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Ramalingam Kalirajan has over 26 years of experience in MF distribution and wealth management. He holds an MBA in Finance from the University of Madras and is a CFP (Certified Financial Planner) credentialed professional. He is the Director of Holistic Investment, a Chennai-based AMFI-registered Mutual Fund Distribution (ARN-4188) and APMI-registered PMS Distribution firm (APRN07386), helping clients build long-term wealth through mutual funds and other investment solutions.... more
SANJAY Question by SANJAY on Sep 11, 2026
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I AM AGED ABOUT 56 AND HAVING A MEDICLAIM POLICY COVERING RS. 8.00 (EIGHT LAC) FOR ME AND MY SPOUSE WITH ORIENTAL INSURANCE COMPANY FROM LAST 10 YEARS, SOME ONE SUGGESTING ME FOR TOP UP PLAN FOR THE ABOVE POLICY, WILL IT BE HELPFUL. PLEASE ADVICE.

Ans: » Your Existing Health Cover

Maintaining the same mediclaim policy for around 10 years is a strong positive. Continuity can be very useful, especially as you are now 56.

Your present Rs. 8 lakh family cover may be adequate for smaller hospital expenses, but it may not be sufficient for a major hospitalisation in future.

So, considering your age, adding extra health cover is worth evaluating.

» Is a Top-up Helpful?

Yes. A top-up can be a cost-effective way to increase your overall health protection.

A top-up generally works after a specified deductible is crossed. For example, if the deductible is Rs. 8 lakh, the top-up starts paying only after eligible medical expenses cross that level.

Hence, your existing policy and the top-up can work together.

However, please do not select a top-up only because the premium is low.

» Top-up vs Super Top-up

This is an important point.

A normal top-up usually considers the deductible for each claim separately.

A super top-up generally considers the deductible based on total eligible medical expenses during the policy period.

For a family, a super top-up can often provide better practical protection.

Example: Suppose there are two hospitalisations in one year. The first costs Rs. 6 lakh and the second Rs. 5 lakh. A super top-up may consider the total eligible expenses, subject to its policy conditions.

So, compare both structures carefully.

» Do Not Disturb Your Existing Policy

Since you have maintained the existing policy for about 10 years, I would generally not suggest replacing it merely to get a larger cover.

Your existing policy may have valuable continuity benefits and accumulated waiting-period advantages.

First explore increasing protection through an additional top-up or super top-up.

» Important Conditions to Check

Before buying the additional cover, check these points carefully:

– Whether the deductible is individual or family based.

– Whether the deductible applies per claim or annually.

– Waiting periods for pre-existing diseases.

– Room-rent restrictions.

– Co-payment conditions.

– Disease-wise sub-limits.

– Coverage for daycare procedures.

– Cashless hospital network in your city.

– Restoration or refill benefits.

– Whether both you and your spouse are covered under the additional policy.

– Maximum entry age and renewal conditions.

– Whether the additional policy has its own waiting periods.

These conditions can matter more than a small difference in premium.

» Suggested Structure

At age 56, I would prefer a layered health-insurance structure rather than depending only on Rs. 8 lakh.

You can consider:

– Continue your existing Rs. 8 lakh policy.

– Add a suitable super top-up with a meaningful additional cover.

– Keep a separate emergency medical reserve for expenses not fully covered by insurance.

– Review the total family health protection every 2-3 years.

The exact additional cover should depend on your city, spouse age, health history, existing policy terms and premium affordability.

» Final Insights

Your existing 10-year policy is valuable. So, do not surrender or discontinue it without a proper comparison.

Adding a top-up can definitely strengthen your protection. However, I would specifically compare a super top-up also before taking the decision.

At 56, increasing health insurance protection now can give you much better peace of mind for the coming years. The earlier you arrange adequate cover, the better, because health insurance becomes more important as age increases.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

