It has been 5 months since we had sex, my wife is more into u get intimate, why should I be the one or more of zero interest or no urge to have sex with me. We don't have sex regularly, maybe 12 times a year. Slowly we are becoming more like 2 individuals living together for sake of daughter. She keeps making daughter to sleep along with us tough she is 13. I don't mind, but this is creating wall for intimacy.

Ans: Narasimhan Sir, according to today’s (13th April 2026) Times of India (Education Times) advertisement, Madras School of Economics offers multiple programmes such as a 5?year Integrated MA, MA programmes in five specialisations, MBA, MSc in Data Science, and even PhD. Now, regarding your son’s wish to pursue an MA and also keeping in mind that he is already pursuing the ICSI Executive Course, it is important to know whether he has decided which one of the five MA specialisations—Actuarial Economics, Applied Quantitative Finance, Environmental Economics, Financial Economics, or General Economics—he wants to choose and why. However, since he has already joined the ICSI Executive, it is advisable to go for the MA in Financial Economics, because its core courses and electives in financial markets, asset pricing, corporate finance, risk, and regulation directly complement the CS Executive papers on Corporate Accounting, Financial Management, Capital Markets, and Securities Laws. This combination is very helpful for careers in corporate finance, investment banking, and financial?compliance advisory, where both domain?specific economics knowledge and legal?compliance skills are highly valued. At the same time, your son must be sure and confident that he can comfortably manage the workload of both ICSI and the MA in Financial Economics. As far as placements are concerned, all five MA specialisations—General Economics, Financial Economics, Applied Quantitative Finance, Actuarial Economics, and Environmental Economics—have broadly similar placement outcomes, but Financial Economics and Applied Quantitative Finance usually lean more towards higher?paying jobs in finance and analytics, while Environmental Economics and General Economics often lead more towards policy, research, consulting, and data?heavy roles. It should also be noted that success in placements does not depend only on the specialisation, but also on the student’s skill upgradation, soft skills, a strong LinkedIn profile, and effective networking strategies. ALL the BEST for Your Son's Prosperous Future!

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Ans: In that case, you will be required to offer the entire capital gain and pay capital gains tax along with Interest.

Vipul J Bhavsar
Chartered Accountant
www.capitalca.in

Ans: I assume you are asking the tax situation for FY 2025-26 for which return of income to be filed on or before 31 July 2026.
Government valuation as on 1 Apr 2001 needs to be taken, which shall be her cost of acquisition for her share. She can purchase new property within 2 years from Aug 2025 however, till then she needs to deposit the funds in Capital Gain scheme and she will not be required to pay Capital gains tax.
You need to consult CA since there are other things to be considered to arrive at the decision and tax event in your case.

Vipul J Bhavsar
Chartered Accountant
www.capitalca.in

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You have two paths n front of you; either you move on or make your marriage work.
Both paths are not easy but the latter can help you rebuild your marriage. But if you feel strongly about moving on, do find a good lawyer who can help you with the legal proceedings.
To maintain your dignity, make sure that you clearly state what you want as a part of your separation and NO, there is no shame or backing out in this; your lawyer should be able to take care of this.
Also, divorce can take a huge toil on your emotional health; make no mistake about it especially since you are the aggrieved one in this case. And if your husband chooses to contest, the battle can turn ugly. Be prepared for these turn of events; keep your family and friends close as you will need to fall back on someone.

All the best!
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Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: Dear Satya,
Mind and Body are connected; so what happens to the body also affects the mind and vice-versa.
If stress is being allowed to take over, it simply means a person has allowed his/her mind to control them. Learning how to manage stress can help:
- do activities that keep one in the present moment
- doing at least 20 mins of what one loves everyday
- exercise and good sleep are a must
- check what people surround the person

A small tweak can go a long way in managing stress; one must just have the willingness to do that!

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Ans: It is very good to see that at age 24 you are already planning SIP for 30–35 years and also thinking about a separate marriage fund. Starting early gives you a very strong advantage in wealth creation.

Your approach shows clarity and discipline.

» Review of your long-term SIP combination (30–35 years)

Your proposed allocation:

– Flexi cap category fund
– Midcap category fund
– Nifty index fund

Allocation: 30 : 30 : 40

This structure has growth potential. But there are two important improvements required.

