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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2025Hindi
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Im going through a difficult situation at the moment. As a mother and a wife. My husband is the bread winner in the family. He does everything in the house and im unemployed but a house wife. I have 3 adult children two are working but contribute a little towards the house. The other daughter is unemployed my youngest is in high school. Our Expenditure is too high which we can't cope with. I feel im a burden at home. So i told my husband that we should just separate

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how stressed you must be; financial problems are indeed very difficult to deal with. First of all, let me remind you that you are not just a housewife- you are a homemaker. You raise your kids, and manage the entire household. It is not an easy task, so do not sell yourself short. And is separating with your husband going to change anything? Your children will suffer and if it isn’t an unhappy marriage, your husband will suffer greatly too. So I want to ask, did you ever consider applying for jobs? Not trying to pressurize you, but it might make you feel more helpful. Think about that- it can be any job; you can start small and slowly climb the ladder. Moreover, please speak to your spouse. If anyways he has made you feel like a burden, I want you to keep reminding yourself that your job as a homemaker is no less than his job as the breadwinner.

Hope this helps.

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Dear mam, my husband and I had a love marriage. We dated for five years before getting married and we have been living together for 8 years now. I am working and we have a 5 year old son. He is a very good guy but his parents and relatives who are staying with us are making things difficult for us now. Like you suggested I tried talking to my husband but I feel he is being biased and taken for granted. I tried to adjust and ignore some things but there is a lot of politics going on every day which is affecting both of us. From money issues to privacy and kitchen fights, we are dealing with a lot of things that I am not able to talk and solve. This is affecting my career and my son’s studies too. Every time I start a discussion it leads to a big fight in front of everyone. Ultimately I am cornered and blamed. The patent response is: everyone adjusts. I’m not able to handle it well and no support from anyone. Also I don’t have anyone to talk to whom I can trust. Please help.
Ans: Dear S, Thank you for trying to apply a few of my suggestions. Extended families can be a huge challenge to live with as much as there are advantages as well.

Too much mixing of thoughts and opinions that at times you feel that your thoughts are never valued.

Either, you ease into this and know that this will be your world; which means you start to ‘try’ to become happy which can be stressful.

If this is impossible and you want to change it, then STEP UP for yourself and for your son.

No arguments, no fights, but firmly asserting what you want.

Be kind always no matter what because your husband is just in the midst of his family and the family system that he has been raised with, your protests don’t matter much.

Making your point known doesn't need fights, but reiterating what you want and that your thoughts must be respected.

It’s possible that over a few weeks, this new calm behavior of yours might bring some change in your husband and he may start hearing and listening to what you have to say.

If that doesn’t work, yes you may have to take the help of a professional who will put you two together in a place and become a good third person who will facilitate the communication.

Whatever it is, be kind and calm and I am sure you are…it helps in ‘breaking down’ the stubbornness in other people and they maybe willing to calm down as well.

Be at peace.

