
I am 37 yrs old married with 5 yrs boy.i earned around 90 k per month.i hv ppf of 37 lac,epf 48.50 lac.i hv 6 lac fd.lic 24k and 29 k premium paid per year,postal life insurance 36 k per year premium paid . lump sum 50 k investment in icici preduantial small cap 2 yrs ago(Currentvalue-112000),lumpsum 60 k in axis nifty 100 index fund 2 yrs ago(currentvalue-97000),lumpsum 50k sbi balance advance fund(currentvalue-78000),3.69 lac in sbi blue chip fund from 2014 which is now 5.60 lac . my present sips are on 1) 1000 sbi bluechipfund(running from 1.5 yrs) 2)2000 sbi contra fund(fresh adding) 3)2500 sbi kotak small cap(running from 2 yrs) 4)5000 parag parekh flexicap(running from 2 yrs) 5)2500 nippon small cap(fresh adding) 6)2500 axis quant fund(fresh adding) 7)motilal oswal midcap fund 2000 , TOTAL VALUATION of MUTUAL FUND-15.80 LAC,NPS value-5.73 lac(monthly 8k investment),lic pension scheme-7.8 lac . But i lost 20 lac in option trading due to which i am so much stressed,frustrated,devastated. Sometime Thinking about sucide.How can i recover these money should i stop lic..and invest more in sips ?i want some 2-3cr in 10 yrs in returns which mutual fund would be better pls suggest me?
Ans: You are going through a tough emotional and financial phase. Please take a deep breath. You have already built a strong base, and recovery is absolutely possible.
Let me guide you step-by-step, calmly and clearly.
? Your Current Financial Foundation
– You are 37, with stable income of Rs. 90,000 per month.
– Your PPF corpus is Rs. 37 lakh. This is completely safe and tax-free.
– Your EPF corpus is Rs. 48.5 lakh. This too is secure and retirement-friendly.
– Rs. 6 lakh in FD is useful as emergency money. Please do not use it for investment.
– You have Rs. 15.8 lakh in mutual funds. Most are in equity funds. This is a good sign.
– You have invested in NPS. Rs. 5.73 lakh is already built. Continue Rs. 8,000/month.
– LIC pension scheme corpus is Rs. 7.8 lakh. Annual premium is Rs. 53,000 approx.
– You lost Rs. 20 lakh in options trading. This is painful. But don’t lose hope.
? Mental Health Matters More Than Wealth
– Please remember, your son is only 5. He needs you more than money.
– The Rs. 20 lakh loss hurts. But it is reversible. You still have many assets.
– Feeling suicidal is a warning sign. Please speak to a mental health expert today.
– A Certified Financial Planner can help you financially. But emotional support is equally vital now.
– This is a phase. It will pass. Stay strong for your family.
? Should You Stop LIC Pension Plans?
– You are paying Rs. 24,000 and Rs. 29,000 yearly. These are traditional plans.
– They offer low returns. Usually 4% to 5% only.
– You also pay Rs. 36,000 to postal life insurance. Total Rs. 89,000 per year.
– These policies are not wealth creators. They reduce liquidity and returns.
– You may surrender LIC pension and postal insurance after checking surrender value.
– Reinvest the money into SIPs through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) and trusted MFD.
– A CFP-guided regular plan will provide handholding, rebalancing and emotional coaching too.
? What Went Wrong in Option Trading?
– Options are high-risk instruments. They are not for wealth creation.
– Even professionals lose in options. No one can consistently win.
– Avoid trading in F&O, crypto, intraday. These destroy peace and capital.
– Instead, focus on long-term investing in equity mutual funds.
– Recovery will not be instant. But it will surely happen over time.
? Strengths in Your Investment Style
– You have good diversification in SIPs. You are investing Rs. 20,500/month approx.
– SIPs are spread across large cap, flexi-cap, midcap, smallcap, contra and quant.
– Mutual fund value has grown to Rs. 15.8 lakh. You have held some funds since 2014.
– Your behaviour shows long-term commitment. This is your biggest strength.