First improvement:

Index funds are not suitable when your target is very long-term wealth creation like 30–35 years.

Reason:

– index funds only copy market returns
– they cannot select future winning companies early
– they cannot avoid weak sectors
– they cannot manage downside risk actively
– they cannot generate extra return above market

Actively managed funds can:

– adjust sector allocation
– identify emerging companies
– control risk better during corrections
– generate higher long-term alpha

So instead of index category exposure, one more actively managed category fund is better.

Second improvement:

Your portfolio currently has only one large-cap exposure indirectly through flexi cap category. It is better to include a large & midcap category fund or multi-cap category fund for balance.

Suggested improved structure:

– Flexi cap category fund (core foundation)
– Midcap category fund (growth engine)
– Multi-cap or large & midcap category fund (balance + stability)

This improves diversification and return consistency.

» Important observation about investing through direct plans

You mentioned investing through direct option.

Direct plans look attractive because expense ratio is lower. But many investors face practical issues:

– no professional monitoring support
– no asset allocation guidance
– no rebalancing discipline
– emotional switching during market falls
– difficulty in tax planning decisions
– lack of withdrawal strategy planning later

Regular plans through a Mutual Fund Distributor guided by a Certified Financial Planner help in:

– proper category selection
– portfolio correction at right time
– behavioural guidance during volatility
– tax-efficient switching decisions
– retirement income strategy planning

Over a 30–35 year journey, guidance quality matters more than small expense difference.

» Strategy for your marriage fund (3-year goal)

This is a short-term goal.

Equity mutual funds are not suitable for 3-year horizon.

Because:

– markets can fall suddenly
– recovery may take time
– capital may not be available when needed

Safer approach is better.

Suitable categories:

– conservative hybrid category fund
– short duration debt category fund
– bank FD combination approach

This protects your marriage fund from market volatility.

If marriage date is fixed, safety becomes even more important.

» Suggested smart approach to manage both goals together

You are handling two timelines:

– 30–35 year wealth creation
– 3-year marriage goal

So keep investments separate.

Long-term SIP bucket:

– flexi cap category fund
– midcap category fund
– multi-cap or large & midcap category fund

Marriage fund bucket:

– conservative hybrid category fund
– short duration debt category fund

This avoids mixing risk levels.

» Additional steps to strengthen your financial foundation at age 24

Along with SIP planning:

– maintain emergency fund equal to 6 months expenses
– take health insurance if not already taken
– start term insurance after income stabilises
– increase SIP every year when salary increases

These steps multiply long-term wealth success.

» Finally

Your early start itself is your biggest strength.

Replace index exposure with another actively managed category fund.

Keep marriage fund in safer investments.

Continue SIP for 30–35 years with discipline and yearly increase. This approach can create strong wealth over time.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

Ans: You are taking a very positive step by continuing investment through SIP even at age 70. This shows strong financial awareness and helps your savings grow better than keeping money idle in savings account.

At this stage, safety and steady growth must come first. High-risk funds should be avoided.

» What should be the investment approach at age 70

At your age, investment focus normally should be:

– capital protection
– regular income support in future
– low volatility
– moderate growth beating inflation

So SIP selection should be balanced, not aggressive.

Small cap category funds are not suitable at this stage because they move up and down sharply.

Midcap allocation also should be limited.

Balanced categories work better.

» Best mutual fund categories suitable for Rs 10,000 SIP

You may consider investing your SIP across these categories:

– Multi asset category fund (Rs 4,000)
This category invests in equity, debt and gold. It gives stability and protection.

– Conservative hybrid category fund (Rs 3,000)
This keeps more money in debt and some in equity. Good for steady returns.

– Flexi cap category fund (Rs 3,000)
This gives controlled growth and flexibility across market caps.

This combination creates safety plus growth balance.

» Why this structure is suitable for you

This mix helps in:

– reducing market risk
– giving reasonable growth
– protecting capital during corrections
– supporting future withdrawal planning

It also prepares your portfolio if you want to start SWP later.

» Important safety steps before starting SIP

Please ensure:

– keep at least 2 years expenses in bank or FD
– maintain emergency reserve
– avoid investing full savings into equity mutual funds
– review nominee details in all investments

These steps protect financial independence.

