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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 11, 2026Hindi
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My boyfriend does not have a stable job, but he wants me to move in with him. We have been in a relationship for two years, and because he travels frequently for work, he feels living together will help us spend more time as a couple. He works as a freelance product photographer and regularly travels to cities like Pune, Delhi, Bangalore, Ahmedabad, and Chennai. I’m unsure whether moving in with an unstable partner is a practical decision or if finances and career stability should come first. Should I agree to live together in this situation, or wait until he has a more secure job?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that you are being careful and that makes perfect sense. I would suggest having an open discussion about the same with your partner. In a polite and kind manner, put forward your concerns. For instance, ask him about the times when he doesn’t get freelance gigs, how will you two manage financially. Hear him out; he might actually have a plan for those phases. Communicating about things and figuring it out together brings people closer.

Hope this helps.

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Ans: Rachna Madam, with a BITSAT score of 144, admission to the CSE, Electrical, or Mechanical branches at all three BITS campuses is effectively not possible. Recent official cutoffs have been much higher—for example, Hyderabad closed at CSE 284/319/270, EEE 251/262/239, and Mechanical 218/192/214 in 2023/2024/2025, respectively, with Goa and Pilani cutoffs even higher.

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Please check JoSAA’s official opening and closing rank archives year-wise before filling choices. Your son can focus on mid-tier or newer NITs and IIITs and state-level colleges and should also consider 4-5 reputed private universities as backup options instead of relying solely on BITS or JoSAA. ALL the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Secondly, job opportunities exist across domains, but to be competitive, your son must have passion and interest in his chosen field and continuously upgrade both technical and soft skills relevant to that domain.

Thirdly, besides understanding suitable career options through the psychometric test, ask him what types of problems he is interested in solving in the future.

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