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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 23, 2024Hindi
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I graduated in 2022 with a computer science degree from a mediocre college where the teachers couldn’t speak English fluently. They taught us primarily through blackboard learning, rote memorization, and notes, often asking predictable questions from previous exams. Due to COVID disruptions and online learning, I struggled to concentrate on my studies. Despite trying to learn programming through courses, I couldn’t become proficient and failed to secure a job through campus placements. Up to class 5, I was a malnourished and stunted child, often fainting. I’ve read that malnutrition and stunting can limit cognitive intelligence and lead to poor learning ability and capacity. Unfortunately, I did not receive a quality education in school as my family couldn’t afford better options, so I attended an unrecognized school up to class 8. I only managed to clear the college entrance exam through rote learning and procedural knowledge of mathematics. As an adult, I am stunted (5 ft), which makes me ineligible for many jobs, and I have weak vocal cords, making presentations difficult. I tried to take government job exams, but my memory suffered due to COVID. I don’t know what to do or how to get a job and what to learn. I struggle to retain most information. Am I completely helpless? I have a “Corona Degree” (passed without exams). Will this degree hold weight in the future? What should I pursue to become skilled enough to get any job?

Ans: For the past two years, from 2022 to 2024, you haven't said what you've been doing. I could tell right away from your question that you have great written skills. To begin, please stop thinking badly about yourself and the things around you. Second, you find your interests for your career, make a list of them, and try to get better at what you do. Third, make a LinkedIn profile and use Job Alerts to find out more about the jobs you're interested in. Try getting better over time. Take part in yoga, meditation, and other physical exercises. Wait your turn. Have faith in yourself. You will do well in your job and life. I hope you have a wonderful future.

All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future.

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I graduated in 2022 with computer science degree from mediocre college where teachers can't themselves speak in English but teach us through only black board learning , rote learning and notes, ask predictable and same set of questions which were asked in the last year exam because of COVID disruption and online learning I can't concentrate on my study and even though I tried to learn programming through courses, but I couldn't become proficient in them and i can't get a job because through campus placement. I was malnourished and stunted child and I have read that malnutrition and stunting limits congitive intelligence and leads to poor learning ability , learning capacity and unfortunately, I did not get quality education in school as my family is not comfortably well off so I attended unrecognised school upto class 8. I only managed to clear entrance exam of college through rote learning and procedural knowledge of mathematics. I am stunted adult (5.ft) and weak vocal cords so I dread giving presentation. Is there any hope for me . I try to take government job exam but my memory took a hit because of COVID. I don't know what to do and how to get a job and what to learn. I can't retain most of information. Am I helpless? I got corona degree : Passed Without Exam: Will ‘Corona Degree’ Hold Weight In Future?
Ans: Hi!!
You seem to me like a person who is capable of doing much more... look at you... the way you have written this whole question so clearly, explaining your predicaments in very good English, is a proof of your capability.
Now young adult... this is what I want from you-
1. you have come this far...congratulations....bad school you said, malnourished you said, COVID degree you said...I just want you to stop complaining
2. you are really good, resilient....in spite of all the circumstances you narrated so far, none of them were in your control, yet here you are A Computer Science graduate, can you not see that you are good, you rise even when life has not been so fair. Believe in yourself my friend
3. you take heart in what Buddha said, "you are what you think", start by changing your vocabulary, start thinking positively about everything ... 5 ft is good height, check how tall was Napoleon Bonaparte.... you are as tall as you think. Change what you can, accept what you can't change, and be smart enough to know the difference. Pls do not cry about what you can't change- your height, corona, they are all not in your control at all... accept and move forward pls
4.if you think Corona degree is not good enough, then explore other options, see if you can earn another certificate course that will help you in your job search... this time choose wisely
5. ask yourself, "what is that I want my life to look like" and start working towards it, one step at a time.
6. for focus and memory to improve I totally rely on Yoga and Meditation, it can totally help you too...give it a shot

With all my suggestions above, what I am trying to tell you is that, " you are a very smart kid", start looking for solutions now, enough of crying over spilt milk!!

All the best... take all actions today, with one leg in the future!! God created you, love your self!!

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