– Continue these SIPs. Increase them slowly every year by 10% if possible.
? Problems With Index Funds (As You Hold Axis Nifty 100 Fund)
– Index funds lack flexibility. They blindly copy the index.
– They cannot exit poor-performing companies early.
– They give average returns, not better returns.
– Index funds also crash during market fall. But recover slowly.
– Actively managed funds beat index funds by careful stock selection.
– A good fund manager backed by a CFP can help you outperform.
– It’s better to slowly exit Axis Nifty 100 and switch to actively managed regular funds.
? Problems With Direct Mutual Funds
– Direct funds don’t give you personalised guidance.
– No one tells you when to switch or rebalance.
– You are left alone during market volatility.
– This isolation leads to panic and poor decisions.
– With a CFP and MFD, you get strategy, advice and emotional support.
– Choose regular mutual funds through a trusted CFP for long-term stability.
? Action Plan to Build Rs. 2 to 3 Crore in 10 Years
– First, stop all trading activities completely. No intraday, no F&O, no crypto.
– Focus only on SIPs. Stay disciplined for 10 years.
– Increase SIP from Rs. 20,500/month to Rs. 30,000/month if possible.
– Step-up the SIPs by 10% each year. This helps you beat inflation.
– Keep all investments in equity mutual funds only. Avoid debt funds and hybrids.
– Avoid ULIPs, endowment policies, annuities, and insurance-based products.
– Once in a year, review your portfolio with a CFP and rebalance if needed.
– Stick to growth option. Don’t go for dividend payout.
– Reinvest lump sum from LIC surrender into well-diversified funds.
? Types of Funds That May Suit You
– Large cap for stability. Start with regular funds managed by reputed AMCs.
– Midcap for better returns. Volatile but good over 10 years.
– Small cap should be capped to 20% of SIP portfolio. Keep them for 10+ years.
– Flexi cap and contra funds are smart choices for flexibility.
– Avoid sectoral and thematic funds. Too risky for general investors.
– Quant and focused funds are okay, but don’t overdo.
– Avoid global and international funds unless goal is foreign education or travel.
? Additional Steps to Support Your Plan
– Keep Rs. 1.5 lakh in savings account or FD as emergency fund.
– Don’t touch your PPF and EPF. Let them grow till age 60.
– Use PPF for your son’s higher education or as retirement reserve.
– You can use the LIC and postal surrender amount for increasing SIPs.
– Your NPS is good. Keep investing Rs. 8,000 per month.
– At age 48, you may shift NPS to 100% equity allocation if comfortable.
– You may also consider one-time top-up in NPS before retirement.
? Tax-Efficient Strategy
– Mutual fund redemptions now have new tax rules.
– If you hold equity mutual funds for more than 1 year, gains above Rs. 1.25 lakh/year are taxed at 12.5%.
– If sold before 1 year, gains are taxed at 20%.
– So stay invested for minimum 10 years to avoid taxes and maximise growth.
– Use SWP method after 10 years to withdraw monthly.
? Emotional & Family Guidance
– Please speak openly to your spouse about the losses and current plan.
– Avoid hiding things. Teamwork brings better strength and peace.
– Talk to a psychologist or counsellor about the emotional burden.
– Spend more time with your son. He needs your time, not money.
– Avoid comparing your wealth with others. Everyone has a unique journey.
– Try meditation, yoga or journaling. It helps release stress and brings clarity.
? Finally
– You have a solid foundation in PPF, EPF, mutual funds and NPS.
– You made one mistake in trading. But your long-term plan can still win.
– No need to panic or lose hope. You are just 37. You have 20+ years of earning left.
– Use guidance of a Certified Financial Planner to track your SIP growth.
– Increase SIPs gradually. Review annually. Avoid all shortcuts.
– Your goal of Rs. 2–3 crore in 10 years is tough but achievable with focus.
– Stay away from direct funds, index funds and insurance-based products.
– Choose peace of mind and steady wealth growth over fast returns.
– Stay invested. Stay guided. Stay alive. Your best days are still ahead.
Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment