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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Dec 12, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 12, 2025Hindi
Relationship

I have a huge crush on my college professor. He is 41, tall, looks smart and teaches management in two other colleges. Lot of girls like him but he has never taken advantage of that, at least not that I know of. I even found out that he got divorced two years ago. My friend told me that she saw his profile on a dating app. Ever since then, I've been wanting to tell him how I feel. I don't want to have an affair in college, but I just want to tell him how much I admire him. I am 19 and this is the first time I have felt this way about any guy. My friends think I am crazy, this is just hormones. How to find out if this is real?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Age difference doesn’t matter as much in today’s date, but you are very young right now. And the problem in this scenario is not age as much as it is the fact that he is your professor. The fact that you have never heard him getting involved with any other girl from your college means he respects the teacher-student relationship and has boundaries. It would be a breach of his boundaries and also you will probably make him uncomfortable with such a declaration. I would discourage the idea.

Hope this helps.

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Hi I'm a 40, widow, mother of 3. I'm in a relationship with a man who is 10 yrs older to me. He is married, has his wife and kids. We are seeing eachother for the last 2 years. He is a 100% family man. He is very helpful in nature, he will do all he can to help anyone. The same way he is always there for me.. I ask him for opinions and suggestions, and he readily helps. We get cozy with eachother. He says that he has feelings for me and I too have feelings for him. It pains me when we do not talk or meet due to his busy schedule. But he calls every day. He loves his family very much. But what is our relationship?
Ans: It sounds like you have a meaningful connection with this man, but the nature of your relationship is complex, given his family commitments and responsibilities. While he provides you with support and companionship, his primary loyalty remains with his family. For many people in situations like this, the relationship can feel like it’s in a gray area—somewhere between a friendship and a romance—but it lacks the definition and commitment that usually characterize a stable partnership.

The feelings you both share are real, and it’s understandable that you enjoy his presence, advice, and care, especially since you’re navigating life on your own with three children. However, his involvement with his family sets limitations on what this relationship can be. Despite his feelings for you, his commitment to his family will likely always be his priority, and this can often mean your needs might go unfulfilled or be deprioritized.

Given this dynamic, it may be worthwhile to reflect on what you genuinely want from this relationship and whether it aligns with the reality of his availability and his priorities. Sometimes, knowing the nature of what you need—whether it’s companionship, support, or a romantic commitment—can help you decide if this relationship can give you fulfillment or if you would like something with more clarity and stability.

Ultimately, how you choose to define or continue this relationship is up to you, but reflecting on your own needs and boundaries will help you find a path forward that respects both of you and brings you the emotional security you deserve.

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 27, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 24, 2025Hindi
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Hi Anu I'm 35, recently widowed. My husband passed away in a road accident. I was in a state of shock when he left me. I took a break from everything and resumed office only six months ago. A young man from my office, whose engagement was cancelled last year, has started showing interest in me. I don't know if he is doing it out of sympathy that I am a widow. But I am beginning to enjoy his company. I am surprised and also worried if it is too soon. I never believed there would be another guy in my life after my husband. Do you think I am feeling lonely? He's 37, gentle and respectful. We haven't kissed or got intimate. No flirting either. We like each other's company and there is an instant spark how we light each others' lives. I don't know if I am open to love, if this relationship will work. I don't know yet but how do I check if I am emotionally vulnerable? My family and in-laws would disapprove if I moved on 'so soon.' Is it wrong to date someone so early? I am feeling guilty too.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am truly sorry for your loss.
And NO, it is not wrong to date someone; early or not is something that is very subjective in nature. It is possible that family and in-law may disapprove of you moving on, but over time when they realize that you are searching for a true companion and if the person is someone that they can trust, there maybe no reason why they will object.

Now, here comes a reality check questions;
- Are you jumping into another relationship after you have healed from your grief and you feel that you are ready for a new journey
OR
- Are you impulsively giving into your feelings of loneliness and this gentleman seems to fit the label of someone who is caring and keeps you distracted from your grief?

