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Kamaal Question by Kamaal on Dec 13, 2025Hindi
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Hello... I don’t know what to do here or am I playing with my life or what..! I am a woman making my career As CMA which will be done within 4 years as i have already cleared half of the exams and after that my family has said that they will wait for 4 years max and then i need to marry cus i have two more sisters younger than me on the other side i wanna marry my bf but he is not settled yet and said he need time to settle his dreams are also big like setting multiple business and has to set 5 business like gym+sanitary+electrical equipments+ home decor+tiles and said he also wanna buy a car due to this he can’t focus on marriage and said “in sab ke alawa mujhe kuch nahi sujhta” but also said that “if he was doing something he would definitely marry me cus he need a life partner “ but these business will take time like many years...I am getting too much proposals right now cus it is my prime age for this. I am too confused what should I do as my bf said that he can’t even do engagement before those things and my family will pressure me in 4th year

Ans: Dear Kamaal,
I am sorry you are in such a tricky situation. In such cases, you need to make a choice. I know that your partner has a lot on his plate in terms of making a career, but should you be on his list of priorities too? “In sab ke ilawa kuch nahi sujhta,” sounds a bit too indifferent. But then again, you know him better than anyone else. I believe you two need to have a serious talk. Let him know that you can wait about N number of years for him, but if he can’t commit by then, you need to rethink the relationship. This is not an ultimatum but rather you would be laying down a clear picture of the reality of the situation. Both him and you should have clarity and be on the same page, and for that, having an honest discussion is very important. Start with that and see where it goes.


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Hi ma'am, thank you so much for helping people with your answers. My question Im 27, F I met a guy through arranged marrage proposal, initially was not very ok because of which I postponed telling my decision for 2 weeks. Then we both spoke and i said yes, next week he called my father and said he is looking to get married to someone who is financially rich, I was totally taken back because when he spoke he seemed very genuine and promising i called and spoke to him he says he is still in growing state so he needs some financial aid from his inlaws, i said I have a job I can support him, he said give me a weeks time to decide, next week he called me and said he is ok with the marriage in the ground that I will work and support, I SAID HIM PLS ALLOW ME SOMETIME TO DECIDE, AS THIS IS NOt SCHOOL, COLLEGE OR JOB DECISIONS. When I called after 1 week he is not taking my calls, by my sentance i meant school, college or job can be left if not interested but marriage is not like that. Am wondering if he understood this as what if this girl has multiple relationship in school/college/job... And am assuming he did not take my call for this statement of mine? Please help me come out of this confusion, are my words very stupid? My family is scolded and blaming me because I delayed it for 2 week.. Mentally exhausted with all the arranged marriage rejection...and is it worth to get married at 27?? Awaiting for your answers
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I am glad that he is out of this equation...
Which mature man will act the way that he did simply because you requested for time? And then now, you are wondering if it was your fault?
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I am a 25 year old girl. I have good job and happy career wise. I am in a relationship with a boy who is very career oriented, and runs from the marriage topic also. My parents are now behind to me to get married. I am also interested in getting married and settle in my. When I told my boyfriend about this. He gets furious. He don’t want to communicate with me on this. He don’t give any attention to my problem. He says if you really love me then you will love and you will do whatever needed to be done. Now everything is on me.I am very confused what to do. I can’t tell my parents about him, as he is not ready. I also have a fear, that this boy is not going to marry me, so am I leaving good boys which my parents are showing me. Am I already late...what if I don’t get anyone, will I have to compromise in my life If I will delay. Please help!!
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Let me start with the most important thing- you are far from late. You are only 25; I would say this is your time to focus on your career and live a little. But if you are ready for marriage, then that is great too. But do not ever think that it's too late. It isn't even a little late. If anything, in today's day and age, it's early.

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Ans: Rs.5 lakh is a good starting amount. However, 12–15% XIRR should be treated as a long-term target, not a guaranteed return.

» Suitable fund categories

For a 5+ year horizon, I would consider a diversified active-fund portfolio such as:

Multi Cap Fund – 30%
Flexi Cap Fund – 25%
Large & Mid Cap Fund – 25%
Mid Cap Fund – 20%

This gives exposure to different company sizes and investment styles.