AMFI-Registered MFD – ARN 4188

www.holisticinvestment.in/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/
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i am having happy family floater policy from oriental insurance company for medical insurance.The policy amount is Rs.8,00,000/-This policy covers my family .In my family,myself(AGE 66years),my wife (Age 51 years) And my son and my son(AGE 21 years).Since 8 lakhs is not sufficient amount now a days for health coverage,I want to enhance the mediclaim policy amount.Since I am 66 years old,including my self in the same policy may increase premium amount.Please suggest me a good policy giving direction whether I should take 3 different policies individually for each one of us,or shall I make my wife and son a separate group.suggest me if I have take any separate policy for any type of critical illness like cancer?I was a smoke from my 22nd year to 50th year,i.e. from 1982 t0 2010.Since then I stopped smoking.But I was a heavy smoker smoking on average 20 cigarettes a day.If Iincrease our coverages to 15 lakhs rupees,is it sufficient.or any other suggestion.Similarly suggest a good policy and from whom I should take these policies.I can not enhance the existing policy as oriental insurance is not interested to enhance the policy amount because of certain claims which were there in this year and previous year. Thanks and Regards.
Ans: You have taken a very sensible step by reviewing your health insurance at age 66. Medical inflation in India is rising rapidly, and an Rs. 8 lakh family floater that was adequate a few years ago may not be sufficient today, especially when one family member is already in the senior citizen age bracket.

» Assessment of Your Current Cover

– Existing family floater cover of Rs. 8 lakh for four members is on the lower side today.

– A single major hospitalization such as cancer, cardiac surgery, organ-related illness or prolonged ICU stay can consume a large portion of the sum insured.

– Since you have already crossed age 65, health insurance planning should now focus on preserving coverage and increasing protection rather than looking only at premium costs.

» Family Floater or Separate Policies

– In your case, keeping all four members under one policy may not be the most efficient arrangement.

– Your age of 66 significantly influences the premium for the entire family.

– A better structure may be:

One separate senior citizen health policy for yourself.
One separate family floater policy for your wife and son.

– Since your son is already 21 years old, many insurers may eventually require him to move to an independent policy depending on policy conditions.

– This structure often provides better flexibility and may help optimise premium costs.

» How Much Coverage Should You Target?

– In my view, Rs. 15 lakh total coverage is better than Rs. 8 lakh, but may still be modest considering your age and medical inflation.

– Ideally, think in terms of a combination of:

A base health insurance policy.
A super top-up health insurance policy.

– This approach often provides significantly higher protection at a reasonable cost.

– For a family in your situation, total protection of Rs. 20 lakh to Rs. 30 lakh would provide greater comfort.

» Critical Illness Cover

– Critical illness insurance can be useful, but it should not replace health insurance.

– Health insurance pays hospital bills.

– Critical illness cover provides a lump sum amount after diagnosis of specified illnesses.

– At age 66, availability and premium will depend on underwriting and medical history.

– If available at a reasonable cost, a critical illness cover can be considered as an additional layer of protection.

– However, strengthening core health insurance should be the first priority.

» Impact of Past Smoking History

– You stopped smoking around 15 years ago, which is a positive factor.

– However, insurers will still ask about your smoking history.

– Always disclose your past smoking habit honestly.

– Non-disclosure can create claim-related complications later.

– Since you have remained tobacco-free for many years, some insurers may view the risk more favourably than an active smoker.

» What Features to Look For

When evaluating a new policy, pay attention to:

– High claim settlement service quality.

– Lifelong renewability.

– Reasonable waiting period conditions.

– Coverage for modern treatments and advanced procedures.

– Good network hospital availability in your city.

– Restoration or refill benefits.

– Super top-up options.

– No restrictive room rent limits.

» Before Moving From Existing Policy

– Since you already have a running policy with claim history, be careful before surrendering or discontinuing it.

– Check whether portability to another insurer is possible.

– Portability may help carry forward certain accumulated benefits and waiting period credits.

– Compare the terms carefully before taking a final decision.

» Finally

– I would not recommend keeping all four members under a single family floater at this stage.

– A separate senior citizen policy for yourself and a separate arrangement for your wife and son deserves serious consideration.

– Instead of looking only at Rs. 15 lakh cover, explore a combination of base cover plus super top-up cover so that total protection reaches a much more comfortable level.

– Your biggest objective should be ensuring that one major medical event does not disturb your retirement corpus and family finances.

– Health insurance at this stage is less about saving premium and more about protecting wealth accumulated over a lifetime.

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i am having happy family floater policy from oriental insurance company for medical insurance.The policy amount is Rs.8,00,000/-This policy covers my family .In my family,myself(AGE 66years),my wife (Age 51 years) And my son (AGE 21 years).Since 8 lakhs is not sufficient amount now a days for health coverage,I want to enhance the mediclaim policy amount.Since I am 66 years old,including my self in the same policy may increase premium amount.Please suggest me a good policy giving direction whether I should take 3 different policies individually for each one of us,or shall I make my wife and son a separate group.suggest me if I have take any separate policy for any type of critical illness like cancer?I was a smoke from my 22nd year to 50th year,i.e. from 1982 t0 2010.Since then I stopped smoking.But I was a heavy smoker smoking on average 20 cigarettes a day.If Iincrease our coverages to 15 lakhs rupees,is it sufficient.or any other suggestion.Similarly suggest a good policy and from whom I should take these policies.I can not enhance the existing policy as oriental insurance is not interested to enhance the policy amount because of certain claims which were there in this year and previous year. Thanks and Regards.
Ans: » Current position

Your concern is valid. At age 66, medical costs can rise sharply.

