My gf doubts me a lot. Earlier I used to clarify very innocently. Now I hesitate because she uses it against me all the time. I cannot meet my friends or go out without an argument. I don't understand why she is behaving like this. My friends also face similar issue and that's why they don't tell the truth when they are stepping out. Is this true?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
So, what the two of you did behind your spouses' back, is what worries her now!
She doubts only because she knows you and she went on to step out of marriage to have a relationship; she feels that you can do this again but with her.
There is that precedence already that has created doubts and trust issues. And it becomes worse in a long distance relationship. And anyway, any relationship that requires you to explain yourself and prove your love, is hardly a relationship to start out in the first place.

And what's the point involving her father? Shouldn't you be addressing the issue with her?
Kindly stop skirting around the issue; express how this is affecting you and your thoughts on the relationship. The doubting trait must be dealt with now as it can grow; someone who is threatening to spill the beans at your office has little respect for you or your job.

Having said this, I will like to give you her point of view as well. She fears losing you and that you might cheat on her. She does require some reassurance; maybe a few more texts or calls might ease her. But this can grow into an expectation as well and when it is not fulfilled, it will have serious consequences. So, TRUST issues is what is causing this rift in your relationship. Handle this NOW either by yourself or seek the help of a relationship expert or any expert who can helpn guide the two of you to build trust back.

All the best!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Let's address the most important thing first, does she really love you? I am not sure about that. It's neither a solid yes or a solid no. But therein lies the challenge. If there is confusion, there is concern. Moreover, the habit of drawing comparisons with other people and how they treat their partners is an indication of a toxic relationship. I would urge you to rethink this relationship.

There will always be someone better out there- with a better car, a better-paying job, or even better looking, but that doesn't mean we stop loving our partner and leave them for that "better someone." Loving your partner is a choice you make every day. Having said that, it is okay if she wants someone "better." Let her. You deserve better too.

Please reconsider this relationship, especially if it is causing you so much sorrow.

Best wishes.

Ans: Hello sir. I understand your situation. This is a serious issue that your wife is not trusting you or she has some suspicion towards you. Well, just review weather was there any reason to be suspicious? Not now may be in past? And if not so then ask your wife directly that what has caused these changes in her nature? May be she has a friend who is going through the same trust issues and due to which she is also being suspicious. You have to find out that very patiently. Once you ll know the reason things will be easier and will get sorted out. I hope this helps
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Ans: plan for an inperson meeting - get your issues sorted out in person - misunderstandings will happen - one needs to work around them. all the best.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There can be various reasons behind this: for starters, maybe she is trying to be honest and transparent with you. Second, you might be right and she is actually trying to make you feel jealous. People can sometimes feel a lack of attention in a relationship and resort to different ways of gaining it. The best thing that you can do here is talk to her about it. Have an open conversation about how this makes you feel and also ask her why she always tells you about it. If she says that it is her being honest; there you go, you have your answer. If she admits that she is trying to make you jealous, then you need to have a deeper conversation about why she feels the need to do so, and where you or the relationship is lacking.

Hope this helps