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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 07, 2025Hindi
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Im married from last 3 months and we are from very conservative family. My wife and i never met before marriage and after marriage i asked her she had relationship before marriage but she denied. But after 3 months i received a call from her ex that she had relationship with him he had physical relationship with her atleast for 5 years straight and she had 2 bf before him too what should i do now with this information?

Ans: allow yourself to process your feelings. It's normal to feel a range of emotions—shock, hurt, confusion, or even betrayal. Give yourself the space to sit with these emotions without rushing to any immediate decisions or confrontations.

Consider the source of this information. An ex-partner might have motives that are not aligned with the best interests of your marriage. It's crucial to evaluate the credibility of the information and not act solely on a third-party account.

Open, honest communication with your wife is key. Instead of approaching the conversation with accusations, try to express your feelings and concerns calmly. Let her share her perspective and feelings. This conversation is not just about the past, but about building trust and understanding in your relationship moving forward.

Reflect on the importance of your wife's past in the context of your marriage. Everyone has a history, and it's essential to consider how much weight you want to place on past relationships versus the present and future you are building together. Focus on your current connection, values, and shared goals.

If this information continues to weigh heavily on you, consider seeking professional support. A couples counselor can provide a safe space to explore these feelings and help you both navigate this challenge. Counseling can also strengthen your communication, trust, and emotional intimacy.

Ultimately, the decision on how to move forward lies with you both. Reflect on the foundation of your relationship, your shared values, and your vision for the future. It's about understanding, forgiveness, and whether you both are committed to growing together despite the challenges.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 18, 2023Hindi
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I had an arrange marriage and married for 1.5 years, after marriage I came to know my wife is not virgin, she never told about her past relationship during our pre-wedding meetings for knowing each other and fixing marriage when I had asked her if she had any past relationship as I had told her I was never involved in a relationship. She was even in touch with him after marriage and had even invited him to our wedding though he did not come. Sometimes she said she had physical relationship out of curiosity, then changed her statement to that she loved him and then said that he used to force her to have physical relation. When confronted she deleted all contacts with him but I still not able to trust her though she says she loves me. I wanted to speak to her parents but my mother asked me to stay quiet. I have lost trust in her because she was never honest from the first day, what should I do, please guide me, this feeling is just killing me! Had she told about it to me in our meetings, I would have rejected thus alliance. Please guide me Anu, I need your help!
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What seems to bother you more?
The fact that she is not a virgin or the fact that she hid it from you.
Why I ask this question is because it will help you evaluate your feelings stemming from which of the two it is...
I do understand that you feel cheated and there is significant amount of trust lost...
Also, I gather from you that you have strong feelings about chastity, purity etc and this is fair in your world as it is part of your core beliefs.
Now let's see things for what they are...she possibly didn't tell you because she knew that you might reject the proposal OR that she wanted to start afresh and many more OR she was forced into this marriage...But the fact that it has begun to eat at your peace of mind suggests that you must speak with her about it. Tell her exactly how you have felt being lied to.
Ask her if she still is interested in being in the marriage and ask yourself the same question. If there is any scope of reconciliation and putting this scene behind you, then it maybe worthwhile to rebuild the marriage from scratch. But if your belief comes in the way and you are unable to make peace with the fact that she hid this fact, everyday will be torturous.
Whatever the decision, I suggest talking it through together without blame games as this will only lead to anger and more conflict rather than leading to a decision point.

