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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 25, 2025
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My husband launched a YouTube channel where he shares dramatic re-enactments of our marital arguments. He uses actual words and mannerisms that I use under the guise of 'relationship counselling'. Some of our common friends now make a joke about it. I feel he should have consulted me or at least asked for permission before using our marriage as an example. His intent may be right but I don't think he should have turned our marriage into an experiment. One of our neighbours recognised me from a video he shot without my consent.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Okay, clearly your husband is behaving like a child in an adult's body! What he is doing isn't agreed upon mutually by the two of you, right? Then please make sure to tell him that this is not something that you like or appreciate. To bring out the marriage into public without asking your permission is a breach of trust and that's what you could possibly be feeling. Be assertive about how you are feeling and tell him what exactly you would want him to do with the channel.
If you still feel unheard, kindly take this to a third party who can talk some sense into him. And oh, DO NOT give him consent even to shoot videos that have you in it.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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