If it's the first case, then I am sure you know that it feels right; then it's just a matter of your family understanding it when they can...
But if it's the second case, please exercise caution as it can backfire leaving you feeling more lonely and less fulfilled...

Evaluate it keeping your emotions aside and I am sure you will come to the right decision.

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Hi, I am 55 years of age, an NRI working in Dubai and my company has a medical insurance policy that covers all medical expenses for me and my wife all over the world. In 5 years time, upon retirement, I will relocate back to India. Will I be able to take a medical insurance policy for myself and my wife at the age of 60 years ? If I take a medical insurance policy now, would it help in reducing the insurance premium ? Kindly advice.
Ans: Hi Girish

You are 55, working in Dubai, and currently covered under your company’s medical insurance worldwide. That cover is excellent, but please remember one important thing: it ends the day your employment ends. Health insurance planning has to look beyond employment.

Can you take a health insurance policy in India at age 60?
Yes, you can. Most insurers in India do allow entry at 60 years and even later.
However, at that age:

Premiums are significantly higher

Medical tests and scrutiny are much stricter

Any lifestyle condition or past medical history can lead to waiting periods, exclusions, or higher premiums

So while it is possible, it is not ideal to start fresh at 60.

Will taking a policy now help reduce premium later?
The bigger benefit is not just premium, but certainty and continuity.

If you take a policy now at 55:

You enter at a lower age slab

Mandatory waiting periods (usually 2–4 years) get completed well before retirement

By the time you are 60, the policy becomes mature and far more useful

Underwriting happens when you are younger and healthier

Premiums will still rise with age, but you avoid the sharp jump and uncertainty of entering as a new senior citizen.

But since you already have full medical cover, is this necessary?
Think of this Indian policy as a retirement safety net, not a replacement for your employer cover.

You do not need to actively use it now.
You just need it to run in the background, so that when you return to India, you are not forced to buy insurance at the worst possible time.

Many NRIs make the mistake of postponing this decision and then struggle at 60 when options become limited.

What kind of policy should you consider?
Keep it straightforward:

A family floater for you and your wife

Decent coverage, not the bare minimum

Focus on hospitalisation benefits

Buy it with the intention of continuing it for life

Avoid over engineering the policy. Simplicity works best in health insurance.

Final advice
Health insurance is one area where early action quietly pays off later.
You may never thank yourself at 60 for buying a policy at 55, but you will definitely regret not doing it if a medical issue arises.

Most obvious question how can I take the family floater insurance most insurance will issue when you are visiting India

Few insurance will issue incase your are not able to visit Indian the cost of medical test in your abroad hospital or clinic will cost you heavy on pockets

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 03, 2025Hindi
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I recently entered menopause, and I’ve noticed my weight going up no matter what I eat or how careful I try to be. Earlier, if I skipped sweets for a week or reduced portions, I could see a small difference, but now it feels like nothing works. My metabolism seems to have completely slowed down, and I also experience sudden mood swings, bloating, and fatigue. It’s quite frustrating because I’m eating mostly home food — chapati, sabzi, dal, very little oil — and I even try to go for walks regularly. Still, my clothes have become tighter and I feel more irritable than before. Some friends say it’s just hormonal and can’t be helped, while others suggest cutting carbs or going on a high-protein diet. But I’m not sure what’s safe or sustainable at this stage. Is there a specific kind of diet that can help women during menopause manage their weight, energy levels, and mood swings without feeling constantly hungry or deprived?
Ans: During menopause, weight gain and fatigue are common due to hormonal changes and a slower metabolism, but the right diet can help. A balanced approach is beneficial, such as a Mediterranean-style diet or a modified high-protein plan that emphasizes whole grains, lean protein, healthy fats, and plenty of vegetables. This supports weight management, stabilizes mood, and boosts energy without leaving you hungry. Pairing this with strength training, good sleep, and stress management can help you manage weight, energy, and mood swings sustainably.

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