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Marriage counsellor - Answered on Dec 27, 2025

Dr Upneet Kaur is a medical professional and therapist based out of Amritsar.
After completing her bachelor’s degree in Ayurvedic medicine and surgery from the SKSS Ayurvedic College and Hospital, Sarabha, Punjab, in 2008, she worked as a medical officer at various multi-specialty hospitals in Punjab, handling both physical and mental patient care and clinical decision-making. She spent the next decade leading multidisciplinary teams at various levels.
Since 2022, she has been practising as a clinical psychologist and marriage counsellor.
Dr Upneet also holds an MBA in hospital management from Alagappa University, Tamil Nadu, and an MA in psychology from the Indira Gandhi National Open University.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Dec 22, 2025Hindi
Relationship

I am about to get engaged to a NRI boy in an arrange marriage setup. My concern is that he hardly calls me (maybe once in 15 days) and dont even text me sating that he dont like texting, and when i discussed with him that this bothers me, he said you are expecting too much we are not girlfriend boyfriend, its an arrange marriage. We just met once and things were finalized. Again his avoidant nature is bothering me, is it normal to call only 2-3 times in a month? What should I do?

Ans: Hello mam...i hope you are doing well.
Mam, its tuf to manage long distance relationships as the communication is always a matter of concern. They can be managed by a good communication which you are telling me is very less.
Sometimes the things or factors that hamper communication are different time zones, working hours, place of living weather they are sharing apartment with someone or not. So all these factors should be taken into consideration.
If you feel that all these factors are manageable in this case and only the factor is that the person is not interested in talking, then it could be a matter of concern. If you feel like that he is being an avoidant partner then talk about this to your parents and tell them your opinion honestly.
Then you need to think about this relationship.
I hope this solves your problem.
Take care
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You are 55, working in Dubai, and currently covered under your company’s medical insurance worldwide. That cover is excellent, but please remember one important thing: it ends the day your employment ends. Health insurance planning has to look beyond employment.

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Premiums are significantly higher

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So while it is possible, it is not ideal to start fresh at 60.

Will taking a policy now help reduce premium later?
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If you take a policy now at 55:

You enter at a lower age slab

Mandatory waiting periods (usually 2–4 years) get completed well before retirement

By the time you are 60, the policy becomes mature and far more useful

Underwriting happens when you are younger and healthier

Premiums will still rise with age, but you avoid the sharp jump and uncertainty of entering as a new senior citizen.

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You do not need to actively use it now.
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