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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 17, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 02, 2025Hindi
Relationship

My husband loves me but he also chills with people who have hurt and insulted me in the past. He says they are his friends and family so he cannot ignore them. I feel very hurt when my partner ignores my feelings because he has never taken a stand for me. Am I wrong to expect my husband to support or comfort me?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
No, you are not wrong to expect to support or comfort you. But, simply asking him to stay away from people isn't going to solve anything. If anything, he's going to think that he is being controlled.
Instead, why don't you tell him exactly how you feel when that person is around you. Let him see what the other person and says and how that makes you feel; this can happen when you are face to face with that person and your husband also sees what exactly is happening.
Now, you may ask why you need to do so much to get it to your husband's notice; this is because despite you telling him, he has ignored it...so, you are having to take the longer route...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Dear Anu I am married to my husband for 9 years now. It was a love marriage and I have known him for over 12 years now. Over the last few years, so much has happened. We've disagreed over his friends, my in-laws, our political views. He has rarely ever supported me in public. Instead of finding a middle ground or finding solutions, he chooses to walk away because he likes to sit on the fence. Because of his silence, I am always portrayed as the villain of the story. He doesn't want to criticise anyone but has time and again blamed me for keeping him away from his 'close circle'. I don't understand how any of this is my fault when it is he who has distanced himself instead of sorting out differences when the time was right? Now, I have to think twice before expressing anything. This has naturally widened the gap between us and except for physical intimacy, we have lost the friendship we once shared. How do I deal with this?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Love marriages, we assume is safeguarded against any of the usual misunderstandings that crop up in a marriage that is arranged. But, I guess when you are in love, it usually takes a spin of 'anything is fine, because I love him/her'.
What this initial understanding does is keep you in a place of 'all is fine' which comes back to haunt you later in life. Your friends need not be equal to my friends, what you like to eat may not be what I like to eat, but in love this doesn't stand a chance. So, now that this is where both of you are, what I can suggest is:
- Go back to that moment where both of you thought of coming together into a marriage.
The reason is usually ONE strong one and it is the one that needs to serve as a reminder.
- Of course, like many will tell you, sit down as two mature adults and talk about what irks either of you and giving a patient listening to one another, even when they say things against you. Remember, you are rebuilding your marriage.
- Remind yourselves how you were in love, even if you have enough evidence now against it
- Learn to celebrate each other's individual lives; Chinese and Mexican food rarely go well together, yet we learn to relish them individually, don't we?
- His silence is his defence mechanism and the only way to break it is through a lot of reassurance that he will be heard
- A lot of care and love in creating moments where you can be by yourselves minus family, friends and children (if any) can give the two of you some time to resolve the underlying issues

It takes two to build a marriage and the blame game will continue...one of you has to break the pattern to draw a different perspective where the marriage seems every bit worth it.
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Your husband's behavior—doubting you without cause, subjecting you to daily verbal abuse, and physically harming you—is deeply troubling and completely unacceptable. It's important to acknowledge that no matter the circumstances, you do not deserve to be treated this way. The fear of societal judgment and concerns about reputation are common reasons people stay in harmful relationships, but your well-being and safety are far more important than maintaining appearances.

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Hi, I am 55 years of age, an NRI working in Dubai and my company has a medical insurance policy that covers all medical expenses for me and my wife all over the world. In 5 years time, upon retirement, I will relocate back to India. Will I be able to take a medical insurance policy for myself and my wife at the age of 60 years ? If I take a medical insurance policy now, would it help in reducing the insurance premium ? Kindly advice.
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You are 55, working in Dubai, and currently covered under your company’s medical insurance worldwide. That cover is excellent, but please remember one important thing: it ends the day your employment ends. Health insurance planning has to look beyond employment.

Can you take a health insurance policy in India at age 60?
Yes, you can. Most insurers in India do allow entry at 60 years and even later.
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Premiums are significantly higher

Medical tests and scrutiny are much stricter

Any lifestyle condition or past medical history can lead to waiting periods, exclusions, or higher premiums

So while it is possible, it is not ideal to start fresh at 60.

Will taking a policy now help reduce premium later?
The bigger benefit is not just premium, but certainty and continuity.

If you take a policy now at 55:

You enter at a lower age slab

Mandatory waiting periods (usually 2–4 years) get completed well before retirement

By the time you are 60, the policy becomes mature and far more useful

Underwriting happens when you are younger and healthier

Premiums will still rise with age, but you avoid the sharp jump and uncertainty of entering as a new senior citizen.

But since you already have full medical cover, is this necessary?
Think of this Indian policy as a retirement safety net, not a replacement for your employer cover.

You do not need to actively use it now.
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Many NRIs make the mistake of postponing this decision and then struggle at 60 when options become limited.

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Keep it straightforward:

A family floater for you and your wife

Decent coverage, not the bare minimum

Focus on hospitalisation benefits

Buy it with the intention of continuing it for life

Avoid over engineering the policy. Simplicity works best in health insurance.

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Most obvious question how can I take the family floater insurance most insurance will issue when you are visiting India

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I recently entered menopause, and I’ve noticed my weight going up no matter what I eat or how careful I try to be. Earlier, if I skipped sweets for a week or reduced portions, I could see a small difference, but now it feels like nothing works. My metabolism seems to have completely slowed down, and I also experience sudden mood swings, bloating, and fatigue. It’s quite frustrating because I’m eating mostly home food — chapati, sabzi, dal, very little oil — and I even try to go for walks regularly. Still, my clothes have become tighter and I feel more irritable than before. Some friends say it’s just hormonal and can’t be helped, while others suggest cutting carbs or going on a high-protein diet. But I’m not sure what’s safe or sustainable at this stage. Is there a specific kind of diet that can help women during menopause manage their weight, energy levels, and mood swings without feeling constantly hungry or deprived?
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