Your existing Rs.8 lakh cover should not be discontinued casually.

It has valuable continuity benefits.

Keep the existing Oriental Insurance policy active for now.
Do not cancel it before securing alternative coverage.
Your wife and son need not remain in the same floater.
Your age can significantly increase the floater premium.

» My preferred structure

I would consider a two-layer arrangement.

You: separate individual health policy.
Wife and son: separate family floater policy.
Existing Oriental policy: retain as an additional layer initially.

This structure gives better control over future premiums.

Your son is only 21, so his medical risk is relatively lower.

Your wife is 51, so a family floater can still work well.

For you, an individual policy is more suitable at age 66.

» Is Rs.15 lakh enough?

Rs.15 lakh is a reasonable minimum target today.

However, I would prefer higher overall protection.

Hospitalisation costs can become very high for major surgeries.

Cancer and prolonged treatment can also create large bills.

A practical structure could be:

Existing Rs.8 lakh policy as the base.
Separate individual cover for you.
Additional super top-up protection for the family.
Suitable cover for your wife and son through a floater.

This can provide stronger protection without a very high base premium.

» Why super top-up can help

A super top-up can provide additional protection above a chosen deductible.

It can be more economical than buying a very large base policy.

But please check the deductible carefully.

Also check whether the deductible works on annual aggregate claims.

This point is very important.

Do not buy a super top-up only because its premium looks cheap.

» Should you take separate policies?

For you, yes, I would seriously consider an individual policy.

For your wife and son, a floater can still work well.

There is no strong need to create three separate policies immediately.

The better structure depends on age and medical risk.

» About your previous smoking

You smoked heavily from age 22 to 50.

You have now stopped smoking for around 16 years.

That is a positive factor.

However, disclose your complete smoking history.

Do not hide it while purchasing a new policy.

The insurer may ask about smoking and previous medical conditions.

Your previous claims must also be disclosed correctly.

Non-disclosure can create problems during a future claim.

» Do you need a separate cancer policy?

I would not make a standalone critical illness policy your first priority.

First secure strong comprehensive health insurance.

Then consider critical illness protection if suitable.

Critical illness insurance generally pays a fixed amount after covered diagnosis.

It is different from regular health insurance.

Regular health insurance mainly covers eligible medical expenses.

Therefore, critical illness cover should be supplementary protection.

» Important conditions to check

Before selecting another policy, carefully check these points:

Room rent restrictions.
ICU restrictions.
Disease-wise sub-limits.
Co-payment requirements.
Pre-existing disease waiting period.
Specific disease waiting periods.
Maximum entry age.
Lifetime renewal availability.
Restoration benefit.
Day-care treatment coverage.
Non-medical expense coverage.
Claim settlement process.
Cashless hospital network.
Premium increases with age.

Avoid policies with heavy sub-limits.

Also be careful with compulsory co-payment at your age.

A lower premium may come with higher out-of-pocket expenses.

» What about portability?

Your existing policy has considerable value because of its continuity.

Health insurance portability can preserve certain accrued continuity benefits.

However, the new insurer will still perform medical underwriting.

Additional coverage can also have applicable waiting periods.

Therefore, do not surrender your existing policy casually.

» One important strategy

Since Oriental Insurance has declined enhancement, do not focus only on enhancement.

Instead, explore a fresh policy alongside the existing policy.

Your existing Rs.8 lakh cover can remain useful.

The new policy can provide additional protection.

This may be better than replacing the existing policy completely.

» What I would do in your case

My preference would be:

Continue the existing Rs.8 lakh Oriental policy.
Take a separate individual policy for yourself.
Take a separate family floater for your wife and son.
Add a suitable super top-up after checking conditions.
Consider critical illness protection separately.
Review the complete structure every year.

At age 66, continuity is extremely valuable.

Therefore, replacement should happen only after careful underwriting.

» One more important point

Because you mentioned previous claims, insurers may scrutinise your medical history.

Please obtain your complete claim history and current policy wording.