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I am a 37 year old working woman have two kids aged 9 and 5. I am married for 12 years. My husband does not show any interest in house chores and whenever I ask him he will say, hire a maid for everything. I have raised my two kids on my own. We work into IT industry, husband completely works from home. I go to office once or twice month. During Corona, work from home became really stressful. I quit my job thinking that I will focus on kids and house, but that did not make any difference, he started humiliating me for not working. I started considering divorce and looked for a job, soon I got in. At times I feel, that I am too much organised, that's why I am frustrated and stressed out all day long. I mostly have tight timelines, which can't be missed. At times I am too much frustrated and leave home to office so that I can work peacefully there but that's again too tiring. Maids come and leave in hurry cause no one is there to watch them out when I am in office. When I get back home I see that food is kept as it is and kids are hungry because father did not serve them. House also becomes a complete mess with toys, clothes,books lying all around, after coming home I should throw away all food, make the house tidy again and plan for the next day, where as he has complete leisure life, he will get up in the morning, his tea will be ready he will straight go to play badminton, comes back when his meeting is started. His breakfast goes directly to his table. He comes out for his lunch and straight goes to bed for afternoon nap. Again he wakes up for evening meetings. After finishing all this he will go to play tennis. Comes back home for dinner, work a little on his laptop and goes out with friends for a walk, comes back late at night when all are asleep. Seeing this routine I become frustrated now I am planning to move out, Needless to say, we stay in separate rooms, his room is a complete mess all the time
Ans: Dear Pragya,
Congratulations! You have been successful in making a hotel at your home with a perfect and permanent occupant; your husband...
When everything is taken care of right from kids to the food to the cleaning and the organizing and oh, accommodating his game schedules, why would he move a limb? And because he never took interest in caring for the household, you have started to overcompensate and extend your professional skills of organizing and executing back at home. Which spouse would not want that?
You may feel frustrated and drop everything now, BUT there's possibly a way out of this...I say this only because there are children involved in this entire equation and it isn't great for them to live in separate homes. Take a stand; do your part of the work...hire a nanny who can care for the children including their meal times. If this is not possible, call in a female family member to help out for a few weeks. Use those few weeks to pass a strong message to him which is: KEEP YOUR END OF THE DEAL..
No serving him like he is the master...let him walk to the kitchen and take his food or make his juice of whatever.
Initially, there will be a lot of complaints; he will also send you on a guilt trip where you might start to feel bad for his plight. DO NOT RELENT...
Do we not raise children to be respectful humans and respectful citizens? You are doing just that with your husband...he sadly didn't make this transition when he was younger, so you are dealing with it now...Do this as the first step; who knows things might improve and your kids will have a stable home.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Kanchan

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 04, 2024Hindi
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Madam i am married for almost 7 years as of now and last year i have been blessed with a daughter. I have had a job which was sufficient to fulfill my expenses and i use to save a bit too and therefore can claim I wasn’t dependent on my husband. After the birth of my child , my work has been affected which has also put an impact on my earnings. My husband doesn’t support me and my daughter financial needs and i am now feeling the burnout of raising me and my child and managing our day to day expenses single handedly. I have communicated this to my husband but he pays no heed to it. Please advice.
Ans: It sounds like you're going through an incredibly tough time, managing the responsibilities of raising your daughter and handling the financial burden on your own. After the birth of a child, it's normal for work and earnings to be affected, but the fact that your husband isn't supporting you financially—especially when it comes to your child’s needs—must be very frustrating.

The first step is to have a clear, calm conversation with him again. Sometimes, financial issues become a matter of miscommunication or a lack of understanding about the situation's seriousness. Make it clear how much pressure this is putting on you, both emotionally and financially. He needs to understand that raising a child is a joint responsibility, and financial support is a big part of that.

If direct communication doesn’t help, you may need to consider seeking outside support. Whether that’s through family, counseling, or legal advice, it’s important to know that you don’t have to bear all this weight alone. In some places, the law ensures that both parents are responsible for a child’s welfare, including financially. It might help to consult a family lawyer to understand your rights in this situation.

In the meantime, try to reach out to supportive friends or family members who might offer temporary emotional or financial help. You deserve to feel supported, and it’s not fair for everything to fall on your shoulders. Don’t hesitate to explore different avenues to get the help you need for both you and your daughter.

Remember, it's not just about your financial health, but also your emotional well-being and your daughter's future.

