Sir, I am 51 years old businessman married for 28 years. My wife is 48 and we have two married children. Last 10 years our marriage is dead with constant fights and no compatibility. We stay together only for society and children. Now children are settled, should I seek divorce at this age? My relatives say this is sin at 50 years and I should adjust. What is right thing to do?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What do the reports from the Mental Health expert say? What is the diagnosis?
Obviously, there's something that has happened for her to suddenly start hating people, right? No one changes all of a sudden; it takes some huge issue or little ones over a period of time for someone to begin showing changes in their behavior. This absolutely needs to be analyzed.
Having said this, I never suggest separation as the first option as it takes a moment of time to break relationships but takes years and years to build one. So, I would suggest taking the advice of the elders of the family on your side and your wife's side as well. This will ensure that the family is aware of what is going on and will support you and your wife. It's possible someone from your wife's family may talk to her about being serious on counseling sessions and medications if necessary.
Now, whatever the reason, separations and divorce are not easy on anyone; the partners or the family...

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Separation at any age is a very strained and emotionally draining activity. When you are younger, there is a lot of stakes on the ground which includes taking into consideration compatibility issues and then scope for considering separation for the sake of each others' sanity and for the sake of the children as well...
When you are older, usually these differences pale into the background and a general level of acceptance sets in with each partner either understanding the other or doing their own set of things without much involvement from the other. This seems wise at this age as there is a partner around you and loneliness is kept at bay and even if the two of you don't see eye to eye, at least there is another person in the house with you. Now, you may argue on this and say that it's better off without the other person as you and she have nothing in common. But you are right in thinking about whether it's necessary to go through this at your age.
You might want to think about the 'what' after that and how things will be different and if you and your wife are ready to take on a challenge like this.

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Ans: Dear Hemant,
Your love for your kids is evident, and it’s natural to fear how a separation would affect them. But the reality is, children pick up on tension, conflict, and unhappiness at home. Staying in a marriage that drains you emotionally and mentally isn’t necessarily better for them in the long run. Kids need a stable, loving environment, and if you’re constantly feeling manipulated and exhausted, it affects the energy you bring into their lives.

You don’t have to make a rushed decision, but you do need clarity. Have you tried setting firm boundaries and communicating your need for a more balanced relationship? If you’ve already done everything you can and nothing has changed, then it may be time to explore legal options, even if she says no to divorce. In most cases, a divorce doesn’t require both partners to agree—it just makes the process more complicated.

You deserve a life where you feel respected, valued, and emotionally free. Your children deserve a father who is at peace, not one who is silently suffering. It might be hard to take the next step, but staying in an unhappy marriage just for the sake of avoiding conflict can take a greater toll on everyone involved. You need to consider what will truly allow you—and your kids—to have a healthier and happier future.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Will it be possible to take this to a therapist who can guide the two of you to bridge the gap that has been created due to the age of the marriage. Boredom and predictability can kill any relationship and yours falls right there!
Bring back the pep, the spice; difficult but certainly possible. Start with a simple conversation on how distant you feel from her and she might confess to the same.
Now, the new chapter with your co-worker; when you lean on someone else to fill the void from the marriage can be quite stressful and unfulfilling as well. So, I suggest that you give you marriage another chance!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
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