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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Feb 18, 2026

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Kritika Question by Kritika on Feb 05, 2026Hindi
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Hey mam!! Mera 7 years ka relationship hai or muje pichle 2 saalo se overthinking anxiety ho rahi thi ki mere parents humari intercaste marriage ke liye mangenge ya nhi abhi kuch jada hi anxiety hone lagi thi to mene apki maa se bata diya unhone bhaut hi negative answer diya tab se meri anxiety or bhi jada badh gayi muje thoughts aate h ki ab breakup kar lena chahiye parents nhi manenge ye galat hai breakup kar lena chahiye sab end kar dena chahiye

Ans: Dear Kritika,
Ab relationship banane waqt yeh anxiety kahaan thi? Ab yeh sochke pareshaan hone ke bajaai, yeh socho ki is maamle ko kaise suljhaaya jaaye. Apne partner aur tum milke is samasya ko ek acche anjaam tak pahunchke ke liye baithke ek raasta dhoondhe. Bas apni Maa se baat ki aur ghabraa gayi? Har ghar mein relationship ko khule dil se apnaya nahin jaata...
Apne partner se kahe ki woh bhi koshish karein jab aap apne family se baat karne wali hain...
Anxiety se aapki pareshaani aur badhegi, isse accha joga ki plan banaaye aur tayyar rahein...

All the best!
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Dating someone older than you is not the problem, but the fact that you are making major life decisions based on what he wants and doesn't want is concerning. I am guessing that you decided to not get married because he doesn't want it either. Is that fair to you? You yourself mentioned that you often feel lonely. Don't you think you deserve better? Don't you deserve someone who would love you and would like to spend the rest of their life with you? Please reconsider this relationship. Speak to your partner and ask him what his plans are for the future. Does he want to settle down with you? How will you two continue this relationship in the future? There are many important questions that need answering. Sort them out and you will have the solution to your dilemma.


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Ans: Dear Sapna,
Aap jo mehsoos kar rahi hain, woh samajhna zaroori hai. Aapka dar, ki wo aapko chhod dega, bohot ghera hai, aur yeh aapke mental health par bhi asar kar raha hai. Aapne kaha ki aapke partner ne aapko shadi ka vishwas diya hai, lekin aapko lagta hai ki wo apne parivaar ki baaton se prabhavit ho raha hai.

Is situation mein aapko apne liye khud se sawal karne ki zaroorat hai. Aapko yeh dekhna hoga ki kya aap iss rishtay mein khush hain, aur kya aapki zarooratein aur khwahishein poori hoti hain. Kya aapke partner ne aapke liye poora bharosa aur samman diya hai? Agar aapko unki taraf se milne wale pyar aur izzat mehsoos nahi hoti, toh yeh sochne ki baat hai.

Agar aapko physical intimacy se takleef ho rahi hai ya aap isse khush nahi hain, toh kya aapne unse is vishay par khuli baat ki hai? Yeh samajhna zaroori hai ki aapka man aur sharir dono ke liye yeh kitna zaroori hai. Agar aapko lagta hai ki wo aapko samajh nahi raha hai ya sirf apne fayde ke liye aapka istemal kar raha hai, toh aapko sochne ki zaroorat hai ki kya yeh rishta aapke liye sahi hai ya nahi. Aapka mental health sabse pehle aata hai, aur agar aap is rishtay se pareshaan hain, toh aapko thoda waqt lene ki zaroorat hai apne liye.

Agar aapko is rishte mein koi bhi doubt hai ya aap khud ko nahi samajh pa rahi hain, toh kisi counselor ya trusted dost se baat karna bhi achha rahega. Woh aapko naye nazariye se sochne mein madad kar sakte hain. Aakhir mein, yaad rakhiye, aap deserving hain pyar, izzat, aur khushi ke. Apne liye khud ka khayal rakhna zaroori hai, chahe wo rishte mein ho ya nahi. Aap akeli nahi hain, aur apne liye sahi faisla lena aapka hak hai.

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Ans: Your daughter may consider switching to MSRIT CSE through COMEDK if her initial experience at IGDTUW has led her to reassess her choice. MSRIT offers good industry exposure and the advantage of Bengaluru’s strong technology ecosystem. However, it would be advisable to visit MSRIT and interact with current students before making the final decision.