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 19, 2024Hindi
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Hi.. good evening.. i want your advise.. we are married for 6 months now and we had a arranged marriage. My mistake was not informing my wife about my past relationship which we had broken up badly and immediately after my marriage my ex girlfriend shared our pictures with my wife purposefully and she got upset with that and me and my family convinced my wife that i have broken up with her and i dont have any contact with her and it is true and i am loyal to my wife. Everthing was normal after that and 2 months passed and i observed that my wife is in regular contact with a guy on phone whom she calls friend and talks to him daily. I confronted this to her and she told that he is just her freind and he had helped her before during her difficult times. Again this continued and i asked her to stop contacting him daily and even though he is a friend what is the point in talking to him daily and she just cried telling that i am controlling her and she feels like she has no freedom and is in jail and i am not allowing her to talk to her friends. After this she limited her talks with him and seemed fine by me as it is just a friendly casual talks 2 to 3 times a week. One day she asked me reply to one of her emails and wanted to upload some file. While i went to upload i had access to her google photos and i was shell shocked to see lots of photos of her with this guy whom she calls friend and in close proximity. Also there are pictures of them dated 3 to 4 years back and also the most hurting part is the pictures of her with him after our marriage as well. She had told me that they have a college get together and reunion and she had went with him on that day and stayed overnight as well. I was literally shocked by this and confronted her immediately and then she told me that she was in relationship with him and her parents did not agree so couldnt marry him and even he also cancelled many marriage proposals because of her and she betrayed him and happily married now with me while he is still not married and she feels guilty as all this happened to him because of her and so she talks to him daily and she can only feel ok once he is married. I told her she has to stop talking to him if we want to keep this marriage.. she tells me if i leave her she is dead as even her parents wont accpet her and also he (her ex boyfriend) will not accept her and she says she has nowhere else to go.. she still cares for me though but i dont know what else to do.. she still talks to him 2 to 3 times a week... please advise how to go about this
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your wife was never into this marriage and it became convenient for her to pursue a link with her ex-boyfriend once she found out about your past.
Everything that she does now being justified. You are right in putting your foot down, but have you seen a favorite toy being snatched away from a child? The need for that toy only gets stronger.
The way that you can counter this is by showering her with a lot of care and attention as I do gather that the two of you want this marriage. You want it as you are in love with your wife, she wants it as she has nowhere to go. Fair enough! The reasons right now might not be the same BUT someday with much love going into the relationship, the two of you can be on the same path.

Now, the question is: Are you willing to wait and pour more into the relationship? She will waver for a while going back and forth between you and that guy; it will hurt you...There will be a lot of anger and perhaps feelings of inadequacy in you, BUT you know that it's not the case. Can you persist on this journey? I sincerely believe that somewhere along the way, she is bound to stick by you when she realizes the stability that you can offer and that the sheen out there will wear out. Possible? Are you willing? If you are, go for it...Love, care, stability, security is something that is core in any marriage...be a part of it!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Dear Sir, What is the best % of SWP one can think of from Portfolio value. I am retired now and have say 1 Cr as MF and Share portfolio. I want to go for 40000 SWP per month thereby making 4.8% as SWP. If this is good to have this for 15 yrs
Ans: Your question shows great care for your financial future. Many retirees ignore this step. You have already taken a wise move. You want steady income. You want safety. You want long life for your money. These are very important points. I truly appreciate your clarity.

» Understanding your present plan
Your idea is simple. You have Rs 1 crore. You want Rs 40000 each month. This means Rs 4.8 lakh each year. That is 4.8 percent of your money. This is not very high. This is not very low. It sits in the middle range. Many retirees try for 7 or 8 percent. That can put pressure on the portfolio. Your 4.8 percent is more reasonable. It supports discipline. It keeps stress low.

Your idea is for 15 years. That is a good time frame. It gives space for your funds to grow. It gives time for market cycles. It also gives time for inflation adjustments.

» Why withdrawal rate matters
Your SWP rate decides how long your money will last. A high rate can drain funds soon. A very low rate may not support your monthly needs. Your 4.8 percent sits well. It balances life needs and portfolio health.

When you draw money from a mixed portfolio, the growth side helps refill your withdrawn money. The stability side helps reduce fall during bad years. This mix helps the SWP stay steady.

» Why a proper structure is important
A SWP is not only a monthly withdrawal. It is a full system. The system needs planning. It needs regular reviews. It needs a clear asset split. It needs a cushion for weak market years.

If you set this structure well now, your SWP can stay safe. Your money can stretch for many years. You can keep peace of mind.

» The importance of a balanced mix
Your portfolio may hold equity funds, hybrid funds, and debt funds. A clear mix reduces risk. It gives smooth cash flow. Equity gives growth. Debt gives steady flow. Hybrid gives balance.

Because you want monthly income for 15 years, you need a balance that supports steady SWP. A pure equity plan can shake too much. A pure debt plan may not grow at a good pace. A balanced mix is ideal.

» Equity funds need careful use
Some investors put large money in equity for SWP. This can work in strong markets. This can fail in weak markets. Your SWP must survive both market moods. That is why pure equity for SWP is not safe.

