Hi I am married for 24 years. Our was a love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had to leave my father's house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have two sons who are now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelor status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife was also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In December 2024 I lost my job and came back to Mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically both of us are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like reconnecting with her physically and emotionally. But I feel like she is a changed person. She doesnt have any emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how to handle this situation. I want her back in my life.

Hi Anu, I am 39 Year Old Male and My wife is 37 years old, we are married for 12 years. We have 2 kids (A Son Aged 9 Years) and a daughter aged (2 years). We had good and bad both times during 12 years of our marriage. However it was my anger on petty issues which lead to multiple quarrels over the period. Last month again we had fight and my wife left home without my or my family knowladge along with both our kids to my in-laws. During this 1 month of seperation i realized my mistakes and are ready to amend it, but my wife lacks trust now. We are not in touch since she has left as she has blocked my number and send me court notice of maintenance also (Ofcourse notice has lot of lies also). No i have understood my family's values and unable to bear such distance from both wife and kids. What my wife is thinking i dont know. Financially i have always kept her happy but due to my quarrels things have gone bad now. Please advice what should be way forward for me and what should i do to bring my family back. PLEASE GUIDE!

Hello Dr, I am married for 24 years. Our was love cum arranged marriage. But within 3-4 months of our marriage we had leave my fathers house due some dispute between me and my father. We shifted to a rental home. We have 2 son who now grown up. Our family life was good. In the year 2019 I got a job in Kenya. I was working there on bachelors status. My family was staying back in mumbai and wife is also working. I visited my family very year for a month on holiday. In Dec'2024 I lost my job and came back to mumbai. I was jobless for 6 months. Since July I have started working in a small firm for survival. Physically We both are not active since 4 years. Now I feel like to reconnect with her physically and emotionally. But dont know she is a changed person. She doesnt have emotions for me. If I try to even touch her she gives me a scary look. Please tell me how should I handle this situation. I want her back in my life.

I have been married for 24 years, and ours was a love marriage. We have two sons who are now grown up, and for most of our married life, things were stable and peaceful between us. Over the years, like many couples, we got busy with responsibilities, work, children, and daily life. Slowly our emotional and physical connection started fading without us even realising it. For the past few years, especially after our children became independent, I have started feeling a sense of emptiness in our relationship. We live in the same house but hardly talk beyond basic daily conversations. There is no warmth, no affection, and we have not been physically close for a long time. Recently, when I tried to initiate closeness or even simple gestures like holding her hand, she seemed uncomfortable like I am some stranger. I was very hurt but I didn't react. I still care deeply for her and want to rebuild our bond. I don’t know if she has emotionally moved on, lost interest in the relationship, or if this is just a phase many long-term marriages go through. How can I win her back in my life?