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Kanchan

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 03, 2024Hindi
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I recently got married. I find it hard to live with my mother in law as she wants to micromanage. My husband keeps telling me that things are gonn be alright once you both understand each other ( His mother and I) due in time. My husband hardly stays at home due to work. I find it unfair that I’m made to adjust to his difficult mother while he continues to go about his life. Although we agreed to stay together with his mother after we are married, now that I’m finding it hard and I have requested him multiple times to do something about it since it’s effecting my mental health. And my point is that since it’s hard for me and since he is my husband why can’t he make some arrangements for me to live separate, example by making excuse of my workplace being too far from his house etc. But what he only says is ‘ Everything will be fine with time’ and I find this statement itself dismissing my difficulties. While he hardly stays at home he leaves me behind to adjust to his difficult mother is also something I find unjust. What shall I do
Ans: You’re absolutely right to voice your concerns; it’s a major transition, and feeling micromanaged can take a toll on anyone. But it’s also clear that your husband feels a sense of duty towards his mother and believes that, over time, things may settle naturally as you get to know each other better. While his optimism might feel dismissive, it’s likely coming from his hope that time will help ease things for both of you.

Taking a step back, it might be helpful to consider his perspective. For him, there’s likely a deep-rooted loyalty and sense of care for his mother, perhaps much like what you might feel if it were your own mother. He might hope that the three of you can coexist peacefully and that, with patience, you and his mother will reach an understanding. It’s possible he’s trying to avoid confrontation, believing it will make things harder for everyone.

Perhaps, try to find a balance that respects both your needs and his family obligations. You could approach him with empathy by acknowledging, “I understand that you want us to grow closer and that it’s important for you to support your mother. I’d feel the same if it were my own mother.” But you can gently express that, despite your efforts, the situation is taking a toll on your mental health and that a temporary solution, like living separately, could actually help everyone in the long run. Let him know that you want to build a strong relationship with his mother, but to do so, a bit of breathing room may help you approach her with more patience and understanding.

Opening the door to his perspective in this way might soften his stance and encourage him to consider arrangements that balance everyone’s well-being. By approaching the situation together, as a team, you’re more likely to find a solution that honors both his responsibilities and your need for space, making room for a more peaceful family dynamic in the long term.

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I am married for 5years with 2kids.. i am an employee and had to stay 100kms away from my native place on work purpose.. I opted to take my kids along as they are too small(3+ and 1+).. I asked my husband to accompany me as he is unemployed and staying at home.. But he refused and likes to stay with his mother.. He has a brother to look after his mother and his married sister also stays very near to them.. I sometimes feel very stressed out to handle my job and look after my kids.. i have no support from my husband neither emotionally nor financially.. i tried everything possible but he just talks about my earnings not wt i am going through.. wt i should do?
Ans: In a partnership, mutual support and shared responsibilities are essential, and it’s natural to feel frustrated and even resentful if your husband is prioritizing his comfort over your needs and well-being. Since he’s not providing emotional or financial support, it might be time to set some boundaries and expectations to protect your own peace and ensure you’re not carrying everything alone.

Start by calmly sharing how this situation affects you—not just financially but emotionally and physically. Emphasize that while you understand his desire to stay close to his family, your situation is not sustainable, and you need him to step up. You might also consider counseling, either together or on your own, to find ways to cope with your stress and explore solutions to address this imbalance in your relationship.

If he’s unwilling to make changes or support you even after open conversations, it may be necessary to think about your long-term well-being and that of your children. Your strength and resilience in handling so much on your own are admirable, but you also deserve a partner who is invested in your happiness and shares the load.

In the meantime, is there any possibility of support from family, friends, or childcare services near your work location? Having some practical help, even temporarily, could relieve some of your stress and allow you to focus on what’s best for you and your children going forward. Remember, you are not alone, and reaching out to build a support network can make a world of difference in helping you navigate this challenging time.

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Ramalingam

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Dear Sir, What is the best % of SWP one can think of from Portfolio value. I am retired now and have say 1 Cr as MF and Share portfolio. I want to go for 40000 SWP per month thereby making 4.8% as SWP. If this is good to have this for 15 yrs
Ans: Your question shows great care for your financial future. Many retirees ignore this step. You have already taken a wise move. You want steady income. You want safety. You want long life for your money. These are very important points. I truly appreciate your clarity.

