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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 11, 2025Hindi
Relationship

Hello. I am currently in my second year of Engineering. I have been studying in a boarding school since 8th standard. Till 7th, there was a girl whom I didn't like much. But, after seeing her after almost 1.5 year, in 9th, I was literally shocked. I got a deep crush for her. But the biggest problem has raised because my family shifted to a city far away from the previous one in my 10th standard. I can't even find her anywhere, not on Instagram or anywhere on social media. Her father might be there in contact list of my dad's phone. But I am very much afraid to inform regarding this to my family. What should I do ?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you might be feeling out of wits and this might seem like your last hope. But think it through: even if you told your parents and they were very understanding, what can they do? It would not be decent to call a girl’s parents and ask them for her number, unless the intention is to get married. And right now you are too young to think about that; also you barely know her. Plus you are completely unsure if she feels the same way or if she already has a boyfriend. Your attempt can disrupt her life. I understand how strong crushes can be; it can make you feel extremely desperate but I suggest giving it some time. The intensity of it will fade, and in time, you will meet someone who is better suited for you and with whom you have a real chance of connecting.

Hope this helps.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 18, 2025Hindi
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Hello. I am currently in my second year of Engineering. I have been studying in a boarding school since 8th standard. Till 7th, there was a girl whom I didn't like much. But, after seeing her after almost 1.5 year, in 9th, I was literally shocked. I got a deep crush for her. But the biggest problem has raised because my family shifted to a city far away from the previous one in my 10th standard. I can't even find her anywhere, not on Instagram or anywhere on social media. Her father might be there in contact list of my dad's phone. But I am very much afraid to inform regarding this to my family. So can you please tell me what should I do ?
Ans: Before taking any step to find her, it’s important to ask yourself what you’re really hoping for. Do you want to reconnect as friends? To tell her you liked her? Or are you mostly wondering what happened to her after all these years? Getting clear about that will help you decide whether to take action or simply keep her as a good memory.
If you truly wish to reconnect, you can try a respectful, indirect route—perhaps by checking through old school friends or alumni groups instead of involving your parents right away. If she’s comfortable being found, you’ll likely get some lead. But if there’s no trace, take it as a gentle sign that it might be time to move forward.
At your age, you have so many new people to meet, and feelings like this often open your heart to deeper connections later. Let this memory remind you of what kind of person or energy attracts you, but don’t let it trap you in longing for someone from your past.

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Ramalingam

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Sep 10, 2026

Asked by Anonymous - Sep 10, 2026
Money
I have 15 lacs to Lumsum investment for my daughters higher education.I want to invest in STP in 3 funds .One hybrid Fund which has 15l value and from that STP to two fund Any multicap or Large and Midcap Fund .Please suggest ? Any other Idea will also appriciate.Thanks
Ans: Your approach of using STP for your daughters higher education goal is a good way to move a lump sum into equity gradually. The main point is to match the asset allocation with the time left for the education goal.

» Suggested structure

Keep the Rs.15 lakh initially in a suitable hybrid fund.
Use STP from the hybrid fund into two diversified equity categories.
A combination of Multi Cap and Large & Mid Cap can work well.
You need not use too many funds. Three funds are enough for this goal.

For example:

Hybrid Fund – Rs.15 lakh initially
Multi Cap Fund – STP destination
Large & Mid Cap Fund – STP destination

» How to use STP

I would prefer a systematic STP over a very short period.

If the education goal is more than 5 years away, equity allocation can be meaningful.
The Rs.15 lakh can be shifted gradually over around 12 months.
You can divide the STP between the two equity categories.
Avoid changing funds frequently based on short-term market movements.

STP is mainly useful for managing entry risk. It does not remove market risk.

» Do not ignore the education timeline

This is the most important part.

If higher education is:

More than 10 years away – higher equity allocation can be considered.
Around 5–10 years away – balanced equity and hybrid allocation may be better.
Less than 5 years away – avoid taking high equity risk with the entire corpus.

As the education date comes closer, gradually move the required amount towards safer investments. This protects the money already created.

» Multi Cap vs Large & Mid Cap

Both categories can complement each other.

Multi Cap gives exposure across large, mid and small companies.
Large & Mid Cap gives a relatively stronger focus on large and mid-sized companies.
Combining both can create some overlap, so the portfolio should be reviewed periodically.

I would not select funds only based on the latest 1-year or 3-year returns. Fund quality, portfolio consistency, risk management and long-term performance matter more.

» One alternative idea

Instead of keeping the complete Rs.15 lakh in one hybrid fund, you can also consider a two-stage approach.

Keep the amount in a suitable hybrid/debt-oriented allocation initially.
Start STP into diversified equity funds.
Once the required equity allocation is reached, stop the STP.
Continue monitoring the overall portfolio rather than continuously adding new funds.

This keeps the portfolio simple and easier to manage.

» 360-degree education planning

The Rs.15 lakh should not be viewed separately.

Also consider:

Current age of your daughter.
Expected year of higher education.
India or overseas education.
Present education cost and future cost.
Other investments already available for this goal.
Your monthly SIP capacity.
Emergency fund and adequate insurance.
A separate safe corpus as the education date gets closer.

If the goal is 8–12 years away, this Rs.15 lakh can become a strong foundation. Regular SIPs along with it can make the education corpus much stronger.

» Final Insights

Your basic STP idea is sensible. I would prefer a simple 3-fund structure rather than holding many schemes.

The exact equity allocation and STP period should depend mainly on your daughters age and when the higher education money will actually be required.

As an AMFI-Registered MFD, I would also suggest reviewing this goal at least once a year and reducing equity exposure as the goal approaches.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

AMFI-Registered MFD – ARN 4188

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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