Please also verify the current COMEDK counselling and reporting status, as deadlines and eligibility can vary by round. Before proceeding, confirm that her specific counselling status permits admission/reporting at MSRIT.

At the same time, it is important to remember that no institution is perfect; every college has its own strengths and areas for improvement. The decision should therefore consider academics, campus environment, faculty interaction, placements, peer group, location and overall student experience.

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Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |11390 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Aug 11, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 28, 2026
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I am a 49 year old working as an E-Surveillance engineer at a Service provider in Chennai. I am on notice period. I am planning to start my own consulting services as free lancing in the same field. I have also got one contract worth 13 lakhs on which I will start working on from August onwards. These are just my annual consulting charges which will be paid by the customer on monthly basis after deducting 10% TDS. I need to understand how will my Tax liability be calculated for this FY. I am expecting one more contract worth 3-4 lakhs. Do I need to register for GST number? I have always done a job for 27 years. This is the first time I am doing something on my own. Hence these queries.
Ans: You have taken a good step by moving towards consulting. Having a Rs.13 Lakhs contract already is a strong starting point. Since this is your first year as a freelancer, keeping tax and compliance organised is important.

» Your Income For This FY

Your consulting receipts will generally be treated as professional income.

Your expected receipts are:

– First contract: Rs.13 Lakhs
– Possible second contract: Rs.3–4 Lakhs
– Total expected professional receipts: around Rs.16–17 Lakhs

The 10% TDS deducted by your customer is not an additional tax.

It is advance tax already collected on your behalf.

The TDS will be available as credit while filing your ITR.

» How Your Taxable Income Works

You will not normally pay income tax on the entire billing amount.

Eligible business or professional expenses can be considered while calculating taxable professional income.

For example:

– Laptop and computer expenses.
– Internet and communication costs.
– Software and subscriptions.
– Professional services.
– Office-related expenses.
– Travel related to consulting work.
– Other genuine business expenses.

Keep proper bills and payment records.

Personal expenses should not be claimed as professional expenses.

» Presumptive Tax Option

You may also check whether the presumptive taxation provisions applicable to specified professionals can be used.

This can simplify compliance for eligible professionals.

However, eligibility depends on the exact nature of your consulting activity and your receipts.

Your CA should confirm this before you choose the method.

» TDS Deduction

Your customer deducting 10% TDS does not mean your final tax rate is 10%.

It only represents tax deducted from your payment.

Your final tax liability will depend on your total taxable income for the year.

You will receive TDS credit while filing your income-tax return.

If the TDS is higher than your final liability, the excess can generally be claimed as refund.

» GST Registration

This needs careful attention.

GST registration is generally linked to aggregate turnover and the nature of services.

For service providers, the normal threshold is generally Rs.20 Lakhs in many states.

However, GST rules have several exceptions.

The place of supply and nature of your customer can also matter.

If your expected consulting turnover is around Rs.16–17 Lakhs, you may be below the normal threshold.

But do not decide only based on turnover.

Your exact consulting arrangement should be checked.

» Important GST Point

If your customer is located outside India, the GST treatment can be different.

Export of services has separate conditions.

Similarly, certain services supplied to customers in other states can require additional review.

Therefore, share the following with your CA:

– Customer location.
– Your location.
– Contract terms.
– Nature of E-Surveillance services.
– Annual contract value.
– Payment terms.
– Whether the customer is Indian or overseas.

» Advance Tax

This is another important point.

TDS may not cover your final tax liability.

If your estimated total tax payable crosses the applicable advance-tax threshold, advance tax may be required.

Do not wait until ITR filing to arrange the full tax amount.

Keep a separate bank balance for tax payments.

This will prevent cash-flow pressure later.

» Business Setup

Since you are starting freelancing after 27 years of employment, keep the setup simple initially.

Maintain:

– Separate bank account for consulting receipts.
– Proper invoices.
– Expense records.
– Customer contracts.
– TDS certificates.
– GST records if registration becomes applicable.
– Advance-tax payment records.

This will make future tax filing much easier.

