I am around 59, I was never married, possibly no luck or rue my past chances when I was young and attractive, I am still in good looks, hit the gym everyday; I like one girl who is single, 29 years old and am seriously interested in her, she is quiet and works in sales-telecom, her english is not so eloquent but I find her very attractive, I am interested to marry her, I met her in th past, she likes my dressing, personality, finds me attractive but never reciprocated to me, she is altogether conservative, I did not have her telephone number and email but got her coordinates from a known person to both, I like her very much. I sent her messages on her email - no obscene messages but like "I adore you", "I like you" etc in hindi; I quietly saw the reciepant in her email "+1" - but cannot fathom this "+1" receipant, so was scared maybe she connected me to her HR or to police but I am a a smart and intelligent bloke; maybe she could put me into police?? -but I never would write anything obscene to her; but whenever I send her message I always write the first line - "please do not complain" - how to improvise ?? My body functions very fine, my productivity I assume is good because I exercise regularly and before I was a long distance runner; I am definately going to tell her that - I wish to marry her and that "I like you intensely" !! please advise ?? - dreams need to be attempted !! regards

Hi Anu,Myself Praveen. I appreciate your writings on Rediff. First of all thanks for that.I would like to ask guidance or your thoughts on establishing a relationship with my lady friend. I met her 4 years back in my old office and we got in company soon and started talking and somewhat share most of the personal s***s too. I started having feelings for her. I mean I wish to have a marital relationship with her because I am very comfortable with her. But I was unable to make any move or feared of losing her company if I tell her my love.That time I never knew her age. Later I moved from that job to pursue some personal goals so I moved to some other place without the knowledge of my own family. The only person who knew about it was her. She stood with me and emotionally supported me and was knowing that it was my strong wish of having that dream/goal. We were in touch as nice friends. Her phone calls were happy moments for me because I was alone at my new place where I'd gone to pursue my dream. Someday she called me and during call she was upset. That day she shared some of her personal things and during the conversation I realised that she is 8 years older than me and she is at her mid 30s. Firstly, it was like a shock for me. I wondered why a beautiful girl like she not got into a marriage or any other serious relationship still that age. Okay, that doesn't matter me. However, knowing about most of the complexity in this partnership including support from both family or cliche society thoughts; I decided to have her as my life partner. But still I am not able to make a move like that. Somehow, I had to come back to my homeplace and sorry to say that I failed to pursue my goal which was bit depressing. Still I couldn't make a move to talk her about this. I am getting an odd feeling that she treats me as a brother or a nice friend only. I am confused when she calls me bro. Some days ago she told me that I am her good brother. Frankly I don't like her calling me bro. I still love her and I always see her as my life partner.The thing is I fear that I may lose her company if I express my love for her. Also I fear that she may emotionally get low if she really considering me as her brother. I don't want to give her any pain, but meanwhile I couldn't miss her in my life. Nowadays, we rarely talk on phone or meet because some of her professional engagements. That is not a problem for me. I respect her as well as her personal space. Only thing I want is to communicate her about my mind and having a relationship with her. I know she might also be concerned about our age gap as well as what society may say, but I don't care such rubbish. I strongly believe that I can be a great partner. Share your thoughts on making an approach without giving her any emotional pain or trauma.

Hi Anu I had a crush and fantasy for a girl 13 years younger to me as she was my tuition student. Once we had intimacy when she was 15 and I was 28. Now I am 52 plus and she is 39 and married last year. I accepted it when came to know about her marriage. But she met me last month by chance near her workplace. We are in same city. I am unmarried. She shared her contact with me and we had a healthy talk for 25 minutes at her workplace. But now she is ignoring my calls and messages. I am in anxiety. What to do as I know its all at end now. Just resolve my issue