» Understanding your present plan
Your idea is simple. You have Rs 1 crore. You want Rs 40000 each month. This means Rs 4.8 lakh each year. That is 4.8 percent of your money. This is not very high. This is not very low. It sits in the middle range. Many retirees try for 7 or 8 percent. That can put pressure on the portfolio. Your 4.8 percent is more reasonable. It supports discipline. It keeps stress low.

Your idea is for 15 years. That is a good time frame. It gives space for your funds to grow. It gives time for market cycles. It also gives time for inflation adjustments.

» Why withdrawal rate matters
Your SWP rate decides how long your money will last. A high rate can drain funds soon. A very low rate may not support your monthly needs. Your 4.8 percent sits well. It balances life needs and portfolio health.

When you draw money from a mixed portfolio, the growth side helps refill your withdrawn money. The stability side helps reduce fall during bad years. This mix helps the SWP stay steady.

» Why a proper structure is important
A SWP is not only a monthly withdrawal. It is a full system. The system needs planning. It needs regular reviews. It needs a clear asset split. It needs a cushion for weak market years.

If you set this structure well now, your SWP can stay safe. Your money can stretch for many years. You can keep peace of mind.

» The importance of a balanced mix
Your portfolio may hold equity funds, hybrid funds, and debt funds. A clear mix reduces risk. It gives smooth cash flow. Equity gives growth. Debt gives steady flow. Hybrid gives balance.

Because you want monthly income for 15 years, you need a balance that supports steady SWP. A pure equity plan can shake too much. A pure debt plan may not grow at a good pace. A balanced mix is ideal.

» Equity funds need careful use
Some investors put large money in equity for SWP. This can work in strong markets. This can fail in weak markets. Your SWP must survive both market moods. That is why pure equity for SWP is not safe.

Also, you should prefer actively managed funds over index funds for long SWP. Index funds follow the index blindly. They do not manage risk actively. They cannot adjust to market cycles. Actively managed funds have a professional fund manager. A skilled manager helps in limiting risk in low years. This helps protect principal in SWP years. This support is not present in index funds.

» Debt funds form the stabiliser
Debt funds bring peace to the portfolio. They help during bad market years. They help the SWP stay steady. Because debt funds follow market rates, they work as the anchor. For SWP, this anchor is very helpful.

If you use direct debt funds, you must remember that direct funds need more tracking. They need active reviews by you. Many retired investors find this hard. Regular plans taken through a qualified Mutual Fund Distributor with CFP skill provide guidance. Regular plans also give handholding. This handholding helps avoid wrong exits.

» How to view your Rs 40000 monthly need
You may need some money for basic needs. You may need some money for health care. You may need some money for family support. You may need some money for personal comfort. Rs 40000 per month seems a balanced number.

It does not put too much pressure on the money. It is not a very heavy load. It fits well with a Rs 1 crore fund.

» Inflation needs attention
Inflation will rise. Costs will rise. Your need will rise. Your SWP should rise slowly over time. You cannot fix your SWP for 15 years at one number. That may reduce your buying power.

A small rise every two or three years will help you beat inflation. This rise must be slow. It must match your portfolio growth.

» Risk of sharp market falls
Sharp falls can disturb SWP. A sudden big drop in equity value can pull down your portfolio. This may cause you to withdraw when market is low. That is not good. To fix this, you need enough stability in your mix.

A proper allocation in debt funds and hybrid funds can reduce this issue. You will get smoother cash flow. You will not have to worry about market news every day.

» Role of emergency money
Please keep an emergency amount. Keep this aside. Do not include it in your SWP plan. You may need money for urgent health needs. You may need money for home needs. Emergency funds help you avoid sudden selling.

A good emergency fund gives peace. It protects your SWP from sudden shocks.

» Tax rules for withdrawals
Every SWP withdrawal may include some gains. Tax will apply based on the type of fund and the gain period. This tax can have impact on net flow. You must plan for this in your withdrawal design.

Equity fund rules:

Gains under one year are short-term. These are taxed at 20 percent.

Gains above one year are long-term. Long-term gains above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5 percent.