» Transition From Salary To Consulting

Your first year needs extra care.

You may have salary income for part of the year.

You will then have professional income from consulting.

Both incomes will form part of your overall taxable income.

Also consider your final salary, notice-period payments, leave encashment and other employment-related receipts.

These should be included correctly.

» Retirement And Insurance

At age 49, your retirement planning should continue even after leaving employment.

EPF contributions may reduce or stop after leaving the job.

Therefore, create a separate retirement investment plan from your consulting income.

Also review your health insurance.

Do not depend only on your employer's medical cover after leaving the company.

Maintain adequate personal health insurance.

» Final Insights

Your Rs.13 Lakhs contract gives you a good base for starting consulting.

The possible Rs.3–4 Lakhs additional contract can strengthen your cash flow.

For GST, your expected Rs.16–17 Lakhs turnover appears below the normal service threshold.

Still, GST applicability depends on your customer and service details.

For income tax, the 10% TDS is only a tax credit.

Your final liability depends on your total taxable income and eligible expenses.

Since this is your first year as a consultant, I strongly suggest having a CA set up your invoicing, GST position and advance-tax schedule correctly.

Once the structure is set, managing your consulting income should become quite straightforward.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

AMFI-Registered MFD – ARN 4188

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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Ramalingam Kalirajan  |11390 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Aug 11, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Jul 27, 2026
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I have invested in the following MFs 1) ICICI prudential BHARAT 22 FOF direct growth ₹210000 2) quant multi asset allocation find ₹318000 3) ICICI prudential multi asset fund ₹210000 4) kotak multi cap fund direct growth ₹150000 5) nippon india large cap fund direct growth ₹150000 6) nippon india multi cap fund direct growth ₹130000 7) HDFC balanced advantage fund direct growth ₹130000 8) ICICI prudential large cap fund direct growth ₹ 120000 9) HDFC flexi cap direct plan growth ₹ 90000 10) parag parikh flexi cap fund direct growth ₹92000 11) motilal oswal large and midcap fund direct growth ₹ 80000 12) motilal oswal BSE enhanced value index fund direct growth ₹ 80000 13) nippon india multi asset allocation fund direct growth ₹ 70000 14) HSBC value fund direct growth ₹ 55000 15) HDFC mid cap fund direct growth ₹ 50000 16) HDFC multi cap fund direct growth ₹ 55000 17) motilal oswal midcap fund direct growth ₹ 58000 18) SBI contra plan direct growth ₹ 54000 19) HDFC focused fund direct growth ₹ 43000 20) kotak debt hybrid fund direct growth ₹ 32000 21) ICICI prudential short term fund direct plan growth ₹ 20000 22) nippon india small cap fund direct growth ₹ 16000 23) HDFC short term debt fund direct plan growth ₹15000 . Please tell me which among them I should continue paying for SIP and which of them I should stop payment for SIP. Some of these are one time investment. I am 50 years old. These investments I have made since November 2024 till June 2026.
Ans: You have made a serious effort to diversify. However, 23 funds at age 50 is more than needed. The bigger issue is overlap, not lack of funds.

» Overall Assessment

Your portfolio has many funds doing similar jobs.

You have several:

– Flexi-cap and multi-cap funds.
– Large-cap funds.
– Multi-asset funds.
– Balanced advantage funds.
– Mid-cap funds.
– Debt funds.
– Value and contra strategies.
– A small-cap fund.
– A Bharat 22 themed exposure.
– An index-based value fund.

This makes monitoring difficult.

At age 50, I would prefer a simpler portfolio.

» SIPs I Would Continue

Based on the information provided, I would retain SIPs mainly in these categories:

– One good flexi-cap fund.
– One good multi-cap fund.
– One mid-cap fund.
– One balanced advantage fund.
– One multi-asset allocation fund.
– One small-cap fund, but with limited allocation.
– One short-duration debt fund, if debt exposure is required.

You do not need multiple funds within each category.

» SIPs I Would Stop

I would stop fresh SIPs in overlapping categories.

