Home > Relationship > Question
Need Expert Advice?Our Gurus Can Help
Anu

Anu Krishna  |1787 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Aug 11, 2025

Anu Krishna is a mind coach and relationship expert.
The co-founder of Unfear Changemakers LLP, she has received her neuro linguistic programming training from National Federation of NeuroLinguistic Programming, USA, and her energy work specialisation from the Institute for Inner Studies, Manila.
She is an executive member of the Indian Association of Adolescent Health.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Aug 06, 2025Hindi
Relationship

My husband cheated on me with my best friend who I treated like a sister. I was devastated. Now I have lost two most important people in my life. Worse? They are not even apologising for what they did. I wanted to talk, get some closure to understand what really happened. I wanted to know how long they've been dating each other. I feel betrayed and angry. I am also feeling helpless. What to do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
The question here must be: Do I want to put up with this rather than how long have they been dating each other? Don't you think?
There's no apology or even feeling sorry for what they have done; does that not tell you how much they do not value you? Or is there any more proof that you want?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

You may like to see similar questions and answers below

Anu

Anu Krishna  |1787 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 12, 2022

Listen
Relationship
Hello mam! Let me get straight into my story... I have 3 best friends. We were very close.One of them, say A, was in a relationship with a girl named B. We kind of set it up in 2019 but soon he lost interest. But she was into him. She begged him but he didn't respect her feelings. This went on for a year then she slowly began to move on.Meanwhile, the girl and I got close. When he didn’t respond to her, she would cry to me and I pacified her. We became good friends but it escalated and we got into a relationship. I didn't discuss it with my friends. I informed them only after we became serious. It broke our friendship. I had asked my friend A many times about her and he’d said it’s all over so I never thought of discussing. I wasn’t aware that he was thinking about patching up with her. Now none of my close friends talk to me. Since most of my other friends are common to both of us, my entire school friends’ circle is lost. I feel very lonely. I know it’s my mistake. I shouldn't have done it. I never expected him to consider reuniting with her. Now I feel guilty for cheating my best friend. I feel like I abducted his girlfriend from him. What should I do now? Should I break up my relationship? I know this won’t change anything now. But at least after a few years I can hope my friends will accept me. At the same time, I am into her so much and so is she but I feel terribly guilty and miss my friends. I am totally confused.Would like to know your thoughts on my situation!!
Ans: Dear AP,

I don’t know how old you are, but it seems to me that you have broken some unwritten Bro Code.

But honestly, from your story all I can fathom is that you are choosing to feel guilty simply because your ‘close’ friends as you call them, ignore you.

Isn’t it immature of you to actually not be able to make a decision in life that involves you and your relationships, or do you need the blessings of your so-called friends for it?

As far as you are concerned, things were over between your friend and the girl.

So, did you need to take their permission to date her?

Also, what about your other friends? Did they not bother to even hear from you once and choose to see things your way and patch thing between you and your friend?

Instead, they decided to play the judge and pronounce you guilty for an act that doesn’t seem to need that verdict.

So, do you still want to swim in the sea of guilt and see your relationship with the girl wash away with time OR do you want to go surf that tide and take charge of your decision? Get the drift here?

Step Up; all the best!

..Read more

Anu

Anu Krishna  |1787 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Sep 12, 2022

Listen
Relationship
Hello mam! Let me get straight into my story... I have 3 best friends. We were very close.One of them, say A, was in a relationship with a girl named B. We kind of set it up in 2019 but soon he lost interest. But she was into him. She begged him but he didn't respect her feelings. This went on for a year then she slowly began to move on.Meanwhile, the girl and I got close. When he didn’t respond to her, she would cry to me and I pacified her. We became good friends but it escalated and we got into a relationship. I didn't discuss it with my friends. I informed them only after we became serious. It broke our friendship. I had asked my friend A many times about her and he’d said it’s all over so I never thought of discussing. I wasn’t aware that he was thinking about patching up with her. Now none of my close friends talk to me. Since most of my other friends are common to both of us, my entire school friends’ circle is lost. I feel very lonely. I know it’s my mistake. I shouldn't have done it. I never expected him to consider reuniting with her. Now I feel guilty for cheating my best friend. I feel like I abducted his girlfriend from him. What should I do now? Should I break up my relationship? I know this won’t change anything now. But at least after a few years I can hope my friends will accept me. At the same time, I am into her so much and so is she but I feel terribly guilty and miss my friends. I am totally confused.Would like to know your thoughts on my situation!!
Ans: Dear AP,

I don’t know how old you are, but it seems to me that you have broken some unwritten Bro Code.

