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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 30, 2025Hindi
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My son a corporate lawyer is 27, he is seeing a girl since covid 19 ended, the girl is well educated, courteous,rightly placed but very independent minded. they both want to marry and myself and my wife do not have any objection to it, infact we have agreed that they can live independently post wedding to hav desired privacy subject to uphlding indian values. they both understand it very well. Now the issue is the girls parents appear to have objection to her wedding wince they think they are rich and if the girl marries our son she will have to face regular constraint for money and will need to live like middile class families. Their point is well undertood by us and respected by us i.e. myself my wife and my son. Issue is 1. we the parents never knew that they were very socalled rich, 2. we never thought that the the couple will marry as my son had told us multiple times that they dont haveany such plan. 3. we as parents are ok with they not marryiing or marrying, only this is the cancellatin of marriage will scar our son for ever emotionally as he had said that if she does not marry him he will not marry again. Kindly advise how do we support this situation to avoid damage to everyone.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
First of all it is very kind of you to understand the girl’s parents’ concerns. People can’t often compartmentalize in such an empathetic way and take it as an insult. I am glad you are being so supportive of the situation. Coming to how you can support this without causing damage: let’s dig a bit deeper into your son’s stand, “her or no one.” At 27, when dealing with heartbreak, people say a lot of things they don’t mean. This is not something you need to be concerned about right now. It doesn’t mean he is emotionally ruined or never love again; it only means that he needs your support and care right now. You are already being extremely respectful of the girl’s family’s decision, so I don’t want to touch that subject because you know a lot more than I do. About your son, be there for him, make him understand that his worth is not tied to what happens to this relationship, let him know that it’s okay to be extremely sad, and he doesn’t even have to think about marrying someone else right now, he should only focus on taking care of his heart and mind. Most importantly, slowly make him understand that he should be prepared for either outcome and that you respect his feelings but you don’t want him to define his future based on this.


This must be difficult for you and your wife too; seeing your child in pain is never an easy task for parents. I hope you are taking care of yourself as well. Please understand that this will pass. Times are tough right now, but it will pass too.

Hope this helps.
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