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Shalini Singh is the founder of andwemet, an online matchmaking service for urban Indians living in India and overseas. After graduating from college as a kindergarten teacher, Singh worked at various firms specialising in marketing strategy, digital marketing and public relations before finding her niche as an entrepreneur. In 2008, she founded Galvanise PR, an independent communications and public relations. In 2019, she launched andwemet.
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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 28, 2025Hindi
Relationship

My boyfriend did not tell me that he met his ex at a wedding. I found out through pictures posted by a mutual friend. When I asked him, he said he didn’t want to upset me. But they were laughing and chilling at the wedding. Honestly, I feel betrayed, like he was cheating on me. If he was innocent, and there was nothing going on between them, why did he hide it? I am not able to trust him since I found out and it is bothering me.

Ans: You should be asking yourself why was your boyfriend hesitating to tell you that he met his ex. Also please be secure within yourself - he is with you and not with his ex. And so what if they were laughing - ex does not mean despising the person. You need to grow up if you wish to be in a long-term relationship - starting with responding vs reacting.

Give room and space for your partner to trust you and let you know who he meet without getting reactive.

All the best.

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 21, 2024Hindi
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My boyfriend and I, we are in long distance relationship for past 8 months now, we meet via common friend. He was the one who proposed to be in an exclusive thing, so I agreed. One month ago he went out with this former Tinder date without letting me know and that guy approached to kiss him and he stopped (that’s what he told me). He confessed to me about the whole event, but on asking why he went out he simply said because he was feeling very lonely and since I was very busy and didn’t talk to him for one whole day (it felt like he was blaming it on me). Now I’ve always been very clear to him that I want only one thing, that is loyalty. I had two questions if he had told the guy that he is in a relationship and when he approached to kiss him if he has told him the same thing and that’s why he can’t reciprocate, to both the questions his answer to me was no. I gave him a second chance, but I’ve very strong principles about loyalty and cheating. I tried to look over past it, I know he didn’t cheat physically but the emotional factor is still eating me. He keeps on saying that he loves me a lot and that it feels like an eternity to not talk to me for even one day. I don’t know is it gaslighting or lovebombing? Should I breakup with him?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand that infidelity is intolerable in a relationship and you are completely right to be mad at him. I can't tell you whether to break up or not, but I can assure you that you are not at fault here. If he tries to put the blame on you, do not let him. That would clearly be gaslighting.
Next, if you think you cannot trust him again or you are always going to wonder if he is cheating on you again or going out with others without your knowledge, I'd suggest you rethink the relationship. Do not rush to break up, but do not rush to forgive and forget either; the least he can give you is some time.

Best Wishes.

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Financial Planner, MF, Insurance Expert - Answered on Nov 10, 2025

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Hi, I'm 49 married with 2 kids aged 16 and 11. I work in mid mgmt in a Finance co. Wife is 45 works at a Bank. Combined annual salary is 80 lakhs. Live in a home which just got loan free. Have a rental income of 40k monthly that my wife gets. Mom also lives with us and she gets a rental income of 45k per month. I have invested in a small office space which will be ready by mid 2027 and has a construction linked plan, have to pay 40L more. I Have stocks of 45L and EPF of 60L PPF of 12 L. Have ancestral property in land at native place not much but say 25L. Mom has pledged 50% of her assets to my sister. Liability of office and company car is 6L. School fees and tution fees are paid from rental income and wife chips in. There's maintenance, club membership fees, insurance, repairs and maintenance, kids pocket money, groceries, internet, mobile, maids etc. which I pay. I'm thinking of quitting my job and starting something on my own. I am a guest lecturer at a college which is pro bono and also helping 2 Startups of friends over weekend with a tiny equity stake in one. Is it a right decision? Pressure at work is high, growth chances are minimum. Many colleagues asked to go. The environment isn't very encouraging. Pls advise if I'm ok financially with about 45 lakhs liability. Never got a chance to save as EMIs were 75% of income. I'm unable to get a direction.
Ans: You are 49, with a stable dual-income family, home loan cleared, and some investments in place. You feel stagnated in your job and want to start something of your own. It’s a natural and valid thought at this life stage — but the decision needs to be planned, not impulsive.

At present, your financial base is decent but not fully liquid. You still have about ?45 lakh in liabilities, upcoming education costs for your children, and limited cash reserves. Your wife’s job and rental income can sustain household expenses, but not much beyond that.

The wise move is to continue your job while you explore your business or investment idea part-time. Use the next 18–24 months to:

Clear pending loans, especially the office property.

Build a minimum ?20–25 lakh emergency corpus.

Fund your children’s education separately.

Test and refine your business idea alongside your job.

Before quitting, also discuss openly with your spouse whether she is comfortable with you stepping away from a steady income. Her emotional and financial comfort will determine how smooth your transition is.

In short:
Keep your job, continue your startup or investing interest part-time, strengthen your finances, and plan a structured exit once liabilities are cleared. Freedom feels best when it’s backed by security, not uncertainty.

Contingency buffer and health insurance details:
For detailed financial planning and portfolio reconstruction, please connect with a Qualified Personal Finance Professional (QPFP).

Disclaimer / Guidance:
The above analysis is generic in nature and based on limited data shared. For accurate projections — including inflation, tax implications, pension structure, and education cost escalation — it is strongly advised to consult a qualified QPFP/CFP or Mutual Fund Distributor (MFD). They can help prepare a comprehensive retirement and goal-based cash flow plan tailored to your unique situation.
Financial planning is not only about returns; it’s about ensuring peace of mind and aligning your money with life goals. A professional planner can help you design a safe, efficient, and realistic roadmap toward your ideal retirement.

Best regards,
Naveenn Kummar, BE, MBA, QPFP
Chief Financial Planner | AMFI Registered MFD
https://members.networkfp.com/member/naveenkumarreddy-vadula-chennai

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