But honestly, from your story all I can fathom is that you are choosing to feel guilty simply because your ‘close’ friends as you call them, ignore you.

Isn’t it immature of you to actually not be able to make a decision in life that involves you and your relationships, or do you need the blessings of your so-called friends for it?

As far as you are concerned, things were over between your friend and the girl.

So, did you need to take their permission to date her?

Also, what about your other friends? Did they not bother to even hear from you once and choose to see things your way and patch thing between you and your friend?

Instead, they decided to play the judge and pronounce you guilty for an act that doesn’t seem to need that verdict.

So, do you still want to swim in the sea of guilt and see your relationship with the girl wash away with time OR do you want to go surf that tide and take charge of your decision? Get the drift here?

Step Up; all the best!

..Read more

Anu

Anu Krishna  |1787 Answers  |Ask -

Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Dec 28, 2023

Listen
Relationship
Hello, I am 41 year old professional. I had met my husband before marriage though social media 5 years back and thereafter maintaining distance relationship and meeting occasionally for 3 years we got married in 2021. It was a struggle for marriage as it was inter caste and inter religious marriage. Everything was smooth in relationship to the fact that I’m responsible for all financial matters as my husband has no job. He is still trying and looking for job. I didn’t mind much but would encourage him to get the job to be mentally and physically fit. Last year we went to his nephews marriage to his village. It was of 7 day programme. On second day I noticed him watching another women ( nephews mother’s sister who has 2 daughters) At that time I didn’t pay attention. After 2 days on a night function I saw my husband texting from far but he looked at that lady again. She also seemed to texting. I became suspicious. Later that night when he came to room I asked to show him his phone he was reluctant. I had to snatch his phone and I saw that he was texting the same lady and in that had asked her to meet her alone. and asking her where he can meet her. I gnashed cried and made a huge scene coz this was not what I had expected. He tried to convince that she was his girlfriend of past and suddenly after seeing her after sometime he only wanted to talk to her. I only asked her ... why alone? He had told me during dating that she had a girlfriend ( never told her identity) and that she has married and moved on. Feeling cheated I could not sleep but only cried that night and in the morning if we can return to our city. Programme had not finished but he agreed and we left. Since then that night and those days still haunt me ; thinking what didn’t I do to love him so much and in return we get cheated. I’m still with him, but mentally I still feel cheated and still am in doubt that he is in touch with her. I am not able to do my duties as part of my mind thinks he cheats me though I have confronted many times on this and he denies that he is not in touch with her Should I leave him or continue with this marriage? We still don’t have any baby.
Ans: Dear Vandana,
Clearly you are more into him than he is into you. Baby or no baby, he seems like someone who isn't going to be steady...what was the need to hide and plan a meeting and if the other lady has moved on, what is doing hanging around her?
And with no financial assurance and stability, he is only tuning his energies to external validation to 'up' his elf esteem...

Isn't it time you actually called him out for his wayward nature and his absolute reluctance to take on some responsibility in the marriage and home? The more you are quiet, the more he is going to feel that you are supporting this nonsense...call it out and NOW! And as for your state of mind, do know that you have it in you to hold your own...don't base you peace of mind on anything outside of you...

All the best!

..Read more

Ravi

Ravi Mittal  |719 Answers  |Ask -

Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Mar 18, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 17, 2024Hindi
Listen
Relationship
My wife has started an affair with her boss who is also my childhood best friends husband. Now both of them claim that it's friendship and nothing else but I have some messages which tell a different stories. My best friend and me tried to confront both but they deny any advancements and try to compare their friendship to ours. I am confused on what to do?? My best friend is telling me to take thing aggressively which might end in our divorce. I have a 12 yr boy whose future I don't want to be in trouble what is the best way forward
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand that you have tried to confront your wife and it has not shown any fruitful result. I am truly sorry that you have to face this; infidelity is not an easy subject to deal with. Here is what I am advising- since you are not being able to handle this yourself, which is understandable, consider seeking professional help. Marriage counseling can do wonders. The messages that triggered the suspicion in your mind can have a different side too. Just a theory. It is possible that your partner is oblivious to the fact that certain exchanges are not deemed friendly by most people. A professional counselor can help put things into perspective for both you and your wife. You will have clarity and it will also help you sort your feelings in a more structured way.

