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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 21, 2025Hindi
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My boyfriend's father is flirting with me. Earlier i used to think he is just complimenting me but now it is getting too far. He constantly checks my social media and comments me in private chat. Once he said, if he was younger I would have dated someone exactly like me. I have been respectful, responding with gentle smileys because I don't know how to react. I don't know if I am reading too much into it, but how do I talk about this to my boyfriend? Will this affect their relationship and ours?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Firstly stop visiting your boyfriend at his home. What exactly is he doing on your social media walls and feeds? Block him! BUT before that collect all the proof of chats/texts. And why are even responding to him?
You have NO obligation to please this man just because he happens to be your boyfriend's father. The moment he realizes that you have begun giving him the cold treatment, he may back off...if he starts to interfere in your relationship by talking rubbish to your boyfriend or if he finds other ways of reaching you, please collect all proof and show it to your boyfriend.
Now whether it will impact their relationship is not your problem but if you want your sanity, please CALL this man out!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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Well, this feeling ain't going away that soon as you are bordering on obsession possibly without reason.
Jealousy leading to insecurities and constantly monitoring him is only going to make it worse on you...so either you trust him or you don't...which is it going to be?
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