Also collect your recent medical reports.

This will help in getting accurate underwriting decisions.

Do not make decisions only from premium quotations.

» Final Insights

Your Rs.8 lakh cover should not be considered useless.

It is an important foundation because of its continuity.

Your next objective should be additional protection.

I would consider Rs.15 lakh as the minimum overall base protection.

However, I would prefer larger total protection through a super top-up.

For your age, policy conditions matter more than the cheapest premium.

For your wife and son, a floater can remain practical.

For yourself, an individual cover deserves serious consideration.

The final insurer should be selected after comparing policy wording.

Also compare exclusions, co-pay, waiting periods and underwriting.

Best Regards,

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AMFI-Registered MFD – ARN 4188

www.holisticinvestment.in/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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You really need to understand that a peaceful mind is essential for effective learning. When you are constantly exposed to shouting, abusive language and emotional stress, it becomes difficult to concentrate, regardless of how determined you are to succeed. So please don't blame yourself for struggling with your studies. You are trying to focus on your future while simultaneously dealing with a very distressing situation at home.
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I studied in an English-medium school, but during school and college most of my friends and even teachers were more comfortable speaking Hindi, so that became my natural communication language. Now after many years, I work in an office where English is used much more regularly. I can understand English and I can write basic things, but when I have to speak suddenly, I sometimes struggle to find the right words. Even for a simple question to a colleague, I first rehearse the sentence in my mind two or three times before saying it. If someone suddenly asks me something in English, I sometimes fumble even though I know what I want to say. I also depend quite a lot on ChatGPT to help me frame emails, messages and sometimes even replies because I worry about making grammar mistakes or sounding less professional. Recently, a new girl joined our office who speaks very confidently in English and seems more comfortable talking to people who are also very fluent or part of what feels like an ‘elite’ group. She does speak with us, but not as much, and sometimes I become more conscious about my own English when I see how naturally she communicates. I know everyone has a different communication style, but this has made me wonder whether my lack of fluency is affecting how people perceive me at work. How can I improve my spoken English and workplace communication so that I can speak spontaneously and confidently without mentally preparing every sentence first?
Ans: Hi!!!
First of all, you need to understand that being fluent in English does not necessarily mean being a good communicator. Communication is about how effectively you express your thoughts, ideas and feelings, and not merely about the language you speak.
From what you have shared, I feel your problem is not that you don't know English, but that you have become conscious of your English. The more you worry about making grammatical mistakes or using the wrong words, the more you hold yourself back. And the more you hold yourself back, the less opportunity you give yourself to become fluent.
You really need to ask yourself this question: Am I more concerned about communicating my thoughts, or about how people will judge my English? The moment you start worrying about the latter, you shift your focus from what you want to say to how you should say it. That is where the hesitation begins.
Remember, you don't have to speak perfect English to communicate confidently. You need to be clear, comfortable and willing to express yourself. Even people who speak English very fluently make grammatical mistakes, fumble for words and struggle to articulate their thoughts at times. It is perfectly normal!
So, what do you need to do?
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So, what do you need to do?
Start speaking in English more often, even when you know your sentences may not be perfect. Don't rehearse every sentence in your mind before speaking. Allow yourself to think and speak at the same time. Initially, you may fumble, pause or use simpler words, but that is absolutely fine. Fluency comes with practice, not with the constant fear of making mistakes.
Make English a part of your everyday life. Speak to your colleagues in English, participate in conversations, share your opinions in meetings and practise expressing your thoughts aloud. Read aloud, listen to good English speakers and try summarising what you have read or heard in your own words. These small, consistent efforts will help you develop greater spontaneity and confidence.
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You have already identified what you need to improve, and that is the first step towards change. Now, give yourself the opportunity to work on it without being overly critical of yourself.
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*Being assertive does not mean being aggressive or disrespectful* It means expressing your thoughts and feelings confidently and respectfully!

If you hesitate to disagree, consider whether you fear judgment, offending the person, or challenging their authority! Identifying the cause can help you address it. Respecting someone’s position does not require agreeing with every opinion; your perspective may reveal something they have overlooked.

When you have a concern, pause, organise your thoughts, and state them clearly. For example: *“I understand your approach\. However, I have a concern we may want to consider before proceeding.”” You can be polite without being apologetic and respectful without being submissive.

Practise expressing your views in smaller situations. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but confidence will grow with experience.Trust your judgement and speak up when your input matters. You can disagree with someone without disrespecting them—that is true assertiveness!

Remember assertiveness is about respecting yourself and the other person equally! Understanding that you have as much right to express your opinion as the other person .

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I’m facing a small but recurring issue with my wife when it comes to money. I’m naturally more of a saving person—I like keeping some money aside for future expenses, emergencies, children’s needs and other things that may come up unexpectedly. My wife, on the other hand, feels that if we can comfortably afford something now, there is no point in always postponing it just to save more. It’s not that either of us is irresponsible with money, and thankfully we don’t have any major financial problems, but this difference in our thinking keeps coming up every few weeks. Sometimes it starts with something as simple as buying something for the house or planning a holiday and then turns into a discussion about our overall spending habits. I don’t want her to feel that I’m controlling how she spends her money, and at the same time, I don’t want to feel guilty for wanting to save. How can couples with very different financial habits find a middle ground and decide together how much to spend, save and keep aside for the future without making money become a regular source of tension in the marriage?
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You both have different habits and different thinking in terms of financial management and I think both are correct. The only thing with which the things can be sorted out is that you both sit and discuss and mutually come to a specific percentage of income which should be saved and which should be kept aside for holidays or for home fund. This way you both will clearly know and then you will not have problem in spending or saving.
I hope this solves your problem.
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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 28, 2026
Relationship
I’m a little confused about how I should handle situations involving my husband and his parents. Whenever they have an argument or disagreement, I usually prefer to stay quiet because I feel that if I get involved, the situation could become even more complicated. I don’t want his parents to feel that I’m trying to create a distance between them, and I also don’t want to say something in the heat of the moment that I may regret later. But after the argument is over, my husband sometimes tells me that he expected me to support him because I’m his wife. From my point of view, supporting him doesn’t necessarily mean agreeing with him or taking his side every time, especially when I don’t know the complete context of their disagreement. At the same time, I can understand why he may feel hurt if he thinks I’m simply standing by and watching when he needs me. How should to handle these situations when disagreements with in-laws keep creating tension in the marriage? Is there a healthy way for a spouse to show support without automatically taking sides or disrespecting the other family members?
Ans: Hello mam. I hope you are in good health.
Well, coming to your question, you can definitely take your partner's side by understanding the things on which the disagreements happen. For example you disagree with your partner at a specific point of time, in public you should try to calm the situation and take his side if possible but after that in private you can share your opinion and correct him if he is wrong somewhere. This way he ll feel that yes you support him but on the other hand he ll also realize that where he went wrong. Probably the situations will get better with this.
I really appreciate your nature that you don't want to disrespect other family members. Its very good and shows your upbringing and your intent of maintaining relationships.
Keep it up...take care !!

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Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |11482 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Oct 08, 2026

Money
Hi ..I have registered a app called finsolalgo They told I got allocation for ipo which I kept 1 lac prev but they asked I need to pay 6lac ...which I couldn't pay...now they blocked my one lac saying as I didn't pay full allocation my amount blocked for 3 months but am not getting fater 3 months who will release my funds and all am feeling bad to believe them...now wat should I do ...finsolalgo is this company registered with sebi when I asked they told s we registered we have ruled and regulations ...that's y blocked like that ..wat should I do now
Ans: It is good that you have stopped and are checking this before paying another Rs.6 lakh.

Based on what you have described, I would be very cautious. The process you were told about does not look like the normal IPO application process.

» How a genuine IPO application normally works

In a normal IPO, the application money is blocked in your own bank account through ASBA or an approved UPI mandate.

If shares are allotted, the required amount is debited.

The remaining blocked amount is released after the allotment process. SEBI describes this process clearly.

A company or app normally cannot simply say:

– You paid Rs.1 lakh.

– You received an allocation of Rs.7 lakh.

– You must arrange another Rs.6 lakh.

– Otherwise your original Rs.1 lakh will remain blocked for 3 months.

That is a major point requiring verification.

» About the Rs.1 lakh being blocked

First check where exactly the Rs.1 lakh is blocked.

If it is genuinely blocked in your own bank account under an IPO ASBA/UPI mandate, contact your bank immediately and ask:

– Who has placed the mandate?

– What is the IPO name?

– Who is the sponsor bank?

– What is the application number?

– What is the registrar's name?

– What is the UPI mandate reference?

Do not depend only on what the FinsolAlgo app or its representatives are telling you.

If the money was actually transferred to a bank account controlled by the app/company/person, the situation is more serious. Do not send the additional Rs.6 lakh merely to release the earlier Rs.1 lakh.