But if you do not want to go that route, I suggest you gather more evidence that makes your case stronger. Keep them safe and show them only when you are emotionally stable. Let her know that if it doesn't stop, you will have to bring the matter to light for both your families, and might take further steps.

It is commendable that you are so focused on your child's well-being. Keep reassuring him that regardless of what happens between you and his mother, both of you love him the same and he is not to blame for any of the hardships that you are facing in your marriage. Children tend to blame themselves for their parent's marital problems. And once again, I urge you to see a counselor; if not for yourself, do it for your child.

Best Wishes!

..Read more

Latest Questions
Nayagam P

Nayagam P P  |10992 Answers  |Ask -

Career Counsellor - Answered on Apr 16, 2026

Career
Sir , may i get a seat in nit patna with jee percentile 90 with home state quota
Ans: Pallavi, the rank range based on your 90 percentile is approximately 45000 to 75000, with females benefiting from gender-neutral quotas. However, exact rank depends on session normalization/the total number of students who appeared. You can use the NTA rank predictor post-exam from Google. Regarding chances of getting admission into NIT-Patna, based on the last 2-3 years' opening and closing ranks, please note, getting a seat in much-in-demand branches (such as CSE, ECE, Electronics (VLSI), Electrical, and AI-DS) will be difficult. However, chances are higher (till the last round of counseling) for Chemical Technology Dual Degree, Civil Engineering, Civil Engineering Specialisation (Dual Degree), Electrical Engineering Specialisation (Dual Degree), and Mechanical Engineering & Mechatronics/Automation (Slight Chances). It is advisable to fill out the maximum number of your preferred branches and those branches that are realistic to get admission to, and also please do not limit yourself to your home state only. If possible, be flexible and try to cover the maximum number of NITs in Northern/Northeastern states. And, if affordable by your parents, try 3-4 other reputed private engineering colleges also as backups with your JEE score, instead of relying only on NIT/JoSAA. Also, please note that your interest in any branch is important. Don't accept a branch you're not interested in or don't prefer. ALL the BEST for Your Prosperous Future!

Follow RediffGURUS to Know More on 'Careers | Money | Health | Relationships'.

...Read more

Aasif Ahmed Khan

Aasif Ahmed Khan   |171 Answers  |Ask -

Tech Career Expert - Answered on Apr 16, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 15, 2026Hindi
Career
Sir maine isi saal apni 12th pass ki hai and mai ab bsc karna chahti hu and mera dream cgl me income tax officer banna hai to mai chahti hu ki aap mujhe advice de ki mai abhi se apni preperation kis platform se start karu taki mera first attempt me hi ho jaye kyoki mere aas paas koi mujhe guide karne wala nhi hai mai ek chhote se gaon se hu aur mere paas ab sirf 4 se 5 saal varna fir saadi ho jayegi
Ans: Action Plan for First Attempt Success. Daily 3–4 hours enough hai (BSc ke saath manageable)
1. Abhi se ek trusted platform join karo.
2. Ek fixed timetable banao aur usko strictly follow karo.
a. 1 hour Maths
b. 1 hour Reasoning
c. 1 hour English
d. 30 min GK/Current affairs
else
a. Morning (2 hrs): Quantitative Aptitude practice
b. Afternoon (2 hrs): English grammar + comprehension
c. Evening (2 hrs): GK + Current Affairs
d. Night (1 hr): Reasoning practice + revision
dono me se jo best lage strict follow karna.

3. Mock tests aur PYQs ko apni preparation ka core banao.
4. Current Affairs daily update rakho (newspaper + monthly magazine).
5. CGL ek high competition exam hai, SSC CGL me 4 main subjects hote hain:
a. Quantitative Aptitude (Maths)
b. Reasoning
c. English
d. General Awareness (GK + Current Affairs)

6. Sirf “padh lena” enough nahi hota → practice + mocks = success, Bsc. 2nd year se serious mocks start karo.
Enroll in SSC Mahapack of anyone from Physics Wallah/Adda247/CareerWill (Maths + Reasoning)/KD Campus (English + practice)/Study IQ (GK basics).

7. Consistency sabse bada factor hai :
a. Maths: Basic se start karo (NCERT + practice) focus on Arithmetic topics: percentages, ratios, averages, profit & loss).
b. Reasoning: Easy scoring hai, roz thoda practice
c. English: Daily newspaper reading + grammar
d. Previous year questions solve karo
e. Mock tests start karo
f. Speed + accuracy build karo, make handwritten notes for GK and formulas.