Also, you should prefer actively managed funds over index funds for long SWP. Index funds follow the index blindly. They do not manage risk actively. They cannot adjust to market cycles. Actively managed funds have a professional fund manager. A skilled manager helps in limiting risk in low years. This helps protect principal in SWP years. This support is not present in index funds.

» Debt funds form the stabiliser
Debt funds bring peace to the portfolio. They help during bad market years. They help the SWP stay steady. Because debt funds follow market rates, they work as the anchor. For SWP, this anchor is very helpful.

If you use direct debt funds, you must remember that direct funds need more tracking. They need active reviews by you. Many retired investors find this hard. Regular plans taken through a qualified Mutual Fund Distributor with CFP skill provide guidance. Regular plans also give handholding. This handholding helps avoid wrong exits.

» How to view your Rs 40000 monthly need
You may need some money for basic needs. You may need some money for health care. You may need some money for family support. You may need some money for personal comfort. Rs 40000 per month seems a balanced number.

It does not put too much pressure on the money. It is not a very heavy load. It fits well with a Rs 1 crore fund.

» Inflation needs attention
Inflation will rise. Costs will rise. Your need will rise. Your SWP should rise slowly over time. You cannot fix your SWP for 15 years at one number. That may reduce your buying power.

A small rise every two or three years will help you beat inflation. This rise must be slow. It must match your portfolio growth.

» Risk of sharp market falls
Sharp falls can disturb SWP. A sudden big drop in equity value can pull down your portfolio. This may cause you to withdraw when market is low. That is not good. To fix this, you need enough stability in your mix.

A proper allocation in debt funds and hybrid funds can reduce this issue. You will get smoother cash flow. You will not have to worry about market news every day.

» Role of emergency money
Please keep an emergency amount. Keep this aside. Do not include it in your SWP plan. You may need money for urgent health needs. You may need money for home needs. Emergency funds help you avoid sudden selling.

A good emergency fund gives peace. It protects your SWP from sudden shocks.

» Tax rules for withdrawals
Every SWP withdrawal may include some gains. Tax will apply based on the type of fund and the gain period. This tax can have impact on net flow. You must plan for this in your withdrawal design.

Equity fund rules:

Gains under one year are short-term. These are taxed at 20 percent.

Gains above one year are long-term. Long-term gains above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5 percent.

Debt fund rules:

Both short-term and long-term gains are taxed as per your tax slab.

This tax part should not scare you. A proper plan can reduce the tax burden. A planned SWP can help you manage gains carefully.

» Why a Certified Financial Planner helps
You may handle small things by yourself. But retirement planning is delicate. One wrong move can disturb the whole plan. A Certified Financial Planner gives a clear road map. He helps you set the best mix. He reviews the plan every year. He adjusts the plan for market and life events.

This guidance is very useful in SWP because SWP needs discipline.

» Why not consider real estate
Some retirees think of using real estate for income. But real estate needs heavy work. It needs tenant work. It needs repair work. It needs legal care. It gives lumpy income. It gives no steady flow. So it is not fit for SWP planning.

Your present goal is steady income. Real estate will not give this.

» Why not consider annuities
Annuities give fixed income. But they lock your money. They give low returns. They do not beat inflation well. They reduce flexibility. For these reasons, they are not ideal for your long-term income.

Your idea of SWP with balanced mix is better.

» Keeping your portfolio healthy for 15 years
To keep your portfolio safe for 15 years, you must follow some habits:

Review every year with a Certified Financial Planner.

Adjust asset mix if needed.

Increase SWP amount slowly.

Reduce SWP for one or two years if markets fall very deep.

Protect your money from emotional moves.

Keep a two-year buffer in a low-risk fund.

Keep your growth part running for long.

These habits help your money last for the full 15-year horizon.

» Regular review helps you adapt
Markets will change. Your health may change. Your needs may change. A yearly review will help align your plan. It will help spot issues early. It will help guide the next year’s SWP.

Without reviews, even good plans can fail.

» Why a two-year cushion helps
A cushion fund is a simple idea. Keep two years of SWP in a low-risk debt fund. This money helps you draw income even in bad market years. You will not need to sell equity in weak phases. This protects your overall money. This makes your SWP more stable.

This cushion fund is an extra shield. It supports your 15-year income plan.

» Role of diversification
Your SWP works best when your portfolio is spread well. A spread can include:

Actively managed equity funds.