» How long SIP should continue

Since SIP amount is Rs 10,000:

– continue SIP for 3 to 5 years minimum
– review every year once
– later you can shift to SWP if income needed

This gives flexibility and control.

» Finally

At age 70, the correct strategy is not maximum return. The correct strategy is safe growth with stability.

Multi asset, conservative hybrid and flexi cap category funds together create a strong and safe structure for your SIP journey.

Your decision to continue investing even now is a very good step for financial comfort and independence.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

Ans: You are taking a thoughtful approach by reviewing your portfolio before making switches. Many investors change funds without checking suitability. Your habit of evaluating before acting is a strong advantage for long-term wealth creation.

Let us address both your questions clearly.

» Switching ELSS funds into small cap and flexi cap categories

Your mutual fund relationship manager has suggested switching:

– tax-saving category funds (with completed lock-in period)
into
– one small cap category fund
– one flexi cap category fund

This suggestion is partly good, but it should be applied carefully.

Positive aspects of this switch:

– tax-saving category funds are mainly large cap oriented
– flexi cap category gives better flexibility across market caps
– small cap category improves long-term return potential
– lock-in already completed, so liquidity flexibility exists

However one important caution:

Switching entirely into small cap category is not always suitable in the current market phase if your portfolio already has midcap or small cap exposure.

Small caps:

– move very fast during rallies
– fall sharply during corrections
– need strong patience holding ability

So the smarter approach is:

– switching one ELSS fund into flexi cap category is a very good move
– switching the second ELSS fund fully into small cap category should depend on your existing small cap allocation

If you already hold midcap or small cap funds, then allocate only partly into small cap category.

Balanced allocation improves stability and long-term XIRR consistency.

» Whether continuing your existing funds with 5% XIRR is correct

Your current holdings include exposure across:

– multiple large cap category funds
– one multi asset category fund
– one multi cap category fund
– one midcap category fund

The fall in XIRR to around 5% is mainly because:

– last 12–18 months markets moved unevenly
– large caps remained relatively slow
– midcaps corrected after strong rally

So low recent XIRR does not mean fund quality is weak.

Your decision to continue holding is correct.

But there is one improvement opportunity.

Currently you hold multiple funds from the same category (large cap category). This creates duplication instead of diversification.

Better structure normally:

– keep one strong large cap category fund
– keep one flexi cap category fund
– keep one midcap category fund
– keep one multi cap category fund
– keep one hybrid or multi asset category fund

Holding many large cap category funds together does not improve returns meaningfully.

It only spreads investment across similar portfolios.

So instead of exiting immediately, a gradual consolidation strategy is better.

» Role of your multi asset category fund

This category is useful because it invests in:

– equity
– debt
– gold

It reduces volatility and improves stability during market corrections.

So continuing this fund is a good decision.

» Role of your midcap category fund

Midcap exposure supports long-term growth strongly.

Since your horizon appears long-term, continuing this allocation is appropriate.

No change required here.

» Suggested improvement strategy going forward

You are already doing the most important thing correctly — staying invested.

Now only refinement is needed.

Recommended actions:

– switch one matured ELSS fund into flexi cap category
– review whether small cap allocation is already sufficient before shifting second ELSS fund
– gradually reduce duplication across large cap category funds
– continue midcap allocation
– continue multi asset allocation
– avoid frequent switching based on short-term performance

These steps improve return potential without increasing risk sharply.

» Finally

Your discipline in continuing investments despite temporary fall in XIRR is the right behaviour of a successful long-term investor.

Switching part of matured ELSS allocation into flexi cap category is a smart move.

Small cap allocation should be added carefully, not aggressively.

Gradual consolidation of multiple large cap category funds will improve portfolio efficiency over time.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

Ans: You are doing a very disciplined job in building wealth across multiple buckets like EPF, PPF, FD and Mutual Funds. This shows strong savings behaviour and long-term thinking. A 13–14% XIRR already reflects good portfolio quality over a meaningful period.

Your plan to move gradually from FD to mutual funds for a 15+ year horizon and later use SWP is a sensible wealth-building strategy.

» Your current asset allocation position

Let us look at your overall structure first.

