Hello ma'am, I am 38 year old woman in love with 32 year old man. I have never married and he is divorced with no children. We both work in same company and relationship is serious. But everyone says woman being 6 years older is shameful in our society. His friends joke calling me aunty. Should we ignore society or I should end this before it gets serious?

Ans: Dear V,
Do you have an opinion on your life or is it going to be governed by what someone else?
Associations with anyone who is married invariably doesn't lead anywhere and you have seen that...He has a family and that is his priority...6 years of your precious time has been with someone who can never give you the status or position that you seek in his life.
Why not rework the way you have been approaching your associations with men so far?
Ask yourself:
- Am I interested in casual relationships or do I want to be in a committed relationship?
- What kind of person will be able to value me, honor and respect me for who I am?
- What are must haves for me in a committed relationship? Does the man in question fill this for me?
- What is something that is a strict NO-NO for me in a relationship?
- What is my opinion on marriage and the responsibilities that come along with it?

This reality check will put things into perspective for you and then you can decide from a place of 'knowing' rather than a place of 'being told'. It's your life and your opinion matters the most!

All the best!

Ans: the important part is - do you share similar feeling for your partner/ friend as he does for you. In case you do, you need to see how it works between both - it will work well if you respect each other, are kind people and support each other's wishes. Once it works well then how does it matter how will it be perceived. People will talk, its the national past time, you cant do anything about it, so focus on what you can control.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I can't comment on his family's opinion, but there is no harm in marrying someone younger than you as long as the decision is between two consenting adults, with no infidelity involved.

Best Wishes.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Then wait for a few years...things may just get better in those few years and your parents may start to accept the guy. It's not like you need them give you a nod right away for marriage, right? So, wait up...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, who is to say which relationships will work and which won't! It all depends on the emotional maturity of two people in that relationship.
Having said that, you seem to have accepted the complications of a large age gap and also someone with a daughter who dislikes you. At 31, why you would choose this, is something only you know...But, ask yourself if you are drawn to this person as he is more experienced in a marriage and is possibly more caring and understanding plus is emotionally more stable due to his age.
Just for this, are you willing to take on the challenge of his daughter not cheering you on; that is not going to be easy to live with and like.
Your parents being concerned for you is something you might want to ponder over as there is a strong enough reason. Do imagine how it's going to be living with this person who might not have the zest for the same things as you as he has already lived that phase, imagine negotiating around his daughter and her tantrums, imagine that he may not want another child as well...
How much of your life do you want to hold on and compromise with? Only you can tell...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/