Hybrid funds.

Debt funds.

This spread reduces risk. It gives smoothness. It supports long-term income.

Avoid using too many funds. Keep it simple. A small number of quality funds is better.

» How your 4.8 percent looks in practice
A 4.8 percent withdrawal rate is comfortable for a 15-year horizon. If you follow discipline, your money will not face heavy pressure. If your portfolio grows at a steady pace, your principal will not erode fast. Even if growth shifts between years, the mixed structure will protect you.

Your plan is workable. It is sensible. It is future-friendly.

» Mistakes to avoid
Here are some mistakes you should avoid:

Do not chase high-return funds.

Do not raise SWP sharply in one year.

Do not keep too much money in equity.

Do not stop reviews.

Do not shift funds often without reason.

Do not look at direct plans if you prefer guidance.

These mistakes can disturb your portfolio health. Your SWP may suffer.

» Why not use direct funds if you need support
Direct plans give lower cost. But they give no guidance. Retired investors often need guidance. They need reviews. They need discipline. A regular plan through a qualified Mutual Fund Distributor with CFP skill gives support. It prevents panic reactions. This support is valuable in low market years.

» Healthy mindset for SWP
Try to see your SWP as a long journey. It needs calm mind. It needs steady steps. It needs slow corrections. It needs patience. If you stay steady, your SWP will stay healthy. You will enjoy peace.

» Practical steps you can start now
You may start with these steps:

Set clear needs for each year.

Fix a proper asset split.

Create a cushion fund for two years.

Start SWP from a low-risk fund or hybrid fund.

Keep equity for growth.

Add small hikes in SWP every few years.

This system supports long-term income.

» How your plan supports a joyful retired life
Your plan helps you live with comfort. It gives predictable cash flow. It gives you freedom from worry. It gives you clarity. You can focus on health, family, and peace. You do not need to watch markets each day.

Your retirement life becomes balanced.

» Final Insights
Your idea of taking Rs 40000 per month from a Rs 1 crore portfolio at 4.8 percent is workable. It fits well for a 15-year horizon. It supports your income. It protects your money if you set a balanced mix. You must follow steady reviews. You must keep a small cushion. You must avoid risky moves.

With these practices, your SWP plan can stay healthy for many years. Your future can stay peaceful and steady. You have already taken the right first step. Your clarity gives your plan strong power.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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Is it worthwhile being an mbbs only doctor in India or is pg necessary as somebody who cannot toil 24-36 hours (as is the case with hospital duties) and is not well adequate for working under somebody and then do you still have to study after mbbs to level up or will you be contented with just mbbs. Pls don't answer objectively i really need to see the real picture
Ans: Hi Dr.
Recently, I've seen many different comments on social media suggesting that finding a job after completing an MBBS is very difficult, with some graduates even working as delivery boys.

I believe MBBS is one of the few courses that allows for immediate entrepreneurship after graduation, while other fields often require additional support to start a business. Many medical shop owners are willing to provide a small space for consultations, which is not typically an option for graduates in other disciplines.

If you are financially constrained, it may be wise to stop after completing your MBBS degree for the time being. However, pursuing a postgraduate degree (PG) significantly increases your opportunities, including potential roles in the pharmaceutical industry. Without a PG, your options may be limited. It's akin to the difference between a normal grocery store and a supermarket: completing a PG can lead to positions in corporate medical hospitals.

Initially, you might consider working at a smaller practice or in the government sector before pursuing higher education. While having an MBBS degree allows you to offer consultations, having a PG provides you with more credibility and knowledge. Understand your strengths and weaknesses, and don’t worry about others—proceed based on your own abilities and circumstances.
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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 15, 2025Hindi
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I have passed 12th from Maharashtra state board in 2023 ( as regular candidate ) and also gave improvement exam in Feb 2024 but I am not satisfied with my result can I give 12th board exam again from Maharashtra board as a private candidate 17 no. Form ??? I am already 12th passed so Is it illegal to appear from 17 no. Form ?
Ans: Hi,
Hi, what are your future plans? Please share so I can suggest a solution for you.
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Ramalingam

