Hi i m loving a divorced man and my parents are against it and they are emotionally blackmailing me and making me feel guilt and shame . I m anxious and stressed about this . How can I overcome this?

Ans: Addressing your parents' concerns about marrying a divorced man requires open communication and understanding. Start by having an honest conversation with them, explaining that you've carefully considered his past and believe the divorce was not his fault. Emphasize his positive qualities and how well he treats you.

Acknowledge their concerns about societal stigma, but gently challenge these perceptions. Highlight that successful second marriages are common and that his past does not define your future together. Encourage them to get to know him better, as personal interaction can help change their views.

Legally, there are generally no obstacles to marrying a divorced person, as long as his previous marriage is legally dissolved. Ensure all necessary paperwork, such as the final divorce decree, is in order. Consulting a lawyer can provide clarity and ensure all legal requirements are met.

By combining open communication, education, and personal engagement, you can help your parents see the strength of your relationship and work towards gaining their support.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
How old are you now?
And just to protect you, your family will find it hard supporting you on this decision.
How is your relationship with the first boy now? Is he aware of your second relationship? Does the first boy also want to be married to you?
There was a reason why the two of you had broken up, has that reason now been eliminated?
All these questions must be answered before you make a decision to marry the first boy and only after that can you have an sort of debate with your parents on the decision. Obviously, they are concerned for you and what you have gone through and hence feel that who they choose for you will be the best for you...
So, to have them on your side, you need to work on the above questions and also make sure that you have a future with the boy and that you can take care of yourself. This involves a lot of work...

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Ans: Dear Sirisha,
First, you need to get your independence back—both physically and financially. Being kept at home against your will and cut off from communication is a form of confinement. If you feel unsafe or unable to leave freely, you have the legal right to seek help from the police, women’s helpline numbers, or local women’s support organisations. In India, the law recognises your right to choose your partner once you are an adult, and your parents cannot legally stop you from working, studying, or marrying someone of your choice.

Second, you should try to quietly gather your important documents (ID proofs, educational certificates, job-related papers) and contact trusted friends, colleagues, or relatives who can support you. Once you have some safe place to go, you can work on getting your career back on track—either by rejoining work or preparing for your exam.

Finally, you need to decide whether you want to continue trying to convince your parents or take steps independently. Some families change their stance once they realise you are firm and financially independent, but in many cases, waiting for their approval just keeps you stuck.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Parents can seem unreasonable with their demands on who their grown up children must marry. They not only come from a place of love but also rigid beliefs which is what is happening in your case where your father does not want to even give you a chance to share more about the person that you have chosen for yourself.
Emotional blackmail makes matters worse; now what can you do?
You can ask an elderly person from the family (someone older to your father and someone that your father respects) to talk to your father...talk to your mother and keep telling her about your partner and possibly when she meets him, she might be able to talk to your father about it.
Make your attempts and see where it lead you to.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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