Debt fund rules:

Both short-term and long-term gains are taxed as per your tax slab.

This tax part should not scare you. A proper plan can reduce the tax burden. A planned SWP can help you manage gains carefully.

» Why a Certified Financial Planner helps
You may handle small things by yourself. But retirement planning is delicate. One wrong move can disturb the whole plan. A Certified Financial Planner gives a clear road map. He helps you set the best mix. He reviews the plan every year. He adjusts the plan for market and life events.

This guidance is very useful in SWP because SWP needs discipline.

» Why not consider real estate
Some retirees think of using real estate for income. But real estate needs heavy work. It needs tenant work. It needs repair work. It needs legal care. It gives lumpy income. It gives no steady flow. So it is not fit for SWP planning.

Your present goal is steady income. Real estate will not give this.

» Why not consider annuities
Annuities give fixed income. But they lock your money. They give low returns. They do not beat inflation well. They reduce flexibility. For these reasons, they are not ideal for your long-term income.

Your idea of SWP with balanced mix is better.

» Keeping your portfolio healthy for 15 years
To keep your portfolio safe for 15 years, you must follow some habits:

Review every year with a Certified Financial Planner.

Adjust asset mix if needed.

Increase SWP amount slowly.

Reduce SWP for one or two years if markets fall very deep.

Protect your money from emotional moves.

Keep a two-year buffer in a low-risk fund.

Keep your growth part running for long.

These habits help your money last for the full 15-year horizon.

» Regular review helps you adapt
Markets will change. Your health may change. Your needs may change. A yearly review will help align your plan. It will help spot issues early. It will help guide the next year’s SWP.

Without reviews, even good plans can fail.

» Why a two-year cushion helps
A cushion fund is a simple idea. Keep two years of SWP in a low-risk debt fund. This money helps you draw income even in bad market years. You will not need to sell equity in weak phases. This protects your overall money. This makes your SWP more stable.

This cushion fund is an extra shield. It supports your 15-year income plan.

» Role of diversification
Your SWP works best when your portfolio is spread well. A spread can include:

Actively managed equity funds.

Hybrid funds.

Debt funds.

This spread reduces risk. It gives smoothness. It supports long-term income.

Avoid using too many funds. Keep it simple. A small number of quality funds is better.

» How your 4.8 percent looks in practice
A 4.8 percent withdrawal rate is comfortable for a 15-year horizon. If you follow discipline, your money will not face heavy pressure. If your portfolio grows at a steady pace, your principal will not erode fast. Even if growth shifts between years, the mixed structure will protect you.

Your plan is workable. It is sensible. It is future-friendly.

» Mistakes to avoid
Here are some mistakes you should avoid:

Do not chase high-return funds.

Do not raise SWP sharply in one year.

Do not keep too much money in equity.

Do not stop reviews.

Do not shift funds often without reason.

Do not look at direct plans if you prefer guidance.

These mistakes can disturb your portfolio health. Your SWP may suffer.

» Why not use direct funds if you need support
Direct plans give lower cost. But they give no guidance. Retired investors often need guidance. They need reviews. They need discipline. A regular plan through a qualified Mutual Fund Distributor with CFP skill gives support. It prevents panic reactions. This support is valuable in low market years.

» Healthy mindset for SWP
Try to see your SWP as a long journey. It needs calm mind. It needs steady steps. It needs slow corrections. It needs patience. If you stay steady, your SWP will stay healthy. You will enjoy peace.

» Practical steps you can start now
You may start with these steps:

Set clear needs for each year.

Fix a proper asset split.

Create a cushion fund for two years.

Start SWP from a low-risk fund or hybrid fund.

Keep equity for growth.

Add small hikes in SWP every few years.

This system supports long-term income.

» How your plan supports a joyful retired life
Your plan helps you live with comfort. It gives predictable cash flow. It gives you freedom from worry. It gives you clarity. You can focus on health, family, and peace. You do not need to watch markets each day.