» If you want a simpler portfolio

You do not need 4–5 funds just because you have Rs.5 lakh.

A 3-fund structure can be sufficient:

Flexi Cap Fund – 40%
Large & Mid Cap Fund – 30%
Multi Cap or Mid Cap Fund – 30%

The actual scheme selection should depend on your time horizon, risk level and existing investments.

» About the 12–15% XIRR target

For equity mutual funds, 12–15% can be a reasonable long-term planning assumption over 7–10+ years.

But no mutual fund can promise this XIRR.

Short-term returns can be negative.
Even good funds can underperform for some periods.
Do not select a fund only because its recent return is 15% or more.
Fund consistency and downside management are equally important.

» How I would invest Rs.5 lakh

If you are comfortable with market fluctuations and the investment horizon is long, you can invest gradually through STP over several months if you are concerned about entering the market at one time.

If the money is needed within 3–5 years, I would not target 12–15% by taking aggressive equity risk.

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As an Investment professional and AMFI-Registered MFD, I would first assess your existing MF holdings before adding new schemes. This avoids unnecessary duplication and overlap.

If you share your age, investment period, whether Rs.5 lakh is lump sum or SIP, and your existing MF holdings, I can suggest a more suitable asset allocation and fund-category combination.

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I have 15 lacs to Lumsum investment for my daughters higher education.I want to invest in STP in 3 funds .One hybrid Fund which has 15l value and from that STP to two fund Any multicap or Large and Midcap Fund .Please suggest ? Any other Idea will also appriciate.Thanks
Ans: Your approach of using STP for your daughters higher education goal is a good way to move a lump sum into equity gradually. The main point is to match the asset allocation with the time left for the education goal.

» Suggested structure

Keep the Rs.15 lakh initially in a suitable hybrid fund.
Use STP from the hybrid fund into two diversified equity categories.
A combination of Multi Cap and Large & Mid Cap can work well.
You need not use too many funds. Three funds are enough for this goal.

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Hybrid Fund – Rs.15 lakh initially
Multi Cap Fund – STP destination
Large & Mid Cap Fund – STP destination

» How to use STP

I would prefer a systematic STP over a very short period.

If the education goal is more than 5 years away, equity allocation can be meaningful.
The Rs.15 lakh can be shifted gradually over around 12 months.
You can divide the STP between the two equity categories.
Avoid changing funds frequently based on short-term market movements.

STP is mainly useful for managing entry risk. It does not remove market risk.

» Do not ignore the education timeline

This is the most important part.

If higher education is:

More than 10 years away – higher equity allocation can be considered.
Around 5–10 years away – balanced equity and hybrid allocation may be better.
Less than 5 years away – avoid taking high equity risk with the entire corpus.

As the education date comes closer, gradually move the required amount towards safer investments. This protects the money already created.

» Multi Cap vs Large & Mid Cap

Both categories can complement each other.

Multi Cap gives exposure across large, mid and small companies.
Large & Mid Cap gives a relatively stronger focus on large and mid-sized companies.
Combining both can create some overlap, so the portfolio should be reviewed periodically.

I would not select funds only based on the latest 1-year or 3-year returns. Fund quality, portfolio consistency, risk management and long-term performance matter more.

» One alternative idea

Instead of keeping the complete Rs.15 lakh in one hybrid fund, you can also consider a two-stage approach.

Keep the amount in a suitable hybrid/debt-oriented allocation initially.
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Once the required equity allocation is reached, stop the STP.
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The Rs.15 lakh should not be viewed separately.

Also consider:

Current age of your daughter.
Expected year of higher education.
India or overseas education.
Present education cost and future cost.
Other investments already available for this goal.
Your monthly SIP capacity.
Emergency fund and adequate insurance.
A separate safe corpus as the education date gets closer.

If the goal is 8–12 years away, this Rs.15 lakh can become a strong foundation. Regular SIPs along with it can make the education corpus much stronger.

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