Specifically, review and stop SIPs in:

– Additional large-cap funds beyond one.
– Additional multi-cap funds beyond one.
– Additional flexi-cap funds beyond one.
– Additional multi-asset funds beyond one.
– Focused fund.
– Contra fund.
– Value-oriented fund if your core portfolio already has sufficient value exposure.
– Bharat 22 themed exposure.
– Index-based value fund.
– Debt hybrid fund if the balanced advantage and multi-asset allocation already provide enough stability.
– Additional short-term debt fund if one debt fund is sufficient.

Stopping an SIP does not mean selling the existing investment.

That distinction is very important.

» Your Large-Cap Exposure

You currently have multiple large-cap funds.

This creates unnecessary duplication.

One well-selected large-cap strategy is sufficient.

If you already have a strong flexi-cap and multi-cap allocation, even a separate large-cap fund may not be essential.

Therefore, I would stop fresh SIPs in the extra large-cap exposures.

» Your Multi-Cap And Flexi-Cap Exposure

You have several funds across these categories.

There is significant overlap here.

For future SIPs, keep only one core flexi-cap or multi-cap strategy.

You can retain another existing holding temporarily.

But avoid adding fresh money to all of them.

» Your Multi-Asset Exposure

You have multiple multi-asset funds.

This is another clear area of duplication.

Choose one suitable multi-asset strategy for future SIPs.

Stop fresh SIPs in the others.

The existing money need not be sold immediately.

» Mid-Cap Exposure

You have more than one mid-cap-oriented fund.

Keep one strong mid-cap strategy.

Stop SIPs in the additional mid-cap holding.

Mid-cap exposure can still be useful at age 50.

But it should not become an excessive part of your portfolio.

» Small-Cap Exposure

Your small-cap investment is currently relatively small.

A limited small-cap allocation can be retained if your retirement goal is still many years away.

I would not increase it aggressively.

At age 50, portfolio stability becomes more important.

» Bharat 22 And Index-Based Exposure

Your Bharat 22 FOF is a specialised exposure.

It should not be treated as a core diversified equity holding.

The index-based value fund also follows a rules-based index approach.

I would not use either as a core SIP allocation.

For the core portfolio, I prefer actively managed funds.

An active manager can change sector and stock exposure based on valuations and business conditions.

An index strategy generally follows its predefined rules.

It has less flexibility when market conditions change.

» Direct Plans

You have invested mostly through direct plans.

Direct plans have a lower expense ratio.

But there is no distributor-level portfolio service attached.

This becomes more important when you have 23 funds.

Managing overlap, rebalancing and goal allocation can become difficult.

Regular plans through an MFD have a higher expense structure.

But you also get ongoing portfolio review and service support.

For a portfolio of this size and complexity, proper monitoring can be more valuable than simply focusing on the lower expense ratio.

» One-Time Investments

Do not automatically sell one-time investments just because you stop the SIP.

Stopping SIP and redeeming are separate decisions.

First consolidate the future SIP structure.

Then review existing holdings based on:

– Current valuation.
– Tax impact.
– Holding period.
– Portfolio overlap.
– Retirement requirement.
– Exit load, if applicable.

This can avoid unnecessary taxation and unnecessary switching.

» Suggested Portfolio Structure

At age 50, I would aim for a much simpler structure.

A possible structure could have:

– 1 flexi-cap or multi-cap fund.
– 1 mid-cap fund.
– 1 balanced advantage fund.
– 1 multi-asset fund.
– 1 limited small-cap fund.
– 1 suitable debt fund.

That is enough for most investors.

You do not need 23 schemes to achieve diversification.

» Important Point About Your Age

You have around 10–15 years before retirement, depending on your retirement plan.

Therefore, equity should still remain an important growth component.

But taking unnecessary risk is not required.

Your portfolio should gradually become more stable as retirement approaches.

Start reducing equity risk well before the actual retirement date.

» Final Insights

Your biggest improvement will come from consolidation.

Do not keep adding funds simply because each fund looks attractive individually.

A good portfolio is not a collection of good funds.

It is a collection of funds that work well together.

I would stop most duplicate SIPs now.

Retain a small number of core categories.

Then review the existing Rs. amounts separately before deciding what to redeem.

At age 50, simplicity, diversification and retirement readiness should take priority over having many funds.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

AMFI-Registered MFD – ARN 4188

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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