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 15, 2025Hindi
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Hi Experts, Help me plan for my family, including how to take services of a certified financial planner and their fee structure/charges. I am 35 years old, married with 2 daughters. Want to plan for their studies and self and spouse's retirement, assuming post retirement life of 15-20 years at then inflation rate. - I have 2 apartments, one paid for, one with 21L loan. Both 3bhk, and in Bangalore. - I have mutual funds portfolio of 36L (across multiple direct funds - 15% debt, mostly equity) - 5L in stocks, in core sectors (metal, industries etc) - approx 40L in PPF - SSY for elder kid, not started for younger one, but not very regular with contributions due to other liabilities - 65L in employer company stocks (I might switch employers but will leave the corpus to grow) - Health insurance.
Ans: You already did many right things at a young age. Your savings show clear care for your family. Your goals also show deep clarity. I appreciate your intent to build a strong long-term plan. You already created a very good base. Now you only need one clear roadmap that links every asset and goal.

Your Present Strengths
Your savings show smart thinking.
Your mix of assets is already wide.
You built strong discipline at age 35.
You planned for both kids.
You hold equity, debt, PPF, SSY, and employer stock.
You also hold two apartments.
You already use insurance.
These things give you very strong base power.
This base helps you plan the next 25 to 40 years.
This base also helps control risk in your later years.
Many people start late.
You are far ahead of them.

» Your Key Family Goals
Your main goals are clear.
You aim for kids’ education.
You aim for retirement.
Clarity like this helps a lot.
Your goals are long term.
Long term goals need stable plans.
Stable plans grow well with time.
You also want to manage liabilities.
This is also important.
Good planning here gives peace.
Your present age offers long compounding time.

» Understanding Your Current Assets
Let me read your assets with a calm view.

– You have two apartments. One is debt-free. One has Rs 21 lakh loan.
– You have Rs 36 lakh in mutual funds. You hold direct plans.
– You have Rs 5 lakh in stocks.
– You have Rs 40 lakh in PPF.
– You have SSY for elder daughter.
– You have employer RSU holding of around Rs 65 lakh.
– You have health insurance.

Your position is strong but not balanced.
Your money is not fully aligned with your goals yet.
A structured plan from now will bring strong clarity.

» Why Direct Mutual Funds May Not Suit Long-Term Family Goals
You hold direct mutual funds now.
Direct funds look cheaper.
But they need deep monitoring.
They need review of risk shifts.
They need review of performance cycles.
They also need sharp discipline during bad years.
Many investors lack time for such review.
Direct funds also offer no handholding.
You face all stress alone.
You also manage fund moves alone.
Wrong timing moves hurt long-term wealth.
Direct funds many times lead to wrong exits.
Direct funds can also lead to poor rebalancing.
These issues reduce your long-term wealth.

Regular funds through an MFD with CFP credential help reduce these risks.
You get structured reviews.
You get expert rebalancing.
You get behavioural guidance.
You get allocation support.
You get peace.
This support reduces mistakes.
Fewer mistakes mean more wealth for your family.

» Why Actively Managed Funds May Suit You Better
Your equity plan is long term.
Actively managed funds can adjust to market cycles.
They move between sectors.
They help lower downside risk in tough phases.
They seek better alpha.
Index funds cannot do this.
Index funds stay fixed.
Index funds buy both good and weak companies.
Index funds hold stressed sectors also.
Index funds give no flexibility.
Index funds also see high concentration risk in some indices.
Your goals need more smart risk control.
Actively managed funds help you do that.
This can improve long-term results.

» Reading Your Liabilities
Your only major loan is Rs 21 lakh.
This is not high for your income stage.
The key part is to keep EMI smooth.
Avoid pushing too fast.
Do not break your investment flow.
A balanced EMI and SIP mix works best.

» Kids’ Education Planning
You have two daughters.
Their costs rise with inflation.
This means you need long-term systematic plan.
These actions help:

– Keep SSY for elder daughter.
– Start one systematic plan for younger daughter also.
– Use mix of equity and debt for both.
– Use PPF partly for long-term support.
– Keep regular contributions small but steady.

This steady effort matters more than big jumps.
Kids’ education goals need at least 10 to 15 years.
So use mostly equity for growth.
Use a small part in debt for stability.

» Retirement Planning Strategy for You and Your Spouse
You have long time left to retirement.
This time gives power to equity allocation.
You also have PPF.
PPF adds safety.
Your retirement plan must cover 15 to 20 years of post-retirement life.
This needs inflation-adjusted planning.

