I am a 32 year old married woman working in an IT company earning 1.2 lakhs monthly. My husband earns 1.8 lakhs. We stay with in-laws in joint family in Mumbai. My mother-in-law taunts me daily about not having baby even after 4 years of marriage. She says I am career focused and I am not a good wife. My husband says ignore but it's affecting my mental health. Is it wrong to have a career after marriage? Should we move out or I should quit job?

Ans: Dear Richa,
You are financially independent and any decision you take for your life will be based on that, right?
Who knows what the future hold and one can only be hopeful that all that is done in the present times yield a good result in future.
So, whatever decision you want to take, do that keeping what it is right now...also, have faith in your capability to earn and hold your head high BUT do give your marriage a fair chance considering your son may also get rattled by any harsh decision. Do you not feel that it is time to actually confront your husband. What is he planning on doing? Sitting and waiting for something to happen for him?
He has possibly got into a place where it is comfortable not to work and things happen around him for him and everyone else. So, there really is no need for him to lift a finger. Urge your in-laws to talk to him and drive some sense into him. If he still makes no move to get proactive and take on his part of responsibilities within the marriage, think about how long and how far you want to go with this. A bit of coaching/therapy can help, but only if he willing to see that it's needed for him. More than anything, I want you to have faith in yourself and play to your strengths.

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Ans: Hello mam..I understand your situation. Generally these of issues come in every marriage, but in love marriages they come little more coz family thinks that they have not choosen you and they dont accept you easily.
I would suggest you that don't complain about your mother in law to your husband. Don't about any family matter for some days. Just talk about yourself and your baby that too positively. Things will take time but they will start changing. Try to ignore the negative things of your mother in law and start concentrating on yourself and your baby. You can try meditation also. Things will soon change.
Take care
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