Your retirement life becomes balanced.

» Final Insights
Your idea of taking Rs 40000 per month from a Rs 1 crore portfolio at 4.8 percent is workable. It fits well for a 15-year horizon. It supports your income. It protects your money if you set a balanced mix. You must follow steady reviews. You must keep a small cushion. You must avoid risky moves.

With these practices, your SWP plan can stay healthy for many years. Your future can stay peaceful and steady. You have already taken the right first step. Your clarity gives your plan strong power.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
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Is it worthwhile being an mbbs only doctor in India or is pg necessary as somebody who cannot toil 24-36 hours (as is the case with hospital duties) and is not well adequate for working under somebody and then do you still have to study after mbbs to level up or will you be contented with just mbbs. Pls don't answer objectively i really need to see the real picture
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Recently, I've seen many different comments on social media suggesting that finding a job after completing an MBBS is very difficult, with some graduates even working as delivery boys.

I believe MBBS is one of the few courses that allows for immediate entrepreneurship after graduation, while other fields often require additional support to start a business. Many medical shop owners are willing to provide a small space for consultations, which is not typically an option for graduates in other disciplines.

If you are financially constrained, it may be wise to stop after completing your MBBS degree for the time being. However, pursuing a postgraduate degree (PG) significantly increases your opportunities, including potential roles in the pharmaceutical industry. Without a PG, your options may be limited. It's akin to the difference between a normal grocery store and a supermarket: completing a PG can lead to positions in corporate medical hospitals.

Initially, you might consider working at a smaller practice or in the government sector before pursuing higher education. While having an MBBS degree allows you to offer consultations, having a PG provides you with more credibility and knowledge. Understand your strengths and weaknesses, and don’t worry about others—proceed based on your own abilities and circumstances.
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I have passed 12th from Maharashtra state board in 2023 ( as regular candidate ) and also gave improvement exam in Feb 2024 but I am not satisfied with my result can I give 12th board exam again from Maharashtra board as a private candidate 17 no. Form ??? I am already 12th passed so Is it illegal to appear from 17 no. Form ?
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Hi, what are your future plans? Please share so I can suggest a solution for you.
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Ramalingam

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 15, 2025Hindi
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Hi Experts, Help me plan for my family, including how to take services of a certified financial planner and their fee structure/charges. I am 35 years old, married with 2 daughters. Want to plan for their studies and self and spouse's retirement, assuming post retirement life of 15-20 years at then inflation rate. - I have 2 apartments, one paid for, one with 21L loan. Both 3bhk, and in Bangalore. - I have mutual funds portfolio of 36L (across multiple direct funds - 15% debt, mostly equity) - 5L in stocks, in core sectors (metal, industries etc) - approx 40L in PPF - SSY for elder kid, not started for younger one, but not very regular with contributions due to other liabilities - 65L in employer company stocks (I might switch employers but will leave the corpus to grow) - Health insurance.
Ans: You already did many right things at a young age. Your savings show clear care for your family. Your goals also show deep clarity. I appreciate your intent to build a strong long-term plan. You already created a very good base. Now you only need one clear roadmap that links every asset and goal.

Your Present Strengths
Your savings show smart thinking.
Your mix of assets is already wide.
You built strong discipline at age 35.
You planned for both kids.
You hold equity, debt, PPF, SSY, and employer stock.
You also hold two apartments.
You already use insurance.
These things give you very strong base power.
This base helps you plan the next 25 to 40 years.
This base also helps control risk in your later years.
Many people start late.
You are far ahead of them.

» Your Key Family Goals
Your main goals are clear.
You aim for kids’ education.
You aim for retirement.
Clarity like this helps a lot.
Your goals are long term.
Long term goals need stable plans.
Stable plans grow well with time.
You also want to manage liabilities.
This is also important.
Good planning here gives peace.
Your present age offers long compounding time.

» Understanding Your Current Assets
Let me read your assets with a calm view.