Use these steps:

– Keep part of portfolio in actively managed equity funds.
– Keep debt for safety, not for returns.
– Continue PPF to add more secure base.
– Reduce exposure to employer stock slowly.
– Do not depend on employer stock for retirement.
– Build a separate retirement portfolio with strong diversification.

Retirement must not depend on one risky asset.
Retirement must not depend only on equity.
Retirement must not depend only on debt.
Use mix.
Use rebalancing.
Use review.

» Understanding Risk in Employer Stock Holding
You hold Rs 65 lakh in employer stock.
This is a big part of your wealth.
This creates concentration risk.
If the company faces issues, your wealth can fall.
You may switch jobs also.
So reduce this risk slowly.
Do not sell all at once.
Sell in small parts.
Shift the money to diversified funds.
This makes your long-term goals more safe.

» Your Real Estate Position
You already have two apartments.
Both are in Bangalore.
You do not need more property.
Real estate also locks money.
You already have enough exposure.
Future investments should not go into real estate.

» Building a Strong Asset Allocation Framework
A clear asset allocation gives you more clarity.
It helps your goals stay on track.
It also controls risk well.

Use these long-term steps:

– Give equity more share for growth.
– Give debt enough share for stability.
– Keep PPF as long-term safety tool.
– Keep kids’ education with separate planned buckets.
– Do not mix retirement and education funds.

Each goal gets its own plan.
This brings more order to your money.

» Systematic Investing for Smooth Growth
SIPs help you a lot.
You can use them to build each goal.
Use equity SIPs for long-term goals.
Use debt SIPs for stability.
Use slow and steady flow.
Try not to stop SIPs during market falls.
Falls help you buy cheap units.
Cheap units mean better long-term returns.

» Building Emergency and Protection Layers
Emergency fund is key.
Keep at least six months of expenses in safe place.
This protects your SIPs.
This also protects your long-term goals.
You already have health insurance.
Keep it updated.
Health costs can disrupt your plans.
Insurance helps avoid that.

» 360 Degree View of Your Full Plan
Your whole plan must work like one system.
Each goal must connect to proper assets.
Your loans must fit your cash flow.
Your savings must match your risk ability.
Your insurance must protect your savings.
Your kids’ plan must not disturb retirement.
Your retirement plan must not disturb kids’ plan.
Your portfolio must stay calibrated.
Your funds must stay reviewed.
Your behaviour must stay calm.
This is the real 360 degree planning.

A Certified Financial Planner helps align all of these.
This gives you one clear map for all goals.

» How to Work With a Certified Financial Planner
A Certified Financial Planner studies your goals.
The planner studies cash flow.
The planner reads your behaviour pattern.
The planner checks your risk level.
The planner designs asset allocation.
The planner selects right categories for you.
The planner reviews your plan each year.
The planner adjusts your portfolio when needed.
You get a complete service, not only fund selection.
You get a whole plan for your family.

» Why a Certified Financial Planner Adds Great Value
A planner helps avoid emotional mistakes.
Such mistakes reduce wealth.
A planner helps with rebalancing.
Rebalancing is key for safety and returns.
A planner handles asset mapping.
A planner keeps all goals aligned.
A planner helps you plan taxes.
A planner gives holistic guidance.
A planner gives discipline.
Discipline builds wealth.

A planner also tracks fund cycles.
A planner guides during market noise.
A planner keeps your plan steady.

This support helps your family’s long-term safety.

» Cash Flow Restructuring for Your Case
You have loan EMI.
You have investments.
You have kids’ expenses.
You need a clean cash flow map.
Use these steps:

– Fix monthly SIPs first.
– Keep EMI below safe limit.
– Keep emergency fund safe.
– Keep kids’ plan steady.
– Keep retirement SIP steady.
– Do not dip into long-term investments.

This pattern builds strong wealth.

» Insurance and Risk Protection
Health insurance is good.
But check if coverage is large enough.
Health costs grow each year.
A good health cover saves you from big shocks.

Also check life cover.
It must match income and goals.
Life cover must protect your family if something happens.
Do not use investment-linked policies.
Pure term cover is better.
It is simple.
It is clear.
It protects well.

» Tax Planning Across Assets
Use tax benefits from PPF.
Use tax benefits from SSY.
Use tax benefits from home loan.
Use long-term gains wisely when selling funds.