8. Books
a. Maths: NCERT (Class 6–10) + SSC level practice + R.S. Aggarwal
b. English: Objective General English by S.P. Bakshi + Wren & Martin Grammar + Arihant English + daily newspaper The Hindu or Indian Express editorial.
c. GK: Lucent GK (basic ke liye best) + Current Affairs (monthly magazines) + basics of history, polity, geography.
d. Verbal & Non-Verbal Reasoning by R.S. Aggarwal, focus on puzzles, seating arrangement, coding-decoding.

#Overall Guide-Arihant SSC CGL Guide, Covers Tier 1 & 2 syllabus comprehensively.
#Practice Sets-Kiran’s SSC CGL Practice Papers, Large question bank with solutions.
#Previous Year Papers-Disha Topic-wise Solved Papers, Helps understand exam pattern & trends.

10. Social media distractions kam karo.
11. Too many sources creates confusion. Stick to 1 book per subject + 1 online course.
12. Avoid free random PDFs. Many are outdated or incorrect.

...Read more

Pushpa

Pushpa R  |76 Answers  |Ask -

Yoga, Mindfulness Expert - Answered on Apr 16, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 31, 2026Hindi
Health
I am 35 and I just had a baby last year. I have never joined a gym but now i have gained 14 kilos. My body still doesn't feel like mine, and I don’t want to rush into heavy workouts. When is it actually safe to start postnatal yoga for weight loss? I had a c-sec delivery.
Ans: First, please don’t rush or feel pressured. Your body has gone through a big change. It needs time, care, and patience—especially after a C-section.

When to start postnatal yoga?
After a C-section, usually 8–12 weeks rest is needed before starting gentle yoga. But this is not the same for everyone. You must take doctor’s approval first before starting.

Even after approval, don’t jump into weight loss yoga immediately.

Start in stages:

1. First stage (very gentle)
Deep breathing, simple hand and leg movements, relaxation. This helps healing and reduces stress.

2. Second stage
Pelvic floor strengthening and mild core activation. This is very important after delivery.

3. Third stage (gradual weight loss)
Slow Surya Namaskar, Bhujangasana, Setu Bandhasana, and gentle twists. This will slowly reduce weight and tone the body.

Remember, your goal is not just weight loss. It is to rebuild strength, hormones, and energy.

Also, lack of sleep and stress can slow weight loss. So be kind to yourself.

Please don’t practice from videos. Postnatal recovery needs careful guidance, especially after C-section. A qualified yoga and meditation coach can safely guide your recovery step by step.

You will feel like yourself again—slowly and naturally.

R. Pushpa, M.Sc (Yoga)
Online Yoga & Meditation Coach
Radiant YogaVibes
https://www.instagram.com/pushpa_radiantyogavibes/

...Read more

Pushpa

Pushpa R  |76 Answers  |Ask -

Yoga, Mindfulness Expert - Answered on Apr 16, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2026Hindi
Health
My teenage son is stuck with his phone playing games and chatting on some app. He is in class 9 and struggling with focus, screen addiction, and mood swings. Can you suggest some yoga or mindfulness techniques to improve concentration, emotional stability, and sleep? I have tried cutting his screen time but he stopped talking to me. What should I do?
Ans: I understand your concern. At this age, forcing or cutting suddenly can create distance. Your son is not “wrong” — he is just stuck in a habit loop. First, rebuild connection, then slowly guide change.

What should you do first?
Talk to him calmly, not as a parent correcting him, but as a friend listening. Avoid blaming. Ask simple questions like, “Are you feeling stressed?” or “Is something bothering you?” When he feels understood, he will open up.

Now, introduce yoga and mindfulness gently:

Start with 5 minutes only – don’t force long sessions.
Deep breathing (Anulom Vilom) – improves focus and calms mind.
Bhramari (humming breath) – reduces anger and mood swings.
Simple stretches + Surya Namaskar (slow) – releases restlessness.
Trataka (candle gazing) – improves concentration.
Short meditation before sleep – helps better sleep.

Make it a family activity, not a punishment. Even 10 minutes together builds bonding.

Also, don’t remove phone completely. Instead, create small limits and replace with engaging activities like sports or music.

Most important, teenage minds need careful handling. Please don’t try everything on your own. A trained yoga and meditation coach can guide both you and your son in a safe, friendly way.

