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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 19, 2026

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 06, 2026Hindi

Relationship

Is a joint family better than living separate? My boyfriend is a Gujarati who has always lived in a joint family. He is 32 and they do business together as a family. That's a tradition for over 80 years now. Every one has separate rooms, businesses. But they prefer and try to have one meal together. I am 27, an MBA from a Tamil family. I have cousins and grandparents but we have always been a nuclear family travelling betweeen Mumbai and Pune. I have a younger sister who lives with my parents in Pune. I find the concept of joint family too overwhelming. I am okay to meet them during festivals but living in the same house with so many people is making me uncomfortable. I love my BF so much that I might just agree to make him happy but deep inside I know I will regret the decision. I feel it is so unfair that I have to choose between following his tradition and my comfort and peace. He doesn't mind if I eat non veg outside the house. There are no other discomfort or disagreement areas apart from this. His parents have accepted me as their daughter and I find it hard to tell them I want to live separate. What should I do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, maybe this could have been a criterion to discuss if you had thought of an arranged marriage. But with choosing your life partner, there's always going to be things that will stare you down that you might not be willing to accept.
But well, one can't have it all; I highly doubt that your boyfriend is going to be the one to disturb an age-old tradition and you surely do not want to be the one who is blamed for him breaking that tradition, yeah?
So, I guess it's a 'sit-down' time where the two of you talk about this very important situation. There is a value system clash and this could be a potential cause for unwanted rifts in future if either of you compromises. So, iron this out before you take take that leap into marriage.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Welcome to the world of Love Marriages. You didn't fall in love knowing that your boyfriend's family and your family's will have different cultures, right?
When you choose someone, you also must be prepared to understand what can come along with them in terms of traditions, cultures and customs. Talk about it to your boyfriend and plan how you can manage these differences as a couple rather than thinking of breaking up with him. There's a reason why the two of you have been together for almost 3 years, right?
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I can't really tell you whether you should or shouldn't marry him, but I understand that moving from a nuclear family to a joint one can be a big adjustment. I would suggest not to rush into any decision. Take some time to think- 1) Are you willing to make big life changes for your partner? 2) If so, how far are you willing to go? 3) Do you think these changes will negatively affect your mental health and your relationship in general? 4) Are these differences worth breaking up with your partner? 5) Take a look at the big picture- do not focus on momentary happiness or sorrow.
It is indeed a big decision and it is one you should be making with your partner. Communicate your fears to your partner- let him come up with solutions. But, in the event, you are certain you will never be able to adapt to their lifestyle, don't let anyone manipulate you into getting married to him. It will only ruin both of your future.

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