must be neutral and unbiased as well.
This helps in having a smooth flow in a conversation between you and your wife where both of you can our in your woes and also be clear on whether either of you want the marriage to continue or not. Also, take into account the children and their welfare as they are very young and any decision taken will impact them in one or many ways.
If this mediation fails, kindly seek the help of a marriage therapist/counselor even this means sharing 'stuff' with a total stranger. Most often that stranger will be the person to facilitate a smooth reconciliation if the couple also wants the same.

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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jan 07, 2026

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Hello Dr, I am married for 24 years. Our was love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had leave my fathers house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have 2 son who now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelors status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife is also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In Dec'2024 I lost my job and came back to mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically We both are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like to reconnect with her physically and emotionally. But dont know she is a changed person. She doesnt have emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how should I handle this situation. I want her back in my life.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I suggest trying to connect with her emotionally first. You have been away from her for the better part of your married life. It does take a toll on the partner who is left behind to take care of everything back home. I’ll say start small; buy her small but meaningful things when you are coming back from the office; maybe some snacks she likes. Take her for a movie date, or a dinner date; ask someone else to take care of the kids. Plan a vacation together. A lot of problems dissolve naturally when people reconnect emotionally. If it still doesn’t work, I would urge you to have an open conversation and genuinely ask her what is missing in the marriage so that you can work on it. A happy and healthy marriage requires constant effort. I am sure she is worth it.

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 31, 2026Hindi
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I have been married for 24 years, and ours was a love marriage. We have two sons who are now grown up, and for most of our married life, things were stable and peaceful between us. Over the years, like many couples, we got busy with responsibilities, work, children, and daily life. Slowly our emotional and physical connection started fading without us even realising it. For the past few years, especially after our children became independent, I have started feeling a sense of emptiness in our relationship. We live in the same house but hardly talk beyond basic daily conversations. There is no warmth, no affection, and we have not been physically close for a long time. Recently, when I tried to initiate closeness or even simple gestures like holding her hand, she seemed uncomfortable like I am some stranger. I was very hurt but I didn't react. I still care deeply for her and want to rebuild our bond. I don’t know if she has emotionally moved on, lost interest in the relationship, or if this is just a phase many long-term marriages go through. How can I win her back in my life?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Raising kids, family responsibilities and duties can somehow push the spark of marriage to a bare minimum and before you know it, the communication breakdown will make you believe that there the marriage is over. But it's far from over; in fact it's a wake-up call to RESET and plunge back into understanding why you married your wife and not just anybody else.
It's important to count on what you add to each other and value what you bring to the marriage. Once you neutralize it to a point where you are willing to put in the hard work necessary to reset the marriage, half your is done. Start with intimate (emotional) conversations and do things with one another. I always suggest date nights to bring back that fun and no-care in the world feeling, It can ignite a lot of passion back into the marriage. Start...

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jul 17, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 17, 2026
Money
Hi, I am presently earning a net salary of 85000 after my all deductions( HL EMI of 40000 and other statutory deductions like PF/NPA etc). My age is 40 years any my dependents are my wife and 2 children of 9 and 3 years. My monthly SIP contribution is 29000 spread across Large, Small, Flexi funds any I try to increase it by 5- 10% every year for the last 8 years. My present MF portfolio is of of 60 lacs with XIRR of 15%. My NPS balance as on date is 43 lacs and PF balance is 20 lacs. Monthly NPS is at 23000( including mine and employer contribution) and monthly PF 20000 ( mine and employer). I also have shares of approx 5 lacs and liquid funds of 10 lacs in FD for emergency. I have term plan of 1.50 crores. I will continue with my SIP for next 20 years till my retirement. I want to have a corpus of 30 lacs each for my both child for their higher education when they attain 18 years. I also want to have my retirement corpus of about 3 crs by 2046 so that my post retirement expenses are taken care by SWP. We have health policy for the family for 20 lacs. Will I be able to achieve my desired financial goals with my present investments. Or any rebalancing is required.
Ans: » Your Overall Financial Position

– You have built a strong financial foundation.

– Eight years of disciplined SIP investing is a major strength.

– Regular SIP increases every year have worked well for you.

– Your retirement assets are growing from multiple sources.

– You have a good emergency fund.

– Health insurance and term insurance are already in place.

– Overall, your financial journey appears well-structured.