– You have two apartments. One is debt-free. One has Rs 21 lakh loan.
– You have Rs 36 lakh in mutual funds. You hold direct plans.
– You have Rs 5 lakh in stocks.
– You have Rs 40 lakh in PPF.
– You have SSY for elder daughter.
– You have employer RSU holding of around Rs 65 lakh.
– You have health insurance.

Your position is strong but not balanced.
Your money is not fully aligned with your goals yet.
A structured plan from now will bring strong clarity.

» Why Direct Mutual Funds May Not Suit Long-Term Family Goals
You hold direct mutual funds now.
Direct funds look cheaper.
But they need deep monitoring.
They need review of risk shifts.
They need review of performance cycles.
They also need sharp discipline during bad years.
Many investors lack time for such review.
Direct funds also offer no handholding.
You face all stress alone.
You also manage fund moves alone.
Wrong timing moves hurt long-term wealth.
Direct funds many times lead to wrong exits.
Direct funds can also lead to poor rebalancing.
These issues reduce your long-term wealth.

Regular funds through an MFD with CFP credential help reduce these risks.
You get structured reviews.
You get expert rebalancing.
You get behavioural guidance.
You get allocation support.
You get peace.
This support reduces mistakes.
Fewer mistakes mean more wealth for your family.

» Why Actively Managed Funds May Suit You Better
Your equity plan is long term.
Actively managed funds can adjust to market cycles.
They move between sectors.
They help lower downside risk in tough phases.
They seek better alpha.
Index funds cannot do this.
Index funds stay fixed.
Index funds buy both good and weak companies.
Index funds hold stressed sectors also.
Index funds give no flexibility.
Index funds also see high concentration risk in some indices.
Your goals need more smart risk control.
Actively managed funds help you do that.
This can improve long-term results.

» Reading Your Liabilities
Your only major loan is Rs 21 lakh.
This is not high for your income stage.
The key part is to keep EMI smooth.
Avoid pushing too fast.
Do not break your investment flow.
A balanced EMI and SIP mix works best.

» Kids’ Education Planning
You have two daughters.
Their costs rise with inflation.
This means you need long-term systematic plan.
These actions help:

– Keep SSY for elder daughter.
– Start one systematic plan for younger daughter also.
– Use mix of equity and debt for both.
– Use PPF partly for long-term support.
– Keep regular contributions small but steady.

This steady effort matters more than big jumps.
Kids’ education goals need at least 10 to 15 years.
So use mostly equity for growth.
Use a small part in debt for stability.

» Retirement Planning Strategy for You and Your Spouse
You have long time left to retirement.
This time gives power to equity allocation.
You also have PPF.
PPF adds safety.
Your retirement plan must cover 15 to 20 years of post-retirement life.
This needs inflation-adjusted planning.

Use these steps:

– Keep part of portfolio in actively managed equity funds.
– Keep debt for safety, not for returns.
– Continue PPF to add more secure base.
– Reduce exposure to employer stock slowly.
– Do not depend on employer stock for retirement.
– Build a separate retirement portfolio with strong diversification.

Retirement must not depend on one risky asset.
Retirement must not depend only on equity.
Retirement must not depend only on debt.
Use mix.
Use rebalancing.
Use review.

» Understanding Risk in Employer Stock Holding
You hold Rs 65 lakh in employer stock.
This is a big part of your wealth.
This creates concentration risk.
If the company faces issues, your wealth can fall.
You may switch jobs also.
So reduce this risk slowly.
Do not sell all at once.
Sell in small parts.
Shift the money to diversified funds.
This makes your long-term goals more safe.

» Your Real Estate Position
You already have two apartments.
Both are in Bangalore.
You do not need more property.
Real estate also locks money.
You already have enough exposure.
Future investments should not go into real estate.

» Building a Strong Asset Allocation Framework
A clear asset allocation gives you more clarity.
It helps your goals stay on track.
It also controls risk well.

