Should I Be Worried About My Arranged Marriage After My Fiancee Suddenly Became Distant?

Hi, Warm Greetings!! Myself Rushabh (30) and my wife (29) -- she is an adopted child as her mother passed away while giving birth to her and her sister. They are twins with a minute's gap and her father got married to another woman. Later in 2012, her stepfather died and she was living with her stepmother. We both come from middle-class families. We being prospects for marriage our families were going through multiple biodatas every week. In this process, we shortlisted each other and decided to meet in person. Initially, we both met only once where I was impressed with her personality, optimism, communication skills, her matured behaviour, and decision-making skills. Post the first meeting we told our decisions to our families. Then both the families met and they decided the next course of action, i.e., our engagement date. In July 2021 we got engaged during COVID-induced lockdown. Considering my job and the distance we lived at, we could only meet on Sundays and used to have 2 to 3 hours long phone calls every night. Either way, she barely spoke to me and made me speak all the time and I told her everything about me. As she wasn't speaking much, my family thought that she might be an introvert and a bit hesitant to talk so we ignored it. We got married in November 2021. Now, it has been 2½ months since we got married. For the first 15 - 20 days we didn't bother her and allowed her to get settled in her new life and new home. Then eventually my mom started giving her small chores, which she couldn't perform, which is fine since she has not done any chore before. But now based on her behaviour I think she does not want a change or learn anything new. Honestly, we were not aware of her behaviour with her mom, nor of management skills and, her routine at her maternal home. Her behaviour is not like any normal girl of her age. She behaves like a child and gets amused by silly and normal things. When the whole family is hanging out together she doesn’t talk at all. When we talk about general things she takes it negatively on herself, she doesn’t even eat properly, nor speak about her likes and dislikes in any aspect with even me. She never expresses herself in any way and rather takes everything negatively, which has made us more cautious and worried as to what to speak in front of her or what to tell her. So we individually (I, my mom, dad and sister) started to confront her gently and guide her in everything from scratch (like we teach a toddler) but she is not responding at all.We don't know whether she is doing this intentionally or not. On top of it when she talks to anyone apart from the 4 of us she speaks in a very mature and practical manner that no one can ever second guess her behaviour with us. Considering our ages, I am afraid that our relationship might be jeopardized because of her behaviour. She had thought multiple times to end her life or to call a meeting with all elders and get separated (she gave me an indirect hint). This is much worrisome for all of us as nobody can cope with the situation in the hand.I will be able to explain everything in much more detail if we can connect over a phone call or we can meet virtually/in-person.

I got married 3 months ago. My wife and I live in two different countries, with a 12-hour time zone difference. During the 10 months we spent getting to know each other before marriage, she never initiated a call or message, but whenever I did, she spoke to me nicely, like once or twice a week. During those calls, she never opened up emotionally and was unable to answer questions like how she felt about this marriage or about me. She always talked about superficial, basic things. After the marriage ceremony and honeymoon, she went back to her country and I stayed in mine. During the 1.5 months we spent together, I felt that whatever preferences I shared with her in terms of dressing, holidays, plans, etc., she didn't bother much to fulfill them to make me happy. For the first two weeks of long-distance relationship (LDR), we spoke for 30 minutes once a week. I shared with her that, in order to have a strong relationship, we need to put more effort and make time for each other, to which she replied that she gets busy with work and family. She said that because I live alone, I’m thinking too much, and that she is already talking to me for 30 minutes, so what else can she do. This made me feel like I’m the only one interested in this marriage and she just wanted the married status, but didn’t really want to work on the relationship. Since then, I sort of tested her by escalating things, like suggesting she move to my country so we could stay together. When she refused, I said I didn’t want to wait 2-3 years until I move to her country if I didn’t have a strong marriage. Then I escalated further by asking her to sign a prenup, because all this while, she hadn't been bothered about what I was saying regarding valuing this marriage and me. I was thinking, if she continues like this, then what type of marriage will I have? How can I have kids with a woman who doesn’t prioritize what her husband needs? Now we are discussing divorce, as I don’t want to waste both of our time. What went wrong here? Is it worth saving? If we get second chance, how to make it better?

Hi, I am 28 years old, about to get engaged in couple of months. It's an arranged marriage. Before that I met with the girl. At our first meeting, she was little shy and hesitant at first but still we were able to have a good conversation. However after that, as usual parents wanted an answer and without beating around the bush, we agreed. Now we talk sometimes but mostly chat regularly but it always feels like I am the one who is putting more efforts like starting the conversation, giving gifts, cracking jokes.. sometimes it feels like an interview round like me just asking questions and she is just answering. Our chat does not last more than 5min. I just can't understand why is this happening. I am pretty confident talking to people but I can't find out why this is so awkward. Am I overthinking or is this normal?