– EPF: 41 lakhs
– PPF (self): 36 lakhs
– PPF (wife): 16 lakhs
– FD: 40 lakhs
– Mutual Funds: 46 lakhs

Total approx: 179 lakhs

Out of this:

– Debt-oriented bucket (EPF + PPF + FD) ≈ 133 lakhs
– Equity mutual funds ≈ 46 lakhs

So yes, at present your portfolio is debt-heavy.

But this is not a weakness. It is a strength because:

– it gives stability
– it protects capital
– it supports long-term discipline
– it allows gradual equity shift without stress

Your ongoing shift from FD to equity mutual funds is the correct direction.

» Is your target XIRR of 15–18% realistic?

Your horizon is beyond 15 years. That makes your expectation reasonable but not guaranteed.

Possible outcome ranges normally look like:

– Conservative expectation: 12–14%
– Good disciplined portfolio outcome: 13–16%
– Strong cycle-supported outcome: 15–18%

Since your SIP size is strong and horizon is long, your strategy supports the higher range possibility.

Most investors fail because they stop SIP during volatility. Your structure suggests you are not likely to do that.

» Review of your existing mutual fund structure

You currently hold exposure across:

– large cap
– flexi cap
– large & midcap
– midcap
– small cap
– contra
– value
– focused category
– index category

This gives diversification. But number of schemes is slightly high.

Ideal number normally:

– 5 to 7 funds

Your portfolio has crossed that level. So future investing should focus on consolidation instead of adding too many new schemes.

Stopping SIP in focused and value category funds was a sensible move.

» Review of your new SIP structure

Your planned SIP:

– Midcap category fund
– Flexicap category fund
– Contra category fund
– Two small cap category funds
– One more fund under consideration

This structure is growth-oriented and suitable for 15+ year horizon.

However one improvement is required.

Currently:

– small cap allocation is becoming high
– midcap exposure also increasing
– contra already exists in portfolio

So instead of adding another aggressive category fund, the sixth fund should provide balance.

Better choice:

– Multi-cap category fund
or
– Large & midcap category fund

This improves stability without reducing growth potential.

» Important observation about holding two small cap funds

You are already investing in two small cap schemes.

This increases volatility risk.

Instead:

– keep only one small cap SIP long term
– redirect second SIP toward multi-cap category

This improves risk control and consistency of returns.

Small caps perform strongly only during specific market cycles. Too much allocation increases stress during corrections.

» About your index fund exposure

You currently hold index-based investments.

For long-term wealth creation, actively managed funds generally provide stronger outcomes because:

– index funds only copy market performance
– they cannot protect during market falls
– they cannot exit weak sectors
– they cannot select high-growth companies early
– they cannot adjust allocation during valuation extremes

Active funds can:

– move across sectors
– identify emerging businesses
– manage downside risk better
– capture alpha over long horizons

Since your target is 15–18% XIRR, active fund allocation suits your objective better than passive allocation.

Gradually shifting future SIPs toward active strategies supports your goal.

» Tax treatment of your wife’s PPF account

Your approach is correct.

If:

– contribution is within rules
– account is maintained properly

then maturity proceeds remain fully tax-free.

Separate tax filing does not affect PPF exemption status. It remains exempt under current rules.

» Suggested improvement roadmap for next 3–5 years

Your structure is already strong. Only tuning is required.

Action steps:

– Continue shifting FD gradually into equity SIP/STP route
– Reduce duplication across categories
– Keep only one small cap SIP
– Add one multi-cap category SIP as sixth fund
– Continue flexicap allocation as core portfolio engine
– Maintain EPF and PPF as long-term safety anchors
– Avoid frequent portfolio changes

This improves return probability without increasing risk sharply.

» Preparing for future SWP income strategy

Your idea of using SWP after 15 years is very appropriate.

For successful SWP planning later:

– equity allocation should reach 60–70% gradually
– debt bucket (EPF + PPF) should remain intact
– avoid withdrawing during early retirement phase
– rebalance every year once SWP starts

This creates stable retirement-style income flow.

» Finally

You are clearly on the correct wealth-building path.

Your discipline level is higher than most investors.

Only small adjustments are required:

– reduce small cap duplication
– add multi-cap exposure
– continue shifting from FD to equity gradually
– simplify number of schemes over time

With this structure, your probability of achieving long-term 15%+ portfolio growth becomes strong.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/