R. Pushpa, M.Sc (Yoga)
Online Yoga & Meditation Coach
Radiant YogaVibes
https://www.instagram.com/pushpa_radiantyogavibes/

...Read more

Pushpa

Pushpa R  |76 Answers  |Ask -

Yoga, Mindfulness Expert - Answered on Apr 16, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 31, 2026Hindi
Health
I wake up every morning with extreme pain in my heels. I can't put my foot down for a very long time. I am 41. I am not diabetic. Can you suggest some remedy or yoga exercises I can do?
Ans: Morning heel pain like you described is very common. It is often due to stiffness in the foot muscles after long rest (sometimes called plantar fascia tightness).

Don’t worry—yoga and simple care can help. But you must be gentle.

First, before getting out of bed:
Move your feet slowly. Point toes up and down, rotate ankles. This reduces sudden pain when you step down.

Yoga practices you can do:

1. Ankle rotation – 10 times each side, very slow.
2. Toe stretch – sit and gently pull toes towards you.
3. Tadasana (standing) – improves weight balance on feet.
4. Vajrasana (if comfortable) – improves circulation in legs.
5. Calf stretch (wall support) – reduces heel strain.
6. Pavanamuktasana (lying) – improves blood flow and relaxation.

Simple daily care:
Use warm water soaking for feet. Avoid walking barefoot on hard floor. Wear soft, supportive footwear.

Very important: do not ignore pain and don’t do strong poses suddenly. Wrong practice can increase strain.

Your body needs a personalized plan based on your condition. I strongly suggest learning from a qualified yoga or meditation coach instead of practicing on your own.

With the right guidance and regular practice, pain can reduce slowly.

R. Pushpa, M.Sc (Yoga)
Online Yoga & Meditation Coach
Radiant YogaVibes
https://www.instagram.com/pushpa_radiantyogavibes/

...Read more

Pushpa

Pushpa R  |76 Answers  |Ask -

Yoga, Mindfulness Expert - Answered on Apr 16, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2026Hindi
Pushpa

Pushpa R  |76 Answers  |Ask -

Yoga, Mindfulness Expert - Answered on Apr 16, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2026Hindi
Health
I'm a working mother battling extreme anxiety. I visited a therapist who suggested meditation and journaling to express my feelings. But it is not helping, I am not able to calm down and sit quietly to meditate. What should I do?
Ans: I understand what you are going through. When anxiety is high, sitting quietly for meditation can feel very difficult. Please don’t force yourself to “sit still and calm down.” It can increase frustration.

Start with movement before meditation.

Your body is restless, so first release that tension:

1. Gentle movements (5–10 minutes)
Neck rolls, shoulder rotations, slow walking. This helps the body settle.

2. Breathing practice
Try deep belly breathing. Inhale slowly, exhale longer than inhale. No pressure to be perfect. Just breathe.

3. Bhramari (humming breath)
Close eyes, gently hum. The vibration naturally calms the mind.

4. Short guided relaxation
Lie down in Shavasana. No effort. Just listen to your breath. Even 3–5 minutes is enough.

Meditation does not always mean “sitting silently.” For you, it can begin with breathing and relaxation. Slowly, your mind will become ready.

Also, journaling may feel heavy sometimes. Instead, write just one line: “What am I feeling right now?” Keep it simple.

Most important, please don’t handle this alone. Anxiety needs gentle, step-by-step guidance. A trained yoga and meditation coach can support you personally and safely.

You are not alone in this journey. With the right approach, calmness will come.

R. Pushpa, M.Sc (Yoga)
Online Yoga & Meditation Coach
Radiant YogaVibes
https://www.instagram.com/pushpa_radiantyogavibes/

...Read more

DISCLAIMER: The content of this post by the expert is the personal view of the rediffGURU. Investment in securities market are subject to market risks. Read all the related document carefully before investing. The securities quoted are for illustration only and are not recommendatory. Users are advised to pursue the information provided by the rediffGURU only as a source of information and as a point of reference and to rely on their own judgement when making a decision. RediffGURUS is an intermediary as per India's Information Technology Act.

Close  

You haven't logged in yet. To ask a question, Please Log in below
Login

A verification OTP will be sent to this
Mobile Number / Email

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to

Resend OTP in120seconds

Dear User, You have not registered yet. Please register by filling the fields below to get expert answers from our Gurus
Sign up

By signing up, you agree to our
Terms & Conditions and Privacy Policy

Already have an account?

Enter OTP
A 6 digit code has been sent to Mobile

Resend OTP in120seconds

x