Use these long-term steps:

– Give equity more share for growth.
– Give debt enough share for stability.
– Keep PPF as long-term safety tool.
– Keep kids’ education with separate planned buckets.
– Do not mix retirement and education funds.

Each goal gets its own plan.
This brings more order to your money.

» Systematic Investing for Smooth Growth
SIPs help you a lot.
You can use them to build each goal.
Use equity SIPs for long-term goals.
Use debt SIPs for stability.
Use slow and steady flow.
Try not to stop SIPs during market falls.
Falls help you buy cheap units.
Cheap units mean better long-term returns.

» Building Emergency and Protection Layers
Emergency fund is key.
Keep at least six months of expenses in safe place.
This protects your SIPs.
This also protects your long-term goals.
You already have health insurance.
Keep it updated.
Health costs can disrupt your plans.
Insurance helps avoid that.

» 360 Degree View of Your Full Plan
Your whole plan must work like one system.
Each goal must connect to proper assets.
Your loans must fit your cash flow.
Your savings must match your risk ability.
Your insurance must protect your savings.
Your kids’ plan must not disturb retirement.
Your retirement plan must not disturb kids’ plan.
Your portfolio must stay calibrated.
Your funds must stay reviewed.
Your behaviour must stay calm.
This is the real 360 degree planning.

A Certified Financial Planner helps align all of these.
This gives you one clear map for all goals.

» How to Work With a Certified Financial Planner
A Certified Financial Planner studies your goals.
The planner studies cash flow.
The planner reads your behaviour pattern.
The planner checks your risk level.
The planner designs asset allocation.
The planner selects right categories for you.
The planner reviews your plan each year.
The planner adjusts your portfolio when needed.
You get a complete service, not only fund selection.
You get a whole plan for your family.

» Why a Certified Financial Planner Adds Great Value
A planner helps avoid emotional mistakes.
Such mistakes reduce wealth.
A planner helps with rebalancing.
Rebalancing is key for safety and returns.
A planner handles asset mapping.
A planner keeps all goals aligned.
A planner helps you plan taxes.
A planner gives holistic guidance.
A planner gives discipline.
Discipline builds wealth.

A planner also tracks fund cycles.
A planner guides during market noise.
A planner keeps your plan steady.

This support helps your family’s long-term safety.

» Cash Flow Restructuring for Your Case
You have loan EMI.
You have investments.
You have kids’ expenses.
You need a clean cash flow map.
Use these steps:

– Fix monthly SIPs first.
– Keep EMI below safe limit.
– Keep emergency fund safe.
– Keep kids’ plan steady.
– Keep retirement SIP steady.
– Do not dip into long-term investments.

This pattern builds strong wealth.

» Insurance and Risk Protection
Health insurance is good.
But check if coverage is large enough.
Health costs grow each year.
A good health cover saves you from big shocks.

Also check life cover.
It must match income and goals.
Life cover must protect your family if something happens.
Do not use investment-linked policies.
Pure term cover is better.
It is simple.
It is clear.
It protects well.

» Tax Planning Across Assets
Use tax benefits from PPF.
Use tax benefits from SSY.
Use tax benefits from home loan.
Use long-term gains wisely when selling funds.

New tax rules apply:
Equity LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Equity STCG is taxed at 20%.
Debt funds are taxed as per your slab.

Plan sales with help of a Certified Financial Planner.
This helps keep taxes low.

» Finally
You already built a strong base.
You only need refined structure now.
Your goals are clear.
Your family needs long-term safety.
Your savings can meet those goals.
You need right alignment.
You need right fund mix.
You need expert review.
You need behavioural guidance.
These steps take you to peace and stability.

A Certified Financial Planner helps you bring all parts together.
This gives you a 360 degree family solution.
This gives you clarity for many years.
This gives your kids secure paths.
This gives you and your spouse a calm retired life.

You already have good strength.
With the right planning guidance, you can move even faster.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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