New tax rules apply:
Equity LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Equity STCG is taxed at 20%.
Debt funds are taxed as per your slab.

Plan sales with help of a Certified Financial Planner.
This helps keep taxes low.

» Finally
You already built a strong base.
You only need refined structure now.
Your goals are clear.
Your family needs long-term safety.
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Hello Sir, my son is 15 and he is going to give std 12th science exams in feb 2026,he studies in gujarat board and get 85 to 95 percentiles in school exams. sir he is interested in computer science and i dont know anything about engineering as i am a commerce student.Sir please suggest the best for him and what tech is going to be in demand in future. and also suggest best engineering colleges in gujarat. Thanks
Ans: With your son's impressive 85-95 percentile performance in school exams, he possesses competitive academic foundation for pursuing Computer Science Engineering in premier Gujarat institutions through JEE Main 2026 or GUJCET pathways, both of which accept Gujarat board qualifications without additional eligibility complications. Computer Science Engineering represents India's highest-demand technical field through 2030, driven by exponential growth in artificial intelligence, machine learning, cybersecurity, cloud computing, and emerging quantum technologies—sectors projected to generate 350,000+ new positions annually. AI/ML integration is becoming mandatory across all software roles, with cybersecurity, cloud architecture (AWS/Azure/GCP), blockchain technology, and edge computing emerging as critical skill sets commanding premium salaries. His 85-95 percentile trajectory suggests realistic targeting of mid-tier to premium government colleges if sustained through 12th board exams and JEE Main preparation, requiring approximately 150-200+ marks (corresponding to 75-95 percentile in JEE Main) for securing CSE seats in top-tier government institutions. Admission pathways include: JEE Main Score (for IITs, NITs, IIITs nationwide), GUJCET Score (for select Gujarat government/private institutions), or GUJCET for alternative colleges. Eligibility mandates minimum 45% aggregate in 12th Science (Physics, Chemistry, Mathematics) for general category, with no JEE Main appearing percentage barrier despite popular misconceptions. Top government colleges (IIT Gandhinagar, SVNIT Surat, LDCE Ahmedabad) offer affordability (INR 80,000-2,50,000 annually) with CSE BTech placement rates averaging 64-72%, while SVNIT specifically records CSE average compensation and highest package reaching 15.86 LPA and 62 LPA respectively (2024-2025). Nirma University and PDEU represent leading private options with CSE placement percentages 85-90% and competitive packages, though fees significantly higher (INR 10-15 lakhs annually). Top 5 Government Colleges: (1) IIT Gandhinagar—NIRF #1, highly selective, CSE ultra-competitive, average package approximately 18 LPA, placement 95%+, JEE Main ranks under 1,500 typical; (2) SVNIT Surat—NIRF #15, CSE placement 72%, average package 15.86 LPA, JEE Main CSE cutoff ranks 3,000-8,000; (3) LDCE Ahmedabad—Government prestigious college, CSE 68% placement, fees INR 90,000 annually, JEE Main cutoff flexible; (4) VGEC Ahmedabad—Established government institution, CSE strong, fees INR 7,500 annually, excellent value; (5) GEC Gandhinagar—Government option, CSE availability, fees INR 15,000 annually. Top 5 Private Colleges: (1) Nirma University, Ahmedabad—NIRF top-ranked private, CSE placement 85%+, average package 7.84 LPA, fees INR 10-12 lakhs; (2) DA-IICT Gandhinagar—Autonomous prestigious, CSE placement 90%+, average 17.10 LPA, fees INR 12 lakhs; (3) PDEU Gandhinagar—Strong infrastructure, CSE placement 75%, average package 6.75 LPA, fees INR 11 lakhs; (4) DDU Nadiad—Respected private, CSE 70% placement, affordable fees INR 5-6 lakhs; (5) CHARUSAT Anand—Quality academics, CSE good placement (~75%), moderate fees INR 8-9 lakhs. Backup Entrance Options Beyond GUJCET/JEE Main: BITSAT (for BITS Pilani campuses), VITEEE (for VIT Chennai/Vellore if willing to relocate), or direct institutional entrance tests (Nirma and PDEU accept both merit + entrance).? When time permits, explore the 'EduJob360' YouTube channel, which features comprehensive videos on JEE, GUJCET, and engineering college admission processes. All the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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