» Assessment Of Children's Education Goal

– Your elder child is 9 years old.

– The higher education goal is roughly 9 years away.

– Your younger child has a longer investment horizon.

– A target of Rs.30 lakh per child may look sufficient today.

– However, education inflation is usually much higher than normal inflation.

– By the time your children reach college age, actual costs may be significantly higher.

– I would suggest reviewing this target every 2-3 years.

– If income permits, gradually increase allocations towards this goal.

– The longer horizon for your younger child works in your favour.

» Assessment Of Retirement Goal

– Your current retirement assets include mutual funds, NPS, PF and equity investments.

– The biggest positive is that contributions are continuing every month.

– You also intend to continue SIPs for another 20 years.

– Based on your current savings discipline, the retirement goal appears achievable.

– However, a retirement corpus target of Rs.3 crore by 2046 may be on the lower side.

– Inflation over the next two decades will significantly reduce purchasing power.

– Your actual requirement may be much higher.

– I would encourage you to periodically reassess the retirement target.

– It is better to build a larger retirement corpus than discover a shortfall later.

» Review Of Asset Allocation

– Your portfolio already has exposure across different equity categories.

– NPS provides additional diversification.

– PF acts as a stable debt component.

– Emergency reserves are adequate.

– There is no immediate need for major restructuring.

– Avoid frequent portfolio changes based on short-term market movements.

– Consistency is more important than chasing the latest performing category.

» Emergency Fund Review

– Maintaining around Rs.10 lakh in emergency reserves is a sensible decision.

– With home loan responsibilities and two dependent children, liquidity is important.

– Continue keeping emergency money separate from long-term investments.

» Insurance Review

– Family health cover of Rs.20 lakh is good.

– Review whether a super top-up can further strengthen protection at a reasonable cost.

– Your term insurance cover of Rs.1.50 crore is useful.

– However, with two young children and a home loan, it may be worthwhile to review whether the cover remains adequate based on current liabilities and future goals.

» Home Loan Consideration

– Continue paying the home loan as scheduled.

– Avoid diverting long-term retirement assets towards prepayment.

– If future bonuses or surplus cash become available, you can evaluate partial prepayments.

– Balance loan reduction with wealth creation.

» Areas To Focus On

– Continue annual SIP increases.

– Increase investments whenever salary increases.

– Review education goals every few years.

– Reassess retirement corpus targets periodically.

– Maintain adequate insurance protection.

– Stay invested through market cycles.

» Finally

– You are doing many things right already.

– Your disciplined SIP history, NPS contributions, PF accumulation and emergency planning place you in a strong position.

– The main area needing attention is not portfolio rebalancing.

– It is ensuring that your education and retirement targets keep pace with future inflation.

– Continue your current investment discipline.

– With regular investment increases and periodic reviews, you are well-positioned to achieve your financial goals.

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Jul 16, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 16, 2026
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Good Afternoon Sir, I need your guidance regarding my admission situation. I scored 77 percentile in JEE Main and 95 percentile in MHT CET. Unfortunately, I got a compartment in CBSE Class 12 Chemistry, so I am currently not eligible for MHT CET CAP rounds or JEE-based admissions. As a result, my current percentile scores are of no use this year. My compartment examination is scheduled for 28th July, and I am confident that I will clear it. Given this situation, I wanted to ask: - Should I take admission in a below-average college that is still available after clearing the compartment? - Or would it be better to take a one-year drop, prepare again, and aim for a much better college next year?
Ans: I could have given a more accurate response if you had also shared your 12th Grade Maths and Physics marks. However, based on the information provided, I want to remind you—in case you are not already aware—that you need to ensure a score of at least 75% or be in the top 20 percentile in your board exams. Scoring above the 96 percentile in JEE 2027 will be extremely challenging but not impossible based on your JEE 2026 performance. Your MH-CET performance is good and can be further improved with focused preparation over 7-8 months. The large disparity between your JEE and MH-CET results is unclear to me. To answer your question, I suggest considering a drop year to prepare well and strategically for both exams. Additionally, it is advisable to have at least 8-9 backup options apart from JEE and MH-CET, such as COMEDK, PERA-CET, VITEEE, AEEE, SITEE, etc., and/or register with some reputed colleges that accept your Board Exam or JEE scores. All The Best for Your Prosperous Future!

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