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Pushpa R |42 Answers |Ask -Follow

Yoga, Mindfulness Expert - Answered on Jan 08, 2025

Pushpa R is the founder of Radiant Yoga Vibes.
In the last 10 years, she has trained over 400 people in yoga and counselled many others at corporate events.
She holds a master of science degree in yoga for human excellence from Bharathidasan University, Trichy.
Pushpa specialises in meditation, yoga for wellness and mindfulness.... more

Question by Akshay on Jan 03, 2025Hindi

Health

Mam I am having insomania an anxious problem from last 3 years I am taking medicine for anxiety and insomnia but when I stop them the cycle starts again what to do mam

Ans: Dealing with insomnia and anxiety can feel overwhelming, especially when it seems to return after stopping medicines. Yoga and meditation can help you naturally calm your mind and improve your sleep over time.

Here’s what you can try:

Breathing Practices (Pranayama): Start with deep, slow breathing exercises like “Anulom Vilom” (alternate nostril breathing) for 5-10 minutes daily. This balances your nervous system and reduces anxiety.

Gentle Yoga Poses: Practice simple poses like Child’s Pose, Legs-Up-The-Wall Pose, and Butterfly Pose in the evening. These poses relax the body and prepare it for sleep.

Bedtime Meditation: Try a guided meditation or mindfulness practice before sleeping. It helps shift your focus away from anxious thoughts.

Consistent Routine: Go to bed and wake up at the same time daily. Avoid screens an hour before sleep and try reading or listening to calming music instead.

It’s important to learn these techniques with proper guidance. A yoga or meditation coach can design a practice that supports your specific needs. Over time, this consistent practice can help you reduce reliance on medication.

R. Pushpa, M.Sc (Yoga)
Online Yoga & Meditation Coach
Radiant YogaVibes
https://www.instagram.com/pushpa_radiantyogavibes/

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Ans: Sleep is very important for physiological system to function well. To have certain strict discipline with respect to sleep as hygienic practices is very important
No media or mind stimulating activities after 7 pm unwind from worldly activities from 8 pm
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Hello sir, I am 35yo with 2 (4yo, 1yo) children. Can I retire now, with following corpus: mutual fund and stocks : 3.5 crore, lands: 50 lakh, PF&PPF: 80 lakh, FD: 25 lakh, SGB &Gold:50 lakh. Currently doesn't own any house. Monthly expense is around 1 lakh.

Ans: Your corpus and monthly expenses show a solid foundation. Retirement at 35, however, requires careful assessment. Let’s analyse your situation step by step.

Current Financial Assets and Allocations

Mutual Funds and Stocks: Rs 3.5 crore

This is a significant part of your corpus. Equity investments offer high growth potential.

Lands: Rs 50 lakh

Real estate investments are illiquid. Consider them only for long-term growth or inheritance.

PF and PPF: Rs 80 lakh

These provide stability and assured returns. These are good for meeting long-term goals.

Fixed Deposit: Rs 25 lakh

FDs are low-risk and ensure liquidity. This is beneficial for emergencies.

SGB and Gold: Rs 50 lakh

Gold is a strong hedge against inflation. It also offers diversification.

Monthly Expense Analysis

Your monthly expense of Rs 1 lakh equates to Rs 12 lakh annually.

Accounting for inflation, this expense will grow over time. Planning for this is crucial.

Core Observations

Your total corpus is Rs 5.55 crore. This is substantial for your age.

Inflation and rising expenses over time will impact your corpus.

Without a house, rent becomes a recurring expense. Factor this into your calculations.

You have no guaranteed income sources post-retirement.

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Consider buying a house if feasible. Owning a house ensures stability and reduces rent.

Do not invest excessively in real estate as it is illiquid.

Corpus Utilisation

Avoid over-reliance on equity investments for withdrawals. Equity is volatile in the short term.

Use a mix of debt and equity for regular withdrawals.

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Both are major financial goals. Plan dedicated investments for these.

Use long-term instruments for education and marriage funds.

Emergency Fund

Maintain an emergency fund of at least 12 months of expenses.

Keep it in liquid funds or high-yield savings accounts.

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Mutual Fund Investments

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My age is 41 years. I have two kids. Nurturing n looking after them n whole home single handedly. I am a visiting faculty in a institute . Earns very nominal earning. My husband hits me, taunts me and use very arrogant words to me like tumhe belt se maarunga n similar many worst words. His family has been always unsupportive to me . Now after 16 years of marriage, he still wants me to please his mother n other family. Which I completely avoid as they have never supported me and always boycotted me. His real brother is in politics and all family members including his cousins do follow him and boycotted me n husband. Now for everything my husband blames me and says if you gave pleased them, all might have good. But inspite of pleasing them a lot , they are like treating me like I am a stranger. I handle n manage everything still by the end of the day.... everything is in vain. Husband says...What you did for home? I will never ever give my money to you and so on. I am literally in trouble thoughts, what to do ? I even many times thought to end my life but my kids are the reason I continuously bears everything. Please suggest what shall I do.

Ans: it's important to acknowledge that no one deserves to be treated with such disrespect and abuse. Your feelings of isolation and frustration are valid. It can feel overwhelming when the people who should support you instead make you feel like an outsider.

In situations like this, it’s crucial to find support outside the immediate family. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or support groups who can offer you emotional strength and practical advice. Consider speaking with a counselor or therapist who can help you navigate these complex emotions and provide strategies for dealing with the abuse and stress.

You’ve shown immense resilience, especially for your children. They need you to be strong, and seeking help is a vital step in preserving your mental and emotional well-being. Remember, prioritizing your health is not selfish; it’s necessary for you and your children’s future.

Also, explore any legal avenues or resources available for individuals in abusive relationships. Local support organizations, legal aid, or women’s shelters can provide advice and assistance if you decide that leaving the relationship is the best option for your safety and well-being.

You have already shown great courage by managing so much on your own. Continue to seek out support and know that you are not alone in this journey. There are people and resources willing to help you find a path to a healthier and more secure life.

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What is your current monthly income?

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Remember the age old saying to cut your cloth according to your size.

Stop using credit cards since it cultivates tendency of reckless spending in the absence of rigorous discipline.

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