» Is FinsolAlgo SEBI registered?

I checked the SEBI recognised-intermediary information available currently.

I could not verify a SEBI registration under the name "FinsolAlgo" from the information available to me.

This does not by itself prove that the entity is fraudulent. The legal entity name may be different from the app or trade name.

So ask them for:

– Exact legal company name.

– SEBI registration number.

– Category of SEBI registration.

– Registered office address.

– Name of the stock broker/intermediary handling the IPO application.

Then independently verify these details on SEBI's recognised intermediary records. SEBI maintains a searchable list of registered intermediaries.

Do not accept a statement such as "we are SEBI registered and we have our own rules" as proof.

» What you should do now

I would suggest these steps in this order:

– Do NOT pay the additional Rs.6 lakh.

– Do NOT pay any "release fee", "penalty", "tax", "processing charge" or similar amount.

– Do NOT share your OTP, UPI PIN, bank password or other banking credentials.

– Take screenshots of the entire conversation with FinsolAlgo.

– Save the payment receipt for the Rs.1 lakh.

– Save the IPO allocation message and all documents they provided.

– Contact your bank directly through its official customer-care channel.

– Ask the bank whether there is actually an IPO-related ASBA/UPI block on your Rs.1 lakh.

– If the bank confirms that no genuine IPO mandate exists, immediately inform the bank that you suspect an unauthorised or potentially fraudulent transaction.

– If money has already gone to another bank account, inform your bank immediately and ask about the appropriate fraud-reporting process.

» Do not wait for three months

I would not simply wait for three months based on their verbal assurance.

If this is a genuine IPO, there should be proper documentation and an identifiable IPO process.

There should also be a recognised intermediary, sponsor bank, registrar and application details.

The normal IPO process does not depend merely on an app telling you that your money will be released after three months. SEBI's own explanation says that funds are blocked for the IPO process and are subsequently debited or unblocked based on allotment.

» My assessment

The requirement to arrange another Rs.6 lakh after supposedly getting a Rs.7 lakh allocation is the biggest concern here.

Please do not try to recover the Rs.1 lakh by paying another Rs.6 lakh.

That can increase your exposure substantially.

Your immediate priority should be to establish where the Rs.1 lakh actually sits and whether there is a genuine IPO mandate.

If you share the exact message received from FinsolAlgo about the Rs.7 lakh allocation and the Rs.6 lakh payment, I can examine the wording and tell you which parts look normal and which parts are red flags.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
AMFI-Registered MFD – ARN 4188

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramalingamcfp/

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Dr Nagarajan J S K   |3317 Answers  |Ask -

NEET, Medical, Pharmacy Careers - Answered on Oct 08, 2026

Career
I am a student and NEET aspirant. I appeared for Class 10 in 2024 and passed Class 10 in 2024. I completed and passed Class 12 in 2026. I also appeared for NEET (UG) 2026, including the re-examination, but unfortunately I could not qualify for admission. My Class 12 marks are relatively low, although I have successfully passed Class 12 in 2026. Therefore, I am considering appearing for the Class 12 Improvement Examination in 2027 to improve my marks. I would like to kindly ask for clarification regarding the following: Since I have already passed Class 12 in 2026, am I eligible to appear for the Class 12 Improvement Examination in 2027? If I improve my Class 12 marks in 2027, will I remain eligible to appear for NEET (UG) 2027? Will appearing for the Class 12 Improvement Examination in 2027 create any issue during NEET counselling or MBBS admission if I qualify NEET 2027? Will my one-year gap after Class 12 (2026–2027), due to preparing for NEET, cause any problem in NEET eligibility or during MBBS admission? If improvement is permitted, which Class 12 marks/marksheet would be considered for NEET 2027 eligibility and admission?
Ans: HI ALAM,
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* ASPIRANTS CAN PRESENT DIFFERENT BOARD EXAM MARK SHEETS.

Due to these factors, the number of NEET aspirants is higher compared to other exams.

If you have the required marks to appear for NEET, you can proceed with your preparation. As you mentioned that your HSC marks are low (specifics not disclosed), focus on strengthening your weak subjects to help you achieve your goal. Simply aiming for improvement is not enough; you need to make significant progress.

You are planning to take the improvement exam for your marks. While preparing for this, it is essential to enhance your understanding of the subjects that are also relevant for NEET. There is a possibility that you might achieve the same level of marks you previously obtained in HSC if you do not make substantial improvements. Therefore, concentrate